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LilMiss_91
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Yeah... kind of a mixed post as didn't want to post twice about 2 such small niggles and I guess they kinda tie in together.
People are peeing me off something rotten lately. I hatehatehate all the unwanted opinions and advice people WILL insist on giving. I feel like telling them "I didn't ask for your input therefore kindly keep your thoughts to yourself"! The most recent ones have been about bedding and clothes... of all things
I plan on swaddling bubs while he's very small, using a traditional lightweight shawl that my mum used to swaddle all 4 of us kids. My sister disagrees with this and thinks sleeping bags are best. I don't LIKE sleeping bags for very tiny babies. If someone else wants to use them then that's upto them, but I personally don't want to. Big deal? Not really. If I'd said I was going to tuck him up with a pillow and a duvet then I could understand someone disagreeing!
And my OH's friends are really annoying me, as well as OH on occasion actually. Some of his friends are somewhat "alternative" and keep suggesting/posting clothes on facebook. One friend told me that I couldn't put the baby in a onesie (meaning a sleepsuit/babygrow) as they would turn out to be a chav. Another has suggested putting him in camo's (OH is into that kinda thing) and another suggested a babygrow with spiderwebs on it. And while those things might be fine and they aren't dreadful, they aren't the things I want to dress my baby in. I want him to look like a baby, not a dolly that I've dressed up.
I mainly just don't see why people think it's their right to go tromping around telling me what I should/shouldn't be dressing my own baby in.
When I say anything in return to these things like "I don't think so" or "it's cute but not something I'd choose" OH always makes me sound like I'm just boring and spoiling the fun which I'm not! I just want to raise this baby the way I want to, not how everyone else thinks I should. Some things I plan on doing will probably go down like a lead balloon with some people as they'll probably seem old fashioned, silly, and out of touch with the times. But I loved my upbringing and I like to think I turned out pretty well because of it! So I want to do the same for my little boy and give him the best start in life based on what I know and have experience of.
Whenever anyone says anything I can instantly feel my hackles go up and the blood start to boil and I come over ultra protective and defensive to the point of feeling like telling OH to take his friends and go take a hike! I don't know what's wrong with me?!
Sorry for the long post/moan, have been keeping this bottled up for ages and had to let it out!
People are peeing me off something rotten lately. I hatehatehate all the unwanted opinions and advice people WILL insist on giving. I feel like telling them "I didn't ask for your input therefore kindly keep your thoughts to yourself"! The most recent ones have been about bedding and clothes... of all things
I plan on swaddling bubs while he's very small, using a traditional lightweight shawl that my mum used to swaddle all 4 of us kids. My sister disagrees with this and thinks sleeping bags are best. I don't LIKE sleeping bags for very tiny babies. If someone else wants to use them then that's upto them, but I personally don't want to. Big deal? Not really. If I'd said I was going to tuck him up with a pillow and a duvet then I could understand someone disagreeing!
And my OH's friends are really annoying me, as well as OH on occasion actually. Some of his friends are somewhat "alternative" and keep suggesting/posting clothes on facebook. One friend told me that I couldn't put the baby in a onesie (meaning a sleepsuit/babygrow) as they would turn out to be a chav. Another has suggested putting him in camo's (OH is into that kinda thing) and another suggested a babygrow with spiderwebs on it. And while those things might be fine and they aren't dreadful, they aren't the things I want to dress my baby in. I want him to look like a baby, not a dolly that I've dressed up.
I mainly just don't see why people think it's their right to go tromping around telling me what I should/shouldn't be dressing my own baby in.
When I say anything in return to these things like "I don't think so" or "it's cute but not something I'd choose" OH always makes me sound like I'm just boring and spoiling the fun which I'm not! I just want to raise this baby the way I want to, not how everyone else thinks I should. Some things I plan on doing will probably go down like a lead balloon with some people as they'll probably seem old fashioned, silly, and out of touch with the times. But I loved my upbringing and I like to think I turned out pretty well because of it! So I want to do the same for my little boy and give him the best start in life based on what I know and have experience of.
Whenever anyone says anything I can instantly feel my hackles go up and the blood start to boil and I come over ultra protective and defensive to the point of feeling like telling OH to take his friends and go take a hike! I don't know what's wrong with me?!
Sorry for the long post/moan, have been keeping this bottled up for ages and had to let it out!