Hello to everyone. As the creator of this thread, I still read it quite frequently as I'm so invested in every PARL woman finally realizing their dream.
A special hug to Squig. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I've popped onto your journal a few times to see how you are doing. My thoughts are with you, your family and your special little guy Adam.
Lee, I'm praying it's not another ectopic. I know how much you suffered from your last one. I'm very glad you are pushing for bloods given your history. It's strange that they don't automatically do them there. After my ectopic, it was standard protocol for every pregnancy I would have afterwards. I know they are stressful, but a rupture is even more stressful. Please keep us posted.
Tasha, so pleased things are going well so far. It must feel foreign to be getting good news after good news.
Hope, I'm also so pleased for you. I would settle myself in the hospital if I were you as well. No reason to cause more stress than you are undoubtedly already feeling. Especially as you get closer to the time when you birthed Isaac.
Sorry to not mention all of you, these are just some of the ladies I know from before. But to all of you, I'm glad you found a home here and hope you'll stay.
Mrs R, when the first group started this thread in 2011 we were all on the RMC thread and a bunch of us got pregnant at the same time. We debated for some time what RMC meant. We all agreed that while the doctors consider it to be 3 losses, we felt that 2 losses were more than enough to join the club. On top of that, there has been research done regarding the grief, trauma, stress, depression and anxiety that women go through after a loss. You would think that the longer they carried their babies, the worse it would be. But they found that not to be the case. I'm only speaking in generalities based on research, but generally speaking, they found that it didn't matter how long the babies were in the womb. Some women have a harder time coping than others, even if their losses were early. I know that many of you have said that you feel that a 2nd or 3rd term loss, or a neonatal loss would be harder for you than a 1st trimester loss. And that may be true for everyone here. But I do think it's important to honor each person's individual grief, regardless of how far along they were. You joined this group for support because you needed it. It shouldn't matter how early your losses were. The women here can empathize with your fears and celebrate your victories no matter how small. Maybe you feel like you need the support less now that you've made it to 12 weeks (and massive congrats to you on that milestone by the way!). If that's true, I think people would understand. But if you feel like you shouldn't be here just because your story doesn't match up with some of the others, I hope that you don't leave. I remember reading some of your posts before you saw the heartbeat. You were as anxious as I remember being and as any other woman I know who has had recurrent losses. Clearly your losses meant something to you and clearly you needed people who understood. I know that Hope and Tasha are on another thread for women who are pregnant after neonatal losses. That's hopefully one you'll never have to join, and no, you don't belong on that thread. But in my opinion, you do belong here. Just my 2 cents.
