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[FloridaGirl21]

ladies, hope everyone is well! can't believe how far along some of you are now.. Happy 17 weeks hopeful! (that went fast, for me anyway!)

I'm 12 weeks today! I can't believe it's finally here. I know babies are okay because I listen to HBs often and I feel changes in my tummy..

I got my bfp at 3w1d, so it's been a long 9 weeks.. Just feels surreal

Hope everyone has a great week!

 

[HappyAuntie]

Jenny, I've been in weekly counseling for about a year now for rpl and infertility, and it's the best thing I've ever done for myself. Having the right relationship with the counselor is really crucial, though - you have to feel comfortable opening up to him/her. Don't expect that to happen right away, but if you don't feel comfortable after two or three sessions, try a different counselor - that guy you saw when you were 19 was clearly not right for you. The first woman I saw literally told me I should just get over my miscarriages, so I fired her - no sh*t woman, if I could do that I wouldn't need you!! The second one I tried was a guy who told me (and I quote) that lots of people get pregnant when they just stop trying so hard. Fired him, too - clearly he didn't know the first thing about infertility and had no business accepting new clients seeking help for infertility. But the third one I tried is amazing, and I quite literally would have given up ttc ages ago if I weren't seeing her regularly. She specializes in infertility counseling, so that helps immensely. She actually started her career as an IVF nurse and saw a great need for emotional support for couples going through IVF, so she went back to school to become a counselor. I love her. She makes me feel normal. She makes me feel ok. She's helped us make decisions regarding treatments by helping us determine what it is we really want. DH comes with me about once/month, but I am there every week. I literally could not get through this without her. I encourage everyone who's been through rpl to at least give it a shot.

 

[heart tree]

OMFG!!! I am so so so so happy for Miss Happy Auntie!!! Eeeek! Congrats my gorgeous friend! I had a sneaking suspicion that pink spotting was IB but I held that hope to myself since you were so upset yesterday. Wow wow wow!!!!! Best way to wake up!

Ok now I can go read everything else.

 

[ttclou25]

happy 12 weeks florida!

 

[Mom2mmcjg]

You made it Florida! Congratulations!

 

[bumpyplease]

congrats on getting to 12 weeks with those lovely twinnies florida! are you starting to get a bump with 2 in there?

 

[jenny25]

Thank you so much for your input the woman I'm going to see is based at the maternity dept in another hospital and I've been told she is great I guess my problem is worrying that I have had so many problems with having a baby with my husband I want to tell you guys my exact problem but I'm kinda nervous if you get me cause I want people too really understand not a lot of people know very few Infact xx

 

[hopeful23456]

happy 12 weeks florida! yeah, the time flies by which is awesome. are you doing NT scans? if you aren't that's ok, you are still young

morning heart! if you want to update the first page, i have a scan march 1 and the scan on march 8 is my anatomy scan (which hopefully confirms what they already think they are)

 

[Embo78]

Heart can you change my scan to Thursday 23rd. Just been told the sonographer has collapsed and been rushed into hospital.
Feel disappointed but it can't be helped. I hope the woman is ok.

 

[3xscharmer]

Jenny - good luck in therapy, I have considered it...and been threatend with it too lol! They think I'm crazy (they being my DH)! Good for you though, gonna be nice to let stuff out I'm sure!

Thanks yall for replying to my sex question, sometimes it worries me, but I have had no sex during some of my pregnancies and it did not help! So this time, I'm going to just do it when I feel like it...once or twice a week anyway lol! With DD, even though we only had sex once a week, I had ALOT of dream orgasms lol!! loved it...wonder if it'll happen this time too?? Anyone else have those??

 

[HappyAuntie]

Thank you so much for your input the woman I'm going to see is based at the maternity dept in another hospital and I've been told she is great I guess my problem is worrying that I have had so many problems with having a baby with my husband I want to tell you guys my exact problem but I'm kinda nervous if you get me cause I want people too really understand not a lot of people know very few Infact xx

If she's based in a maternity ward, FX'd she'll be really compassionate and good for you. If you're nervous about sharing your exact problem, she's the perfect person to open up to about it - she's bound by confidentiality laws, and I'm sure she's heard everything before (I think most medical professionals aren't shocked by anything, tbh)... it might turn out your problem is more common than you think.

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Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! I had a little giggle at your reaction, Hearty. I'll hear back about my beta and P4 this afternoon, then I just have to wait until Thursday for the next set... one day at a time, one day at a time... I am PAL normal, I am PAL normal....

 

[hopeful23456]

3x - guilty of those dreams freaks me out when i wake up, don't want that much moving around! LOL

 

[Neversaynever]

HA...you have slotted right in as usual...go girl with your PAL normal and yup....you are

XxX

 

[heart tree]

On the bus to work now and there's so much I want to comment on. Not sure I'll remember it all.

Happy onion 17 weeks Hopeful! I know the anatomy scan is on the front page for you. I'll add March 1 too.

Happy 12 weeks Florida! What a milestone!

Bumpy I've read that if you are going to miscarry, the progesterone won't stop it. It might stop some spotting, but not full on bleeding. Can't wait for your results on Thursday.

3x I had sex after I got to 14 weeks. I was on pelvic rest for a blood clot in my uterus and had to make sure it was gone. I've done it twice but am too scared to have an orgasm. My husband keeps asking me when I'll be ready to have one. It's annoying me actually. He is so sex starved right now but I don't really care. LOL.

