so I’m in a bit of a mess at the moment and need some advice from some fellow mums or mums to be.
Me and my partner have an 8 year old already he came as a huge shock to us at the tender early 20s... we didn’t have the best relationship through it but once he was here we got on track and ended up in a really healthy financial and mental place ... we were happy... another baby was never on the books then we find out I was pregnant 3 months in fact it went unoticed I only sore the doctor due to feeling so run down (still bled etc) he appeared to be more supportive then the first time round in the sense that “don’t worry we will get it sorted” but after my last scan and the fact he has to come to terms with this is permanent he has become so distant. One minute he is fine with me the next he’s so one answered and off ... it is making me feel miserable after all we are in this together and I feel like he’s jumped boat and left me here to sink alone ... I don’t feel he is going to accept this is happening, I am 21 weeks and haven’t told anyone not even our son, I don’t feel I can until he is more stable but it is getting me so down!
Sorry for the long winded message but not sure who else to speak to.
Me and my partner have an 8 year old already he came as a huge shock to us at the tender early 20s... we didn’t have the best relationship through it but once he was here we got on track and ended up in a really healthy financial and mental place ... we were happy... another baby was never on the books then we find out I was pregnant 3 months in fact it went unoticed I only sore the doctor due to feeling so run down (still bled etc) he appeared to be more supportive then the first time round in the sense that “don’t worry we will get it sorted” but after my last scan and the fact he has to come to terms with this is permanent he has become so distant. One minute he is fine with me the next he’s so one answered and off ... it is making me feel miserable after all we are in this together and I feel like he’s jumped boat and left me here to sink alone ... I don’t feel he is going to accept this is happening, I am 21 weeks and haven’t told anyone not even our son, I don’t feel I can until he is more stable but it is getting me so down!
Sorry for the long winded message but not sure who else to speak to.