People and their opinions!!! (Rant)

[rray0560]

I just told the rest of my family that Im pregnant. Ive been excited, it was completely unexpected as I had mirena but I got over it. Then I had to deal with my ex leaving me which in turn now I have to deal with being a single mom of two. I finally am fine with everything. Some of my family knew but the ones I don't see a lot hadn't heard so I finally just told everyone this past weekend. Some haven't said anything, which is fine by me I would rather them not say anything than say something rude! But someone else in my family told me after this one I needed to have my tubes tied. Ok Im young and I know Im not in the ideal situation but I love being a mom. Im putting myself through college and I have already bought everything for the baby. But the way they talked it was like they were the ones going to be raising my daughter!! I think I have cried all morning. I take care of my first daughter by myself and I don't ask for help so I don't know why people talk to me this way. I don't want or need anyone to help me with my children so why act like that!! On top of that they said there wasn't a way to "fix" it anymore!! Like seriously this is my baby not an it or something you can fix. I feel like I have nobody to talk to I don't want to feel like a horrible person and they have made me feel like I have done something worse than murder!!

 

[leahtaba]

You havent done anything wrong and they are horrible for making you feel that way. You was on birth control and taking precautions! But even if you wasnt its your life and your choice they should be supportive.

keep your head held high and prove them wrong, and just focus on the people who can be happy for you. Everyone else will come round soon enough.

 

[Gabrielle22]

No one should be telling you what you need to do with your female organs! That is your choice if you want 5 kids or 10! If they aren't the one supporting them, why do they care? Especially if you're taking great care of your kids AND putting yourself through college! Whomever made that comment, well it just goes to show you who you need in your, and your childrens life and who you do not. Don't let them make you feel like a horrible person. Everyone will form their own opinion about everything! As long as you know you're a good mom and you're doing your best, that's all that matters! Good luck

 

[AyrasMommy]

im kind of in the same boat as you but I am married to the father of my dd and my ds im currently 24weeks pregnant with. When we found out we were pregnant again and we told dh's dad(he has 5 kids with 4 different moms- the oldest passed away from SIDS when he was a newborn though) he told us my dh should get fixed because we don't even have a pot to piss in- now we may not be the most financially stable couple but we have our own place and our dd never goes without she is a very happy and healthy 2yr old. Now lately my parents(who only had me) have been telling my dh to get fixed.. Everyone know eventually we want 2-3 more kids but were not rushing into anything JUST YET its like gosh im still pregnant people. We just ignore them and act like it doesn't bother us because we are doing what we want with our lives and making our family happy. I think if your happy and okay with your situation then that is all that matters don't let anyone bring you down.

 

[rray0560]

Thank yall it just makes me so ill that someone actually said that to me. Its my body and I do want more kids one day, a very long time from now but Im going to enjoy my girls and anyone who acts like this to me is not going to enjoy seeing them grow up. I just don't know why people cannot keep their opinions to themselves no matter what they think. Im currently renting a house from my aunt and uncle, which is who said that, I pay them rent so they know good and well no one is supporting me and my daughters financially. Its nerve wracking and if I hadn't busted my butt moving out of my parents trying to better myself and my daughters life I would just move back in with them. I think I am just done for the day ice cream and a good movie here I come.

 

[PhoenixDown]

There is a simple truth in life and the sooner we realize it and integrate it into our every day existence the happier and better off we will be.

It is your life. No one elses. If you live to please or need approval from anyone other than you, you will not be happy. You can not control how other people see you or react to you, you can only control how you react and how much you let their perceptions of reality effect you. Live to please yourself and be a good person.

Or more succinctly. "Haters gonna hate. You do you."

So much easier said than done I know. But every time you think this way even for a moment you rewrite our neuropathways and change the inner dialog. Don't give them power over you to make you cry for one minute. They don't deserve that kind of energy from you. Especially not when it should be going to your growing Baby Girl. Congratulations!