PAL - February 2013 rainbow babies

[PerpetualMama]

up since 330 AM, and with my mind still racing over an hour later no hopes of falling back to sleep before my alarm goes off In a major panic about who will watch the baby while I go to school and then while I do my clinicals. 2 eldest daughters, who I had been hoping would help, both told me this week that they're each moving to different states thousands of miles away come January. Add to this, this past Sunday a friend from church told me that her six week old granddaughter is in a coma at the hospital because the babysitters husband/boyfriend shook the hell out of her. IF she survives she will be blind and likely mentally impaired-possibly deaf, too . The baby's parents were friends with this couple for quite some time.
My long standing babysitter-my grandmother- recently moved to Florida to live with my uncle because of dementia kicking in. I swore I wouldn't worry about the sitter situation until after 12 weeks, an now at 15 weeks I'm overcome with a sense of dread. I am happy about this little one...I just don't now how on Earth I'm going to manage. Even if I quit school -which I've dedicated the past 4 years to getting straight A's in order to get into this program- I still would need to find flexible childcare and continue to put up with a major lack of work in the painting business. DH wants to buy a house while the market still sucks but I'll lose all financial aid if we do it before I'm out of school. Not to mention how "fun" it would be to pay a mortgage on one income AND have to pay for classes, books, and supplies. If I postpone school I also postpone his desire for a house and have to listen to him piss and moan about how he hates to live in this house. Yeah...it's no wonder sleep evades me...

sorry...really needed to vent

Oh perpetual... I am so sorry to hear all of this.
Your friend, her grandchild and her family are in my thoughts and prayers. I truly hope that they throw the book at that man and he gets what he deserves I will never understand how someone can hurt a child like that.

They announced at church that the baby went home yesterday. She was moved out of icu Thursday. They aren't sure the extent of her disabilities, but we're all praying for her complete recovery. I am shocked she is home, last I heard she was still in a coma. They had origianlly found 3 broken ribs when they brought her in but since found several other broken bones. I know the guy was in jail; I too am hoping he is fully punished.

 

[Blue eyes 81]

up since 330 AM, and with my mind still racing over an hour later no hopes of falling back to sleep before my alarm goes off In a major panic about who will watch the baby while I go to school and then while I do my clinicals. 2 eldest daughters, who I had been hoping would help, both told me this week that they're each moving to different states thousands of miles away come January. Add to this, this past Sunday a friend from church told me that her six week old granddaughter is in a coma at the hospital because the babysitters husband/boyfriend shook the hell out of her. IF she survives she will be blind and likely mentally impaired-possibly deaf, too . The baby's parents were friends with this couple for quite some time.
My long standing babysitter-my grandmother- recently moved to Florida to live with my uncle because of dementia kicking in. I swore I wouldn't worry about the sitter situation until after 12 weeks, an now at 15 weeks I'm overcome with a sense of dread. I am happy about this little one...I just don't now how on Earth I'm going to manage. Even if I quit school -which I've dedicated the past 4 years to getting straight A's in order to get into this program- I still would need to find flexible childcare and continue to put up with a major lack of work in the painting business. DH wants to buy a house while the market still sucks but I'll lose all financial aid if we do it before I'm out of school. Not to mention how "fun" it would be to pay a mortgage on one income AND have to pay for classes, books, and supplies. If I postpone school I also postpone his desire for a house and have to listen to him piss and moan about how he hates to live in this house. Yeah...it's no wonder sleep evades me...

sorry...really needed to vent

Oh perpetual... I am so sorry to hear all of this.
Your friend, her grandchild and her family are in my thoughts and prayers. I truly hope that they throw the book at that man and he gets what he deserves I will never understand how someone can hurt a child like that.

They announced at church that the baby went home yesterday. She was moved out of icu Thursday. They aren't sure the extent of her disabilities, but we're all praying for her complete recovery. I am shocked she is home, last I heard she was still in a coma. They had origianlly found 3 broken ribs when they brought her in but since found several other broken bones. I know the guy was in jail; I too am hoping he is fully punished.

Glad to hear that the lo was able to go home and I too will be praying for a speedy and complete recovery.

 

[shocker]

Perpetual that is awful, praying for a speedy recovery and a lengthy prison sentence for that animal!


How is everyone doing? I only have 6 days til I find out what team we are on!! So excited! Have also gotten the appointment through for special heart scan on baby which will be on the 28th, a little nervous about that but trying not to think about it

 

[NT123]

im good thanks, getting nightmares still about another mmc, probably not helped by midwife check this coming thurs, i know they use the doppler and im concerned i wont hear anything and will then start freaking out. has everyone heard a hb at 16 weeks?

