I don't even know where to put this. Basically my OH was psychologically abused as a child with food and now getting him to eat things like vegetables is a real struggle. They make him feel anxious and physically ill. However, I try to get him to eat healthy, but a lot of the time he either picks my meals apart (physically) or just doesn't eat it. I've gone years with making separate meals for us so there aren't too many or the wrong types of vegetables in his but it's a lot of extra effort. Now with the baby I need to sometimes make three separate meals when I cook and it's really frustrating. In the interests of time and sanity either I end up not eating healthy (cooking for him), or I put too many, or not cut up right or the wrong kind of vegetables in something and he won't eat it (cooking for me). So I either cook separate meals for everyone, or feel crappy when he won't eat what I've made for him.
He wishes he liked them, but as mentioned they either make him feel anxious or ill. So please don't tell me I should make him 'grow up' or similar.
Has anyone ever done any behavioral cognitive therapy on food or have any advice on that?
Any other suggestions? He offers to cook his own food, but frankly he ruins the pans and I have to clean up. I try to keep on top of making the separate meals, but I just wish we could all eat the same thing.
He wishes he liked them, but as mentioned they either make him feel anxious or ill. So please don't tell me I should make him 'grow up' or similar.
Has anyone ever done any behavioral cognitive therapy on food or have any advice on that?
Any other suggestions? He offers to cook his own food, but frankly he ruins the pans and I have to clean up. I try to keep on top of making the separate meals, but I just wish we could all eat the same thing.