***PLEASE Help***Just Curious About the Month You Actually Conceived :)

[ambertwogood]

So, I am the typical pull out all the stops, become completely consumed by TTCing, buy everything under the sun to conceive, sift through hours of Google Search's and previous forums, and track anything and everything there is to track to try to conceive. Yes, I'm a complete weirdo I had my second CP in 3 months my last cycle (not including the one that I am currently in) For some reason this last CP hit me REALLY hard and I was completely devastated over it. Just absolutely gutted. So after the bleeding stopped, I just didn't have it in me to continue with all the craziness that I had been doing previously to conceive and just stopped all of it. I didn't do anything this cycle, AT ALL. I reset both of my monitors (my CB old model and my CB Advanced) and then just let things be. We have BD'd once this entire cycle and I'm not even sure that it was in time to be preO or even close to it, honestly Im pretty sure it was after my O, but my cycle's have been weird so there is really no telling bc I haven't been tracking anything this cycle.

ANYWAYS- I have jumped over to first tri because out of curiosity I had a question that I would like to ask you ladies, since you have obviously successfully conceived a sticky bean. What I'm wondering is about the cycle the you did conceive, what were you doing? Were you like me and doing everything and you just eventually got pregnant continuing to pull out all the stops, or did you decide to take a break and then fell pregnant? Did you try something new that you hadn't been doing previously the cycle you conceived? I guess I'm probably grasping at straws here, as now that I have dug myself out of the hole I fell into after the last CP and desperately hoping that this last cycle hasn't been a complete bust So, basically, I'm wanting to know just how many of you decided that you had had enough of all the stress and insanity we can put ourselves through when trying to conceive, esp. with all the "equipment" available to us at the click of key and mouse now, and stopped all of it and then surprisingly enough, actually fell pregnant that month [-o< Which, clearly with the smiley I've posted- I'm praying is a large majority of you

 

[HappyAnjeL]

I never did any of that...seems so stressful... we just decided it was time to stop "preventing" and had lots of and luckily fell pregnant easily. I feel bad even commenting on this as I know most people aren't as lucky. But didn't want to read and run

 

[TattyHead]

Hi Amber, I was trying to get pregnant for a couple of years, had a fertility specialist went through operations and SA for my OH. Eventually it was too much for my OH so we decided to stop & I got the mirena coil.
I have a blocked tube & pcos.
Fast forward just over a year, the coil was uncomfortable so I had it removed. 3 months later I was pregnant, I conceived whilst in the middle of moving house
We'd just bought a new car, sofa & moved into a smaller place because it was better for work. My area manager was moving me to a different store in view of progression....perfect timing

 

[Miss_Cellany]

With my first we'd been trying for about a year after a miscarriage (although i was only using opk's and symptoms to track my cycles so not as involved as you are!). The month they started investigating for PCOS, we stopped thinking it was going to happen naturally so I let go of the worry a little. Turned out later that month I didn't have pcos and then a week later I found out I was pregnant.

With this one we weren't trying at all. We were planning too but were waiting a bit when we had an oops moment. It was actually the only time we dtd that month and I ovulated about 3 days later (by symptoms). Turned out that was enough!

 

[ambertwogood]

Well.....Maybe there is hope that this cycle wasn't a complete bust. Thanks for the stories, ladies! They do make me feel better

 

[EllissMummy]

Our first we dtd once mid cycle and sure enough I was pregnant. With number 2 we dtd few days after end of period so was shocked but knew there was a chance we could be pregnant. With number 3 it was a complete shock and surprise. One failed pull out on our anniversary and bang here we are. We have been very lucky. Before our first we TRIED for a cycle and it drove me insane and the same 2nd time round. It didn't happen when I set out for it to happen but did when just chilled and let go.hope you get your sticky bean soon

 

[Kiwiberry]

We did not do anything other than having sex as much as we could. I did not want to make it a chore and lose any intimacy with our sex life. It took a few years to conceive both of our children. It is not the norm though. I just think that I have a really hard time getting pregnant.

 

[cleckner04]

I've always just done the sex every other day thing. First pregnancy which was a miscarriage took two months to conceive. Second pregnancy which was my first daughter took two months. Than I tried for another with ex husband and used a CB monitor and we tried months and nothing. The marriage failed from unrelated issues than met OH and pregnant within two months of being together although not trying. Miscarriage last month we weren't trying. Than tried right away and fell pregnant with no cycle between. For me, relaxing and not fussing is what works. The one instance of trying very seriously with the monitor was an epic failure. Too stressful and it's for the best anyways bc we ended up divorced but I definitely say relax. Just have fun with your OH and throw those legs up in the air in the end for good measure. That helped me to not get up right away after the deed was done so to say.

 

[Moom7900]

Hi, this pg was the result of one oops moment that happened to be the night before I ovulated. My last pregnancy I had my mirena removed and didn't do anything special. I don't know if I'd already ovulated that cycle, I just waited until my period started a couple of weeks later. For the next cycle I'd read loads about TTC, had bought an Ovulation kit and Conceive Plus lubricant etc. I got my smiley face and got all stressed about BD in time as I'd had a row with my husband haha. It turned out despite that smiley face I didn't actually ovulate until a week later but luckily had caught the egg without trying. I thought I was out as I was getting BFNs, then around 5 days til a week later I started with mild symptoms and got a BFP, which progressed into my lovely little girl.
I think sometimes the stress of trying can put pressure on your body, but it does help to have a basic knowledge. I think having sex every couple of days throughout as much of your cycle as possible is likely the best and most relaxed way of TTC and less pressurised.
On a side note, I don't know if Conceive Plus does anything for conception, but it was an amazing lubricant and really made a difference sensation-wise. If it wasn't so expensive I'd consider using it all the time ha.
Good luck with ttc xxxxxxx

 

[KBCupcake]

My daughter was unexpected as we had stopped trying because of 3 losses that year. We weren't doing anything special. This pregnancy I got pregnant 4 mos after removing my IUD. I was using OPKs and we had sex days 1 and 2 before ovulation. That's all we did.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Nothing. Just lots of dtd x

 

[PeppersCastle]

Our little one was a surprise baby! We conceived end of June.

