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[Mom2mmcjg]

mom - I have the same pet peeve about boy names becoming girl names. I love Elliot and Avery for our son. And both of them have been popular for girls more recently! I think they are still boy enough for us to use, in fact, I LOVE Avery at the moment, but I don't want hi to be made fun of. I hope that in this day and age (especially where I live) parents are giving their kids all kind of crazy made up names so it would be hard to make fun of anyone's names!

That is so true. I just don't understand why people have to make up crazy names and spellings for their kids. Makes life hard. But you would think it would cut down on the name calling.

 

[Mom2mmcjg]

Ok the one that is really bothering me is Deceased. WTF? No way anyone would name their child that!

My niece is named Jaden and no one had that name when she was born. All of a sudden it's become a popular boys name.

Did you guys see the video of Alicia Silverstone chewing her food and feeding it to her child like a bird? That was a little too much for me and I'm a pretty liberal person. I'm going to try and find the video.

I know, when I named my son I had never heard the name Jadon before, now its everywhere! I did see that Jadon was a boys name and Jaden was a girl's name, but who knew they'd both become so popular?

 

[heart tree]

How was the scan Mom2?

 

[jenny25]

Thanks for your support girls I know we will be ok we have basically 3 months full pay from his boss cause of the years he has worked there in taxable donut will see us through until he gets something else and we are going to claim benefit too so it's not too bad we are not left with nothing xxx

I've woken up cant get back too sleep I guess I'm worrying about Paul and how he feels as he has he has never been out of a job, you know how it effects a mans confidence to provide I guess my brain hasn't switche off properly bah xxx


Mom how was your scan xxx

 

[heart tree]

Ugh it's so early for you Jen! Glad you feel a bit more secure though. Paul might find something else right away. You never know. What time is the scan? I'm so excited for you!

 

[jenny25]

Sorry I got fat fingers on my iPhone lol I ment to say 3 months not taxable wage he will get doh yeah it's early I will go for a sleep later my scan is in 4 hrs 45 min but leaving home in 3 can I ask how do I support Paul and keep his confidence up with out sounding like a nag x

 

[Mom2mmcjg]

Sorry, ladies. I had to pry the computer out of my hubby's hands! He just wanted me to come to bed, the moment he got off the computer, but I told him I had people to update!
Thanks so much for thinking of me. The scan was amazing! I couldn't ask for better! The baby was measuring 10weeks 2 days, 3.44cm! So baby's back up to measuring a day ahead! Heart rate was 171 BPM! Still have 2 subchorionic hemorrhages, but when I saw them on the screen I could see that they were very small in comparison to baby. My doc will call me on Monday with the details and my next scan date, but for now I'm so happy!

 

[Mom2mmcjg]

Oh, and I stopped spotting. I only had red blood on that one wipe, then nothing. So hubby told me to make sure I'm taking it easy, but it looks like this baby's going to make it!

 

[heart tree]

If it were my husband I probably wouldn't talk about it with him for a few days unless he brought it up first. He needs some space and doesn't like being reminded of things like this. If Paul brings up his insecurities you can remind him that he has other jobs and is getting paid for 3 months. And you can remind him that he's always been able to provide for you and Aaron in the past (assuming that he has). Don't keep asking him when he's going to get another job. That won't help. Instead be encouraging when he talks about a job that he might apply for. Get excited about it. Make him feel excited about it. You also said something earlier that is very appropriate. When one door shuts, another one opens. That's a perfect thing to remind him of when he's feeling down. Talk to him about the possibility of something new and exciting around the corner. You can also tell him that while the timing isn't great, it means you both can have a little more time together before the baby is born. There is always a silver lining to things. Sometimes it takes a while to find them though. You can be the one to help point out the positives when he is focusing on the negatives. I think the main idea is to just be as encouraging as possible.

Hope that helps a little.

 

[heart tree]

Great news Mom2! I was wondering why you didn't update with your news. I was getting worried. So did the doc say the bleeding was from the SCH? I would imagine it was. I look forward to what the doctor has to say on Monday. I'm so glad you got scanned today instead of having to wait.

 

[jenny25]

Mom that's brill news I'm so happy for you congrats darling xxxxx

Thanks Amanda that's perfect advise I don't want him to rush in there is a couple of things he has up his sleeve that he wants too do he wants to return to uni too be an events management course he also has been refereeing junior league football singe wants to get the legal qualifications to get to bigger games which is a 6 week course which he can also do so I did say last night he can now do that I'm in no hurry for him to get a job I just want him to be happy xx

 

[heart tree]

That sounds like the perfect approach Jen. Sounds like he's a motivated fellow which will help too. You aren't going to have to nag him. He's going to get through this brilliantly. Now relax and focus on the fact that you are going to find out the gender of your baby soon!!!

 

[jenny25]

Hahaha yes I'm nervous but he will be fine he is a good man xxz


I have butterflies eeek Amanda is it time yet lol xxx

 

[heart tree]

I'm going to be in bed when you find out! I wish it were time right now for you to go. I know you'll be happy with either, but I'm really hoping for pink for you. Our front page has more boys than girls. We need more girls!

 

[jenny25]

Lol even though I would love a girl I have had 3 boys so I think I am a boy carrier but who knows you know what I really dont care km just happy I'm pregnant and have our mirricle baby it means more to me than anything what's your little girls hb range hun? Our baby is between 158-164 xxx

 

[heart tree]

My baby's has always been in that range. It's slowed down to 150, but never goes below that. I know it's an old wives tale, but it was right for me. So was the baking soda test, the needle test and the Chinese gender prediction calendar.

I know you'll love whatever you get. A girl would just be an extra bonus. But boys are ace too.

 

[jenny25]

Yeah I got the hb Chinese gender test ring test and baking soda test too but we will see lol


3 hours too go yay lol xxx

 

[heart tree]

Yawn. I can't stay up that long honey. I'm off to bed. I can't wait to wake up to your news. It's the first thing I'm going to do when I wake up. I hope you get lots of pics to show us. I can't wait to update the front page too and change your color from yellow to pink or blue. Have a wonderful time. You deserve it. xoxo

 

[jenny25]

Thanks Amanda it means a lot and thank you for helping me xxxx

 

[bumpyplease]

Morning I'm up way too early for a Saturday!! My step daughter is in bed giving me a cuddle!!

Mom2 great news about your scan I bet you are relieved! This is definitely a keeper!!!!

Jen so sorry your OH got made redundant, as if you haven't got enough to worry about :0( but at least for this morning you have your scan to look forward to! I'm thinking pink pink pink thoughts for you but I know like the rest of us as long as its healthy you will be happy either way! Can't wait for your update x