 

[hope88]

Perpetual thats horrible poor baby i hope little one recovers soon and that man should be hung

Shocker how exciting about your gender scan do you have a feeling on what the sex will be. I have another 3 1/2 weeks to go till i get my 20 week scan

NT i had my 16 week appointment last week they found hb but my midwife told me to not be worried if they didnt find a hb as it might be still to early.

 

[AllMacsNow]

Perpetual, I... don't even know what to say. I am so glad to hear that she's gone home. That must be a good sign, right? The man that does that to her must FRY. There just really isn't anything worse, as far as I'm concerned.

Shocker, I can't believe your gender scan is almost here! You must be the first one here. Mine won't be for a few more weeks, either, Hope.

NT, I am sure that your little one is doing well, but really hope you hear the hb for some reassurance. I heard mine last week at the doc's with his doppler just short of 15 weeks.

 

[shocker]

NT i didnt hear the heartbeat at 16 weeks, the doctor couldnt find it, i'd heard it myself a day or two before and told her so, i also told her the baby was down on the left hand side but she insisted on looking in a place ive never heard baby before, i managed to stay calm and she ended up giving me a quick scan as she tried for ten minutes! She then got the student doctor to try find the baby on the scan, the girl looked at the machine for 5 minutes looking worried and i started freaking out and told the fully trained doctor im sorry but i need you to do this your worrying me, turns out the student had the machine turned way down so it could only locate a full term baby, doc turned it up and he/she was bouncing around healthy and happy. This was a doctor aswell not even a midwife, so if they cant find it straight away try your best not to panic (hard i know!) but they are so bouncy and all over the place at this point that its quite hard to find them, i found it easier to locate baby at 10 weeks with my doppler than i do now!

Hope I have no idea, a part of me really thinks its a girl because this pregnancy is so different to my last which was a boy but im not sure! Getting so excited i may just explode at this point im dying to know! Its going to be so lovely because I booked it as a present for OH for his birthday so we are going on the saturday morning then that evening we're going to announce it at his party!

 

[AllMacsNow]

Shocker, that's TERRIBLE.

Don't they get that we're at our MOST vulnerable when they're in there looking to find our hopes and dreams? Geez. Nobody should hand that off to a trainee until AFTER they know everything's ok.

 

[shocker]

Shocker, that's TERRIBLE.

Don't they get that we're at our MOST vulnerable when they're in there looking to find our hopes and dreams? Geez. Nobody should hand that off to a trainee until AFTER they know everything's ok.

Yeah it was pretty infuriating, she was lucky I was actually in a pretty calm mood going in as id just heard the babies heartbeat at home recently and had been feeling little goldfish movements but it was pretty disgraceful considering this was the doctor at the high risk clinic at the maternity hospital who knew my history aswell she was filling in notes while the student tried to use the ultrasound machine, as far as i could tell the poor girl had never in her life used one! i had to ask the doctor to do it and felt a bit guilty as i know the girl felt bad worrying me but the doctor should have supervised her properly

 

[PerpetualMama]

Shocker: That would have aggravated me too. Why do they not listen to the mother?? As for your scan, is there a specific hereditary heart condition they are looking for or something? And, congrats on the scan coming up, this is one of the real exciting parts-like a sneak peek at your Christmas present (I'm not a peeker at all-would rather be surprised for Christmas, but not where baby is concerned, lol)

NT123: I went for my 16 week OB appt yesterday at 15 w + 4 and after a minute or two she had located the hb. I wasn't too worried because I have a doppler at home-which keeps me sane.

Everything seems fine with the LO so far, got my questions answered, and got an order for my quad screening (where they draw blood and look for the levels of different hormones in the blood. Checking for downes, spinabifida/anecephaly, and two other trisomy's I think 18 and 19?) Work got rained out so I can run to the clinic after I drop DS (5) off at his FIRST day of Kindergarten!!!
I thought they would give me my appt for my anomoly scan (20 week) but they didn't. They said they'd fax the info today to the place that will do it and they'd call me. I was worrried they'd call while I was at work, so they said I can call after 9 AM this morning to try to set up my own appt. Hopefully by this afternoon I will know when it is. This is the part I've been waiting for, counting down the weeks...DH is so excited to go. I was anxious to get it as son as I could since it can be done between 18 and 20 w, but now I am thinking it won't be so tragic if it is closer to 20 w because after this scan it's just waiting for the next OB appt and the birth, lol. This scan worries me a little too, I'm hoping everything is ok and no defects are present. DH is almost 48 and I'm almost 42. Yesterday Doc offered us genetic counseling, but I declined because what's done is done, nothing they could tell me would change how the baby turns out-only fuel the anxiety. It's not like we're TTC and should know potential risks. There will be no more after this LO!

