Please don't think I'm a horrible person...

[sjwebb]

My hormones are raging the littlest thing just sets the the f*&^ off. I'm so tired of being patronized by other women. Especially women who have NO children. This girl on my facebook is sitting here telling me that if its a girl then I'm going to gain horrible weight, and I'm having horrible morning sickness and she keeps telling me "oh it will go away, it seems like its forever but after the first trimester it will go away" UGH! Its like listen, I have a child already. I know what the fuck is going to happen. You don't even have a child so don't sit there and give me advice on pregnancy and labor. Then she tries to tell me how she was in the room when someone gave birth so now she thinks she is a fucking know it all. UGH!!! Sorry for the rant. I just want to tell her off but I don't want to be mean.

 

[fizzypop]

How annoying!! How can you know what it's like if you've not done it?! This is my first so I've never given birth and I'd never try to give advice to someone!! Because I'm clueless!!!

Keep calm, I'd just say 'yes, I know' to everything she says.

 

[fizzypop]

Anyway, how is telling you you're going to get fat and be sick loads helpful in amy way?!!

 

[sjwebb]

Well it would be different for you to give advice cause at least your pregnant so you have a right, you can give people on advice on morning sickness and stuff you've been through but coming from her its annoying, cause she hasn't even ever been pregnant. Ugh. Thanks for being understanding and not judging. Haha.

 

[AngelUK]

She sounds like an idiot. I'd say to her: You do realise that I actually already HAVE a child, right? So therefore I wasn't just present at a birth but actually INVOLVED. And from then on if she doesn't stop just say yes, no, uh-huh, right. I don't think pointing out to her that you know just a tad more than a non mother is being horrible at all.

 

[sjwebb]

Thanks angel I think one more un wanted comment from her and I'm either going to tell her to just shove it and just delete her and be done with it...or I could just do both. I'm just not good at being mean to people haha.

 

[CrazyKitty]

I think you've done very well already. If I were in your position, I'd have lost my rag with her long ago! I'm currently working on our first so I have not experience of pregnancy beyond this point. I don't claim to know anything, I just have an idea based on what friends, relatives and you lovely ladies have told me (women who have actually been pregnant!) - I wouldn't claim to be an expert on something I've never experienced so I don't understand how someone can do that! If she keeps on, depending on how close you are with this woman, I'd simply say, "If you hadn't gathered, I already have one child. I know one pregnancy can differ greatly from another (again, what I've learnt from you ladies) but, seeings I have already been pregnant and given birth once, I think I have enough insight into what to expect from this child! OK?!?!?!". That might just be me getting a bit worked up on your behalf but it might work... xox

 

[sjwebb]

Like I told fizzypop, you may not be a mother yet, but at least your pregnant, therefore you do have a right to an opinion Ya know? You can give advice to where your at in your pregnancy so far, she hasn't got a CLUE what pregnancy is like.

 

[AFwife77]

Baha!

 

[Xpecta]

That happens to me too! It bothers me. I've been pregnant 3 times, and people talk down to me, and it really bothers me. Sometimes its just cause they're further along in their pregnancy, even if its their first! Sometimes I ask for advice, and if they respond that's fine, cause every pregnancy is different, but still...I can see where you're coming from. Hopefully you don't let it bother you too much!

 

[shorman]

I see why your annoyed but I really think she dint mean any harm sounds like she was actualy trying to be friendly so I wouldn't get to upset about it there's no harm
In smiling and just letting it go over you head

 

[sjwebb]

I'm really trying not to but yeah it just aggrevates me. Ugh

 

[megangrohl]

some people just dont get it! i would tell her where to go and how to get there to be totally honest. it makes u the bigger person to not even say anything. maybe you can just stop talking to her altogether? she has nothing to relate to you and by her saying that is totally uncalled for. she doesnt know how you are feeling, or how it feels to be pregnant so who the hell does she think she is! lol you sound like me, my hormones are raging and i get so angry so easy

 

[sjwebb]

Haha dont mess with us pregnant women, especially when we don't feel good and we're tired. Makes for one hell of a rollercoaster.

 

[Samah007]

My hormones are raging the littlest thing just sets the the f*&^ off. I'm so tired of being patronized by other women. Especially women who have NO children. This girl on my facebook is sitting here telling me that if its a girl then I'm going to gain horrible weight, and I'm having horrible morning sickness and she keeps telling me "oh it will go away, it seems like its forever but after the first trimester it will go away" UGH! Its like listen, I have a child already. I know what the fuck is going to happen. You don't even have a child so don't sit there and give me advice on pregnancy and labor. Then she tries to tell me how she was in the room when someone gave birth so now she thinks she is a fucking know it all. UGH!!! Sorry for the rant. I just want to tell her off but I don't want to be mean.

One of the things I've learned about pregnancy is it can be different based on the woman. Some of us have similar symptoms others have compeletly different ones.

Since this is my first child I often have the "old pros" telling me what to expect or dismissing symptoms I currently have. One "old pro" was telling me that I shouldn't be feeling any of the pains from stretching until much later (because she didn't). Well, I've had back pain and have felt the soreness from uterine stretching off and on since week 5. My OB says some women feel the pain, some don't.

 

[morganlove]

Everyyyu pregnancy is differant so she doesnt know n e think! Im pregnant with my first amd people keep telling me how often to eat, how much weight il gain, ect but i keep saying look I Know best for my body and my baby so shut it lool xx

 

[yumosh]

lol sorry to laugh.. our hormones are soo bitchy!! haaa I have this confidence now that Im pregnant of telling those I dont agree with to 'f##k off! i'm normally quite diplomatic but its all gone out the window!!

cant imagine what i'll be like with a huge bump...bloody hell..dont give me your opinions or else! but I feel like we have PREGNANCY-IMMUNITY..like diplomatic immunity..we can get away with just speaking our mind..

so, just tell that annoying smart arse to get pregnant herself and then give an opinion!

im done. thanks.

 

[sjwebb]

I definitely think we have some kind of immunity! No one should talk back to a pregnant lady. I mean after all we can't control what comes out of our mouth Damn hormones haha.

 

[animalcracker]

My hormones are raging the littlest thing just sets the the f*&^ off. I'm so tired of being patronized by other women. Especially women who have NO children. This girl on my facebook is sitting here telling me that if its a girl then I'm going to gain horrible weight, and I'm having horrible morning sickness and she keeps telling me "oh it will go away, it seems like its forever but after the first trimester it will go away" UGH! Its like listen, I have a child already. I know what the fuck is going to happen. You don't even have a child so don't sit there and give me advice on pregnancy and labor. Then she tries to tell me how she was in the room when someone gave birth so now she thinks she is a fucking know it all. UGH!!! Sorry for the rant. I just want to tell her off but I don't want to be mean.

Every pregnancy and every woman is different. Your friend is an idiot. I don't think this has anything to do with hormones...even if I wasn't pregnant I'd still think she was an ignorant idiot!

 

[sjwebb]

Have I told you girls how great it is to be a part of this group? I am SO glad you ladies can understand what I am going through and you don't judge. Its nice to just have a place to rant instead of literally biting everyones head off.