ill be honest, a while ago, when going through a tough time in our relationship (still no excuse) i did some inappropriate things, texted people i shouldn't have, and loved the attention i was receiving else where as i felt i wasn't getting it from my OH. i totally regret the person i was, i didn't do it just the once.. the first time i apologized, deleted his number, never spoke to him again swore i wouldn't do it again, he said some things about us that never happened and of corse my OH believed it, anyway i did it again with a different guy and again when he found out i deleted his number and from fb, swore i wouldn't do it again. after that he didn't trust me which i totally understand i wouldn't him either, my selfishness even had me paranoid he was going to do the same to me, he did send some flirty messages and of corse i was annoyed and upset, he said to me 'you did it, how do u think i feel' but my point was if he wanted to do anything and wasn't happy with me he shouldn't have taken me back.
anyway i don't know where this post is going just thought id share my story. flirting and appropriate texting IS a form of cheating, id of totally understood if my OH left me, but he didn't and now we are stronger than ever, expecting a baby and nothing could be better. again i don't think this post has gone anywhere for you, nor do i know if it helps, just know people make mistakes and its up to u how u deal with them, my OH took me back time after time and now years later i still remember the hurt in his eyes and face when we argued about it, when he wanted me to leave but then stopped me or asked me to come back, i could still literally cry for the things i did to him but it can work out in the end, i wouldnt dream of doing the things i did only a couple of years ago. but i had alot of making up to do, im not telling you that you should stay with him and forgive him, everyones different, just letting u know it can still work if you really want it to x