partners and sleep (bit of a rant)

[soup]

hi just need to rant! my hubby has generally been great with baby although cos i am feeding i am obviously doing much more of the "babycare", including all the night feeds and i really don't expect him to get up in the night when there is nothing he can really do. our baby is really quite well behaved and normally goes straight back to sleep after his feeds.

i am feel i am doing pretty well and have adjusted to my new sleep pattern and don't feel too tired at all. but when people ask how its all going sleepless nights etc, hubby always says he is pretty tired and baby wakes up alot! he doesn't i wish he knew what some other people go through!! also how is he mor tired than me!? he wakes up when baby does then goes straight back to sleep, i don't even feed in bed cos Nathan feeds better in the chair!

i am just finding this really frustrating, and wondered if anyone else has felt like this?

 

[asacia]

OH is always complaining about lack of sleep. I'm the one who is awake in the night, and he definitely isn't waking up! He sleeps like a log, so I don't know why he is complaining!

 

[soup]

oh good im glad its not just me!!

 

[beancounter]

I'm pretty sure that my OH wakes up and tends to the peanut at night and then forgets that it happened. So I am very lucky! He only has one night feed at 4 or 5 now and OH gets to do it. Making up for all the times I have got up in the night earlier on.

 

[Mervs Mum]

You cant win hun. When asked if the baby had slept well my hubby would reply 'Oh yes very well - she didnt wake at all last night....'

Erm....she did.....twice.........YOU slept through it!!

 

[leighbaby]

Same! My OH comes home from work and naps!!!!!

 

[Shifter]

My hubby would sleep through if I let him lol! I usually wake him and ask him to get me a drink, which he always does without complaint, he says he's happy to help I let him sleep through if Jack wakes between 5 and 6.30 though, so he doesn't get a second interruption so close to when he has to get up for work.

 

[Samantha675]

My DH sleeps in another room and will complain about how badly he slept sometimes. ARGGGGG I think it is just a man thing.

 

[XKatX]

My hubby used to complain that he was tired. And when I pionted out that I'd been up all night (right at the beginning), he used to just say, "Oh thats not the same, you're built to cope with it"
Then one day I flipped. I told that I was bloody knackered and I could barely keep my eyes open and felt ike shit, never mind having a 24 hour job, rather than his part time 38 hour week job!!! He wondered how I was still so happy and I said that I just had to cope, so get over it and stop feeling sorry for himself!!
Ever since then he has been very good. He only rarelt complains that he is tired and, when he does, he backs it up with "You must be completely knackered then"!!!
Men eh? Who'd have 'em?!!!

 

[Logiebear]

My man is one of those who thinks he's got it hard too World war 3 wouldn't wake him. My lo screams down his ear and he doesn't wake up! He thinks he deserves a rest after working all day!! I would love to throttle him when he starts with how knackered he is. He has NO idea. Hannah sleeps from 10.30pm til around 5am and then until around 9am. I get up around 7am with my other kids and leave H asleep with dh. He doesn't hear her when she starts crying next to him, I can hear her down stairs!! GGGGGRRRRRRRRRRR

 

[Serene123]

What annoyed me was him telling people she was really good and a wonderful sleeper when she wasn't!

 

[lillysmum]

yup, he constantly goes on about how great it is and how tired he is and i'm like - what a minute, you dont have the night feeds to contend with

guys just dont get it!