PAL - February 2013 rainbow babies

[AllMacsNow]

BlueEyes, I have to agree with the others. My first thought was warn her first that you'll be announcing it at the meetings.
It is hard to want to share your good news but being so afraid to make another woman feel badly about it in the process. I have a friend who has been trying to adopt for a couple of years (after several failed ivf's) and now here I am, 5 kids already and accidentally pregnant. I haven't been able to tell my group of friends because--even though I shouldn't feel guilty, I do.
I know it was hard for me to feel happy for anyone when I was still suffering from my loss.

I'm with you there, too... We are getting ready to 'announce' to our far-flung extended family, and then Facebook as a whole... and I have 2 friends I feel like I need to 'warn' first, because of how badly I took big broad general announcements when we were LTTTC and TTCAL...One who's been trying for over 10 years and has finally moved on to the adoption process, and one who has been trying for at least 3 and just texted me the other day she was so excited they finally got referred to a FS. Not sure how to tell either, and sure I'm going to hurt both, but know it'd be worse if I didn't acknowledge them, I think. So I'm preparing to write each a message ahead of time, saying I don't want to catch them off-guard, and how much I am pulling for them too.

 

[PerpetualMama]

BlueEyes, I have to agree with the others. My first thought was warn her first that you'll be announcing it at the meetings.
It is hard to want to share your good news but being so afraid to make another woman feel badly about it in the process. I have a friend who has been trying to adopt for a couple of years (after several failed ivf's) and now here I am, 5 kids already and accidentally pregnant. I haven't been able to tell my group of friends because--even though I shouldn't feel guilty, I do.
I know it was hard for me to feel happy for anyone when I was still suffering from my loss.

I'm with you there, too... We are getting ready to 'announce' to our far-flung extended family, and then Facebook as a whole... and I have 2 friends I feel like I need to 'warn' first, because of how badly I took big broad general announcements when we were LTTTC and TTCAL...One who's been trying for over 10 years and has finally moved on to the adoption process, and one who has been trying for at least 3 and just texted me the other day she was so excited they finally got referred to a FS. Not sure how to tell either, and sure I'm going to hurt both, but know it'd be worse if I didn't acknowledge them, I think. So I'm preparing to write each a message ahead of time, saying I don't want to catch them off-guard, and how much I am pulling for them too.

This happened when I was pregnant with DS (5), too. A different friend had been struggling with conceiving (I even offered to carry one for her) due to endometriosis. She did finally conceive and had a mc . Then she had to have a hysterectomy. She and her husband started the long process of trying to adopt and waiting. In October of 2005 we went out for my birthday and she told me they had been approved to adopt and maybe by October 2006 she'd be a mom. When I wound up pregnant in early April I was so afraid to tell her. She was happy for me though and told me not to feel bad. She got a call in June or early July about the little boy who would become her son . All I can do is pray my getting pregnant is good mojo for adoptive friends

 

[AllMacsNow]

Ooh, I will take that point of view too. My friend's next step in their process is Sat... it's my DS (12)'s birthday, and we're planning to announce on Sun... maybe it's all coming together for a reason. I really think these people will be great parents and God has to have a special child ready for them.

After thinking about this whole thing, now I'm a little overparanoid, lol... because we kept our TTC struggles secret, so nobody knew they were breaking my heart when they posted their good news. Whose heart am I going to break, not even knowing what they go through?

 

[debzie]

It is a tough one. I did the whole facebook announcement last week.....I was undecided if i shoyld or not for all those reasons. I finally did post my scan pic with the caption after three miscarriages in two years we can finally anounce I'm pregnant with baby bell#2. I want to shout it from the rooftops and I know how hard it was after each of my losses to see those scan pics. I find that some women who are lttc take it the worst. I can remember finally biting the bullet and joining the ltttc forum threads on here the beginnig of the year. When i fell pregnant with my second loss I recieved no congratulations just bitterness that I had just joined and fell pregnant. I was told by one to take off to first tri. As she was sick of just getting to know someone then they are pregnant. I know not everyone ltttc is like that but it left a bad taste in my mouth.

 

[Blue eyes 81]

I have my 12 w scan tomorrow and I am so anxious. My mom and sl are coming with, I am so petrified something will be wrong. It will be hard enough for me if something is and now I am scared that it would traumatize them too. I am so scared I actually am tearing up.

 

[NT123]

Good luck for tomorrow, you must concentrate on the huge majority chance that everything is absolutely as it should be... That's what I will be trying to talk to myself about on Tuesday when I'm scared witless too...big hugsxx

 

[Blue eyes 81]

Good luck for tomorrow, you must concentrate on the huge majority chance that everything is absolutely as it should be... That's what I will be trying to talk to myself about on Tuesday when I'm scared witless too...big hugsxx

I am trying to stay posative I mean I am not spotting and have only had minor cramping which I have chalked up to growing pains. It is just scary because with my mc I had no signs at all until I had a bad scan. Your probably right that everything will be great and I know my sl will cry as soon as she hears the hb. She is a happy news cryer.
Good luck with your scan too it will go great.