HA my joy for you goes without saying.

Embo so sorry that happened! I'll update the front page. You and I will have our scans on the same day now.

Jen if you have a good counselor, that person isn't going to let you release everything without having a way of reigning it back in. A goo counselor only let's their clients go so far. As a therapist myself, I won't allow my clients to get flooded with emotion and then let them leave the session without some way to contain some of that emotion. It's not good to let people do that. Try to trust your counselor if you decide you like her. She should be skilled at keeping you grounded while you talk about your feelings.

I won't judge you for anything you share on this site. It's up to you if you feel safe enough sharing in public. Don't forget that anyone can read this thread though. Make sure you feel safe sharing publically. I already know some things about your life from the Disco thread. You can always PM me or others you feel safe with if you need to share something about your relationship.

Damn, my bus is at the terminal now. Have to go. I'll try to log in at work. Hi to everyone else! Sorry if I missed anyone.

 

[jenny25]

Thank you so much for everything I don't feel ready to make it fully public cause I know it will open up a can of worms but I will see how I get on with her and take it from there xx

 

[croydongirl]

Morning girls,
Puppy I am so sorry you are still feeling so rough. I hope that your tablets start giving you some relief soon.
Jenny - I was in counselling with the most amazing guy for about 4 years, and he was so great at helping me identify some of the roots of my anxiety issues. I also think that pregnancy has had an effect on that for me. I have not been on medication for anxiety for about 10 years but since I came off my steroids which were blocking my cortisol I have felt much more anxiety. I am not sure if it is just adjusting to the hormone being in my system again or if I need to do something more about it. I am calling my doc today to see if I could go back on the steroids at a low dose or if I should consider anti-anxiety medication. I really don't want to do that but I want to do what is best for the baby and I know that being stressed and anxious is NOT good.

It is so nasty and wet here today, not inspiring me to get up and going but I have to! I have a test tomorrow so I need to go to the review class today if I want to stand a chance at passing it.

Ok seriously, I have to get up - I need to be on a bus in a half hour! ha ha nothing like leaving things until the last minute, i am still in my PJ's!

 

[jenny25]

Croy I've been on and off meds for years I've not been on anti depressants since 2010 I believe that's what caused the defect in my last pregnancy I don't know if she will cover all aspects of my issues or if it's just pregnancy related ones I hope I can speak about all the aspects because I think it's all combined x

 

[HappyAuntie]

I'm on wellbutrin for depression and buspar for anxiety. I started both after my 2nd mc and they've made a huge difference for me. I probably should have started them long before I did. Taking them during pregnancy is a very personal choice... for me, it came down to the fact that untreated depression has known adverse effects on pregnancy and fetal development, and bajillions of women have taken anti-d's during pregnancy without complications. My RE was all in favor of me starting them, and he said he wishes more of his patients would address the emotional aspects of all this. They put me on these two meds because they've been around for generations, so more is known about their use during pregnancy than what is known about newer drugs. But like I said, it's an extremely personal choice... I can completely understand choosing not to take them.


My nurse just called, and my hCG is good at 41. She was really pleased, given that it's two days earlier than they would normally do a beta after IVF. My progesterone is a little low, though, at 7.5. She thinks the dr will probably increase my prometrium dose. I can't say that doesn't have me a little worried, but for now I am still pregnant.

 

[jenny25]

That's great news about your beta xxx


That's true when it comes to anti depressants I was on paroxotine which helps me so much but it's advised that that one is not taken during pregnancy x

 

[Pretty Please]

Florida - congrats on 12 weeks woo hoo !!!

Jenny - yeah I'd get everything out in the open - it's bound to be stressing u and mentally draining !!! Bet u will feel like weight lifted once u start talking

Tracie - your baby is feeding well ! I had it 1 hour 20 min or less all way through the night I was a walking zombie for 4 months got told as he was tiny smaller Tummy . 3
hours is great !!!! Which bit of izzy u prefer when she was tiny or when she is growing older and more personality ? Newborns melt your heart

3x I have had no sexual dreams, I have no sex suppose last time I had low lying placenta or placenta previa or something like that and sex was no by consultant as was exercise basically rest so think I'm playing safe !!! Funny when ttc every night in window and then once filled with baby I'm full in there if u know what I mean !!! Sex goes off my agenda

Aunty congratulations !!!! Bet u r happy with your numbers

Nsn - jet lag - ooo have u been on hols ?

Bumpy - I'm on 400 mg cyclojest but no spotting think if u r going to mc there is nothing we can do. I'm glad u r feeling happy with your bubba - some times I think u know if u r going to carry or if going to mc as something doesn't feel right if u know what I mean. Fingers xed 4 u I'm glad u feel calm xxxxx

Lou - any more planning on your home birth ?

Hopefully - half way wow - getting more excited ?

Croyden good luck in your exam

Pancake day - in the olden days is where all the rich stuff in the house eg eggs flour butter etc was eaten together and before 40 days of lent ! 40 days supposed to be 40 days and Night jesus spent in desert It's a treat !!!! All supermarkets big into selling pancake stuff !!!! I had a pizza instead melted cheese and vegi yum .

Xxxxx