I've diagnosed with PCOS and it's only been the last few years, after dramatic weight loss, that my periods have regulated somewhat (although I still skip 1-3 months per year).. I had the Nexplanon implant but had to have it removed after it triggered off serious depression for me. It was removed 1st of June, we conceived around the 27th!

I have heard that the removal of the implant can make you more fertile for a short time but I'm not sure how much truth that holds. I didn't know I wanted a child, my LO isn't even born yet and is already teaching me new things about myself xx

 

[broodymrs]

Both times I conceived right after a chemical. First time was cycle 11 and last try before seeking medical help so I pulled out all the stops. Bd pretty much every day, tracked cycle (which I did most cycles anyway), ate a special diet (zita west fertility and conception book if you're interested), took vits, Dh took vits and wore Korean hand therapy pellets on his fingers &#128514; Used conceive plus lube etc etc. It worked.

Ttc no 2 we'd already been ntnp for 2 years so were already seeing a fertility consultant. Cycle 4 had a chemical. Cycle 5 went for a hsg (tube flushing) and got pregnant that month. Tbh we didn't go to the same lengths as we did with no 1, no time or energy for that with a toddler running round! I used my clearblue monitor, we dtd on fertile days and one or two other days before. We only dtd 5 times the month we conceived. I took ttc vits and extra vits but that was about it. Tbh I think the hsg did the trick this time round, sheer luck last time.

I did have acupuncture for both no 1 and 2. Tbh though baby making isn't a science, if it were with all the technology we have now everyone would get pregnant first time round easy. I personally believe there's a lot of luck involved even when everything biologically is perfect.

Good luck Hun, don't get too manic and stressed as that won't help things! Easier said than done I know!

 

[hunni12]

I actually ended up pregnant a few days after my HSG procedure. I guess it opened up my tubes, but I only used opks to monitor

 

[salamander91]

With my first we we're TTC (tracking ovulation, temping etc...) I conceived the month we went away for a weekend for hubs birthday. We didn't track and just enjoyed ourselves. With my second we we're using ovulation tests but the month we conceived we were visiting my parents the weekend I o'd so could only dtd before and after. I really wasn't expecting to conceive that month!

This one was a surprise. We dtd about 5 days after I was meant to o but I must have ovulated a week late and accidentally caught the egg.

 

[Ellivort]

With DD we just decided hey lets have a baby. and we did and hit the mark 1st month trying. Then when we started trying for LO #2 we tried and tried and nothing happened. So we tried harder, charted, kept track. Still nothing. So then we tried clomid..again..and again...and nothing. and I stressed and I cried and I got depressed and so we went back to just NTNP and nothing happened until it did. 7 years later. Just like that. We had actually just decided to be mor eproactive and were in for our first consult with an RS.

The only way that didn't stress me out was trying and getting it first time, but that is not the case with 99% of people.

Now I've switched over from fretting about getting pregnant to fretting about staying pregnant and having a healthy baby. Overall I think the child bearing years are filled with stress!

 

[star_light]

We just want to try for #4 and we dtd 3-4 times in ovalation after every 3 days and it happened. ...I'm not use opks or temperature just use app online for my periods tracker and use that for my prediction of ovalation. ..

 

[kimmy04]

It took months to convieved or daughter who is now 2. I went through 1 miscarriage while ttc her. I was so dissappointed every month, more tests and more bfns. It finally happened though and I was so excited. Fast forward a couple years and we were not trying for a baby. We used protection 99% of the time. That 1 time we didn't.. I missed a period. I took a test and it was immediately positive I couldn't believe it. I honestly think the stress of ttc is what made it take so long for us last time.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

#1- lots of BD
#2- timed BD
#3- OPK
#4 (loss)- OPK, Soy Isoflavones.

 

[mrs unicorn]

I was doing all the bbt, opks and preseed stuff but both times I conceived I had stopped. The first time it was Christmas so I ditched it all, think we used preseed a couple of times (I had convinced myself I needed it - I didn't ) it was our third attempt of TTC. Sadly that was a MMC. We were devastated. I had an ERPC and we started TTC straight away again. Doing all the bbt, opks etc. Once we passed the third cycle I got very down. On the fourth cycle I stopped it all, including coming on this site, apart from opks. I actually od 3 days later than normal that cycle - I had given up and was very upset about it all. I even booked into have some blood tests done (day 3 and 21) then a couple of days later BFP!! I was so shocked. I'm now almost 12 weeks and have seen our little bubba a few times (which is completely overwhelming every time!)

Try not to stress yourself out. I know it's really hard not to let it become all consuming. But I can't get away from the fact it happened (twice) when I ditched the charting and just bd instead - sort of every other day for 10/14 days. Sending you lots of luck and baby dust!