 

[shocker]

Perpetual its great that your appointment went well!! I can understand why you might be a bit more worried but a family friend of ours has just had her first at 45 and her baby was perfect! I am sure everything will be perfect with your little bean! and how exciting that your son had his first day of kindergarten you must've been feeling a little emotional over that, i'd say I'll cry when that time comes around hahaha I know what you mean after the scan on the 28th i wont really see the baby til the birth its a crazy thought! Yes the scan is to detect a genetic heart defect, my sisters first baby passed away at just 3 days old due to being born with a large hole in his heart that couldnt be fixed, shes since had 3 healthy babies and my other sister has had one aswell all problem free but because of this they now always do this detailed heart scan on the women in my family as a precaution, more than likely everything is fine but i'd rather they found out before the birth if something was wrong as depending on the size of the hole they could then have the necessary arrangements made for surgery when baby arrives and nobody would be caught off gaurd waiting for surgeons to come in from around the country and stuff like that

 

[PerpetualMama]

Perpetual its great that your appointment went well!! I can understand why you might be a bit more worried but a family friend of ours has just had her first at 45 and her baby was perfect! I am sure everything will be perfect with your little bean! and how exciting that your son had his first day of kindergarten you must've been feeling a little emotional over that, i'd say I'll cry when that time comes around hahaha I know what you mean after the scan on the 28th i wont really see the baby til the birth its a crazy thought! Yes the scan is to detect a genetic heart defect, my sisters first baby passed away at just 3 days old due to being born with a large hole in his heart that couldnt be fixed, shes since had 3 healthy babies and my other sister has had one aswell all problem free but because of this they now always do this detailed heart scan on the women in my family as a precaution, more than likely everything is fine but i'd rather they found out before the birth if something was wrong as depending on the size of the hole they could then have the necessary arrangements made for surgery when baby arrives and nobody would be caught off gaurd waiting for surgeons to come in from around the country and stuff like that

Ah, yes, I think you mentioned this a few days ago. I read so many posts I forget. I hope all is well, that's a scary thought. My daughter's friend is 19 and her one month old little girl just died this week. I don't know what happened, but it brought back all the fears of that first year with each of my kids. Already remembering labor and trying to plan ahead my options. I've read some things on labor and deliveries for older moms, and how 6th (or 5th, 7th, 8th, whatever) labors and deliveries can take longer because the cervix doesn't want to dialate. Then my doc tells me about this woman she just delivered who was having her 6th baby and it took 2 1/2 days hoping I'm not like that, but will do what I have to to help it along even if I need an epidural or other form of pain relief.

I was excited for him to go to school, but thankful for the rain so I could bring him and see him off. I was expecting to take him in to his classroom but he insisted I NOT go with him "I got this mom." he told me he's too big to have me come in with him so I droped him off at the door and felt like the only kindergarten mom who doesn't care enough to go in. DH said to turn around and go in ayway, but I felt it would be a knock to Mason's feelings of independence, like I didn't think he was big enough to handle it himself. He knows the classroom and how to get there so he should be fine (sigh) it just seemed alien for me to not be part of it.

 

[PerpetualMama]

just got the call- Anomaly scan at 19 w+2 on Septmeber 22! DH can go without taking a day out of work because it's a Saturday 25 days to go!

 

[AllMacsNow]

Wow, Perpetual, I'm so sorry your daughter's friend lost her baby. That is so sad.

Your little guy is so big! I am glad you were able to let him go in on his own if that's what he wanted, but I understand how much you must have wanted to go. It's so nice it was rainy and you were able to drop him off, though!

Yay for scan dates! Mine will be just a few days before yours.

Can't wait to see our beanies again!

 

[Blue eyes 81]

So my doc is pretty sure we are team
She was dancing around like
Crazy in there I swear at times doing the splits
which of course gave doc a good view.
I think she will be a cheerleader just like her
Momma.

 

[Mrskg]

Great news blue eyes x any names picked? X

 

[Blue eyes 81]

Thanks, Zoey Christine.

 

[Mrskg]

Lovely

 

[shocker]

That's a beautiful name blue! Same as my niece

I'm just back from the private scan we got a 3d pic of baby sucking his thumb and loads of 2d ones, we are officially team blue!! Baby is looking great but as I thought from all the poking out he hasnt got a large amount of fluid in there the sonographer didn't seem worried tho!

 

[Mrskg]

Great news shocker x do you have a name picked x