 

[NT123]

After spotting is week, cramping twinges and an mmc in march I know how u feel, desperate to see a hb but fearful I won't x

 

[flutterbaby]

hi ladies not been on in a bit working 14 hour days and did a double shift the other day no sleep for 26 hours was a killer

but i love the work so worth it

i had my booking in and since i went to the docs to tell then to yest ive lost a stone guess my mom was right i have lost weight my clothes are tight in tummy so im gonna take it as its the bloat i said i didnt have

i dont know how im gonna tell anyone not told my family or work so scared and i know because its my 5th noone will give a shit except me and ill get the sly comments off people again oh only for a girl 4 is enough etc etc so im dreading telling people


i dont know the sex of baby but guessing a boy and we're calling him Noah if so if its a girl we'll be arguing because we have loads of names and cant settle on one got a private scan tuesday so hopefully be able to guess from nub i can hope lol

how are you all

 

[NT123]

random question, has anyone else noticed aching in legs as they get around the 12 week mark, i feel like ive done a run as my thighs and knees really ache, but i haven't!

 

[Jessica28]

Blue Eyes - I think it is only natural for us to worry after having a miscarriage. My scan is next Friday when I will be 14 weeks. I have already ehard the hb but still fearful that something will be wrong and it will be another mmc. So scared especially since I am feeling so great!

 

[flutterbaby]

growing pains and leg cramps i have in other pregnancies but am ok with this one

i only had them now and again tho

 

[Lulu]

Blue Eyes - I think it is only natural for us to worry after having a miscarriage. My scan is next Friday when I will be 14 weeks. I have already ehard the hb but still fearful that something will be wrong and it will be another mmc. So scared especially since I am feeling so great!

Fingers crossed everything will be fine Jessica. It's weird to feel worried about feeling great isn't it!

I'm not feel so bad these days, a little nausea but nothing major and it's just adding to my paranoia that something is wrong! I do have a doppler somewhere up in my loft that I've had since I was pregnant with my son but I made myself sick with worry because I could hardly find the hb the last time that I'm too scared to use it this time. So got just over 2 weeks to wait to find out what is happening.

Good luck for tomorrow Blue Eyes, I'm sure everything will be fine

NT good luck for Tuesday

We haven't told anyone yet either, I've been tempted but not really sure what to say plus what if it all goes wrong again! It's such a dilemma on top of everything else to worry about, I just want the next 2 weeks to fly past and it be the day of my scan and for everything to be perfect. All this worry is driving me crazy

 

[PerpetualMama]

hi ladies not been on in a bit working 14 hour days and did a double shift the other day no sleep for 26 hours was a killer

but i love the work so worth it

i had my booking in and since i went to the docs to tell then to yest ive lost a stone guess my mom was right i have lost weight my clothes are tight in tummy so im gonna take it as its the bloat i said i didnt have

i dont know how im gonna tell anyone not told my family or work so scared and i know because its my 5th noone will give a shit except me and ill get the sly comments off people again oh only for a girl 4 is enough etc etc so im dreading telling people


i dont know the sex of baby but guessing a boy and we're calling him Noah if so if its a girl we'll be arguing because we have loads of names and cant settle on one got a private scan tuesday so hopefully be able to guess from nub i can hope lol

how are you all

Oh I hear ya! I didn't tell any of my family except my kids when I was pregnant with the one I lost because it would have been baby 6. This time I've told almost all of my family (just not my dad and his brothers/spouses) Everyone has opinions on why I shouldn't have/don't need any more...whatever! I feel blessed to have found myself pregnant at my age with what will definitely be my last baby. Yes, it's going to change ALL my plans, but only as much as I let it. Plans can be remodeled. DH can't understand why I'm so afraid to tell my dad (mr "Tact-challenged" himself who said I was lucky I lost the last one). He'll notice the belly eventually.

Noah was the first name I suggested to DH if it's a boy. He vetoed it
DS (5) kisses my belly and talks about the baby constantly. He suggested Adam or Eve or both if it's twins! Funny Adam is on our list of talked about and liked boys names. I got an "eh it's ok" when I suggested my fave girl name. I have a list on my cell phone drafts text that I update as names fall in and out of favor in my mind. On a positive note DH's co-workers have been spouting the joys of having a daughter and I think DH is starting to seriously think a girl might be nice

 

[PerpetualMama]

Good luck on your scan tomorrow BlueEyes I hope your little one gives your family an acrobatic show...really put the tears in their eyes

Good luck to you too NT I look forward to hearing some positive news from you Tuesday and we can all do the with you!!

