BrandiCanucks
Mommy of 4, WTT
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I'm in a due date group on Facebook. I was originally going to remain Team Yellow, but as time goes on, the more I think about the doctor pulling out a girl, the more upset I become. I cannot bring myself to be happy about or excited about having a girl, and my instinct and everything else (Ramzi, skull, dreams, instinct, pattern) all point towards a girl.
The thought of having another girl makes me seriously depressed. So much so that I feel like if the doctor announces it's a girl, I will want nothing more than to walk out of the hospital without her.
I already HATE that I feel this way and would give anything in the WORLD to be excited about a girl. I WANT to be, I just can't be.
I've never suffered from postpartum depression before, but have suffered from severe depression in the past (pre-kids) to the point that I nearly took my own life several times. I know for a FACT if I wait to find out and the doctor tells me it's a girl, I'm going to spiral immediately. So I said I'm going to find out for the sake of my own mental health.
Comments I received in return when I reached out for support were:
Get over it.
Move on.
You can't say you'll become depressed. You'll probably change all that when you see her.
Stop being repetitive.
You're being ridiculous.
Your baby can't choose their sex, and you're going to reject her over it?
And my least favourite:
Just be excited that you're having a baby at all. There are some people who would give anything to have one, boy or girl.
Like I don't know that? Like I'm CHOOSING to feel this way? Like I WANT to feel like I'd reject my own daughter? Like this is MY fault?
If I could change this, I absolutely would. I HATE feeling this way.
Sorry, just had to get it out.
The thought of having another girl makes me seriously depressed. So much so that I feel like if the doctor announces it's a girl, I will want nothing more than to walk out of the hospital without her.
I already HATE that I feel this way and would give anything in the WORLD to be excited about a girl. I WANT to be, I just can't be.
I've never suffered from postpartum depression before, but have suffered from severe depression in the past (pre-kids) to the point that I nearly took my own life several times. I know for a FACT if I wait to find out and the doctor tells me it's a girl, I'm going to spiral immediately. So I said I'm going to find out for the sake of my own mental health.
Comments I received in return when I reached out for support were:
Get over it.
Move on.
You can't say you'll become depressed. You'll probably change all that when you see her.
Stop being repetitive.
You're being ridiculous.
Your baby can't choose their sex, and you're going to reject her over it?
And my least favourite:
Just be excited that you're having a baby at all. There are some people who would give anything to have one, boy or girl.
Like I don't know that? Like I'm CHOOSING to feel this way? Like I WANT to feel like I'd reject my own daughter? Like this is MY fault?
If I could change this, I absolutely would. I HATE feeling this way.
Sorry, just had to get it out.