 

[flutterbaby]

hi ladies not been on in a bit working 14 hour days and did a double shift the other day no sleep for 26 hours was a killer

but i love the work so worth it

i had my booking in and since i went to the docs to tell then to yest ive lost a stone guess my mom was right i have lost weight my clothes are tight in tummy so im gonna take it as its the bloat i said i didnt have

i dont know how im gonna tell anyone not told my family or work so scared and i know because its my 5th noone will give a shit except me and ill get the sly comments off people again oh only for a girl 4 is enough etc etc so im dreading telling people


i dont know the sex of baby but guessing a boy and we're calling him Noah if so if its a girl we'll be arguing because we have loads of names and cant settle on one got a private scan tuesday so hopefully be able to guess from nub i can hope lol

how are you all

Oh I hear ya! I didn't tell any of my family except my kids when I was pregnant with the one I lost because it would have been baby 6. This time I've told almost all of my family (just not my dad and his brothers/spouses) Everyone has opinions on why I shouldn't have/don't need any more...whatever! I feel blessed to have found myself pregnant at my age with what will definitely be my last baby. Yes, it's going to change ALL my plans, but only as much as I let it. Plans can be remodeled. DH can't understand why I'm so afraid to tell my dad (mr "Tact-challenged" himself who said I was lucky I lost the last one). He'll notice the belly eventually.

Noah was the first name I suggested to DH if it's a boy. He vetoed it
DS (5) kisses my belly and talks about the baby constantly. He suggested Adam or Eve or both if it's twins! Funny Adam is on our list of talked about and liked boys names. I got an "eh it's ok" when I suggested my fave girl name. I have a list on my cell phone drafts text that I update as names fall in and out of favor in my mind. On a positive note DH's co-workers have been spouting the joys of having a daughter and I think DH is starting to seriously think a girl might be nice

it amazing me why people count the kids and dont think they are all a blessing my brother point blank told me if i had any more he wouldnt talk to me etc but was fine when i said and the sono lady said at least you have kids when i lost my last like it makes a difference a loss is a loss

 

[hope88]

Goodluck to everyone whos having there scans wishing u all the best with healthy wriggly babys with lovely strong heartbeats

 

[PerpetualMama]

hi ladies not been on in a bit working 14 hour days and did a double shift the other day no sleep for 26 hours was a killer

but i love the work so worth it

i had my booking in and since i went to the docs to tell then to yest ive lost a stone guess my mom was right i have lost weight my clothes are tight in tummy so im gonna take it as its the bloat i said i didnt have

i dont know how im gonna tell anyone not told my family or work so scared and i know because its my 5th noone will give a shit except me and ill get the sly comments off people again oh only for a girl 4 is enough etc etc so im dreading telling people


i dont know the sex of baby but guessing a boy and we're calling him Noah if so if its a girl we'll be arguing because we have loads of names and cant settle on one got a private scan tuesday so hopefully be able to guess from nub i can hope lol

how are you all

Oh I hear ya! I didn't tell any of my family except my kids when I was pregnant with the one I lost because it would have been baby 6. This time I've told almost all of my family (just not my dad and his brothers/spouses) Everyone has opinions on why I shouldn't have/don't need any more...whatever! I feel blessed to have found myself pregnant at my age with what will definitely be my last baby. Yes, it's going to change ALL my plans, but only as much as I let it. Plans can be remodeled. DH can't understand why I'm so afraid to tell my dad (mr "Tact-challenged" himself who said I was lucky I lost the last one). He'll notice the belly eventually.

Noah was the first name I suggested to DH if it's a boy. He vetoed it
DS (5) kisses my belly and talks about the baby constantly. He suggested Adam or Eve or both if it's twins! Funny Adam is on our list of talked about and liked boys names. I got an "eh it's ok" when I suggested my fave girl name. I have a list on my cell phone drafts text that I update as names fall in and out of favor in my mind. On a positive note DH's co-workers have been spouting the joys of having a daughter and I think DH is starting to seriously think a girl might be nice

it amazing me why people count the kids and dont think they are all a blessing my brother point blank told me if i had any more he wouldnt talk to me etc but was fine when i said and the sono lady said at least you have kids when i lost my last like it makes a difference a loss is a loss

My dad said he'd chop his OWN weiner off with a butter knife if I ever fell pregnant again. But that was over 4 years ago, which was why I didn't tell him about the last pregnancy til I had to ask for time off to miscarry.
My mom was like -S#!t happens, and ooooh a little girl would be nice . My brother is sad for me because I'm just getting my youngest into full day school. His wife suggested I give it up for adoption (give it to my friend who wants to adopt). At least my kids look at it favorably. My 20 year old DD told me the baby is a blessing and God gave it to me for a reason and maybe I need him or her for some reason. She said I've done such a wonderful job raising my other 5, why shouldn't I do it again? My 17 yr old DS pats my belly all the time and is anxious to know if boys will catch up to girls in the family or if girls will rule the roost. I'm sure eceryone will come around in time, and if not...too bad!

 

[Blue eyes 81]

first I want to thank you ladies for all the support yesterday during my mini meltdown. You guys are the best!
I just got back from my 12 week scan and it went great. The doctor even cleared me to tell all my family and friends.

 

[AllMacsNow]

That's awesome, Blue!