Please help me -- But please don't judge or take offence..

[DanielleM]

I have to say I wish all I had to worry about was if my son had ginger hair but he doesn't he has multiple disabilities, he is in a wheelchair which holds him back in ways you wouldn't/couldn't even imagine infact I am not going to waste any more time with this thread it has highly annoyed the hell out of me!!! Get a grip!!!

 

[lhancock90]

I have to say I wish all I had to worry about was if my son had ginger hair but he doesn't he has multiple disabilities, he is in a wheelchair which holds him back in ways you wouldn't/couldn't even imagine infact I am not going to waste any more time with this thread it has highly annoyed the hell out of me!!! Get a grip!!!

Excuse me? Yes its incredibly sad that son has disablitys and is held back in many different ways but this forum is for advice and support! Not everyones problems are the same or as big as each others! And as a redhead myself i actually understand where the OP is coming from! If you don't have anything nice to say you shouldn't say anything at all.

 

[welshwarriors]

My son is strawberry blonde....we call him our ginger ninja. Most people comment how lovely his hair is and tbh if a child wants to bully another child they gonna find something to bully about...too tall, too small, too skinny, too fat, wrong jacket, wrong hobby etc

 

[DanielleM]

I have to say I wish all I had to worry about was if my son had ginger hair but he doesn't he has multiple disabilities, he is in a wheelchair which holds him back in ways you wouldn't/couldn't even imagine infact I am not going to waste any more time with this thread it has highly annoyed the hell out of me!!! Get a grip!!!

Excuse me? Yes its incredibly sad that son has disablitys and is held back in many different ways but this forum is for advice and support! Not everyones problems are the same or as big as each others! And as a redhead myself i actually understand where the OP is coming from! If you don't have anything nice to say you shouldn't say anything at all.

Walk a mile in my shoes love then come back....jog on....

 

[Lellow]

In defence of Danielle even i thought initially that in the grand scheme of things, OP has a healthy happy baby and worrying about her hair colour rather than enjoying her baby to her fullest is a little odd TO ME so i can see how this could kind of thread could be a slight kick in the teeth, so id cut Danielle alot of slack to be fair.

Anyway........

I have always found red heads really attractive, my brothers best friend is FIT!!!

Your daughter is and will remain beautiful regardless of how genetics work out.
At school there were plenty of red heads in my yr and there was no bullying or name calling whatsoever, most of them were part of the popular groups.

Children will bully each other for umpteen reasons hun - You cant assume it'll just be for her hair colour...

 

[Melissa_M]

I have to say I wish all I had to worry about was if my son had ginger hair but he doesn't he has multiple disabilities, he is in a wheelchair which holds him back in ways you wouldn't/couldn't even imagine infact I am not going to waste any more time with this thread it has highly annoyed the hell out of me!!! Get a grip!!!

Do you go around posting this on any thread where the person has a smaller problem than yours??

Of course it's terrible what you and your son are going through, but no need to belittle other people's concerns. Everyone's issues are going to look insignificant compared to yours.

 

[KatieB]

I have to say I wish all I had to worry about was if my son had ginger hair but he doesn't he has multiple disabilities, he is in a wheelchair which holds him back in ways you wouldn't/couldn't even imagine infact I am not going to waste any more time with this thread it has highly annoyed the hell out of me!!! Get a grip!!!

Excuse me? Yes its incredibly sad that son has disablitys and is held back in many different ways but this forum is for advice and support! Not everyones problems are the same or as big as each others! And as a redhead myself i actually understand where the OP is coming from! If you don't have anything nice to say you shouldn't say anything at all.

Walk a mile in my shoes love then come back....jog on....

There's no need to be so hostile. People come on here for support and advice, not to be told to get a grip. If it annoys you so much, why can't you just ignore it and not post.

To OP: I think redheads are gorgeous, beautiful colour hair xx

 

[lynys]

LO has reddish brown hair as both myself and her dad have reddish tones in ours. I think it is absolutely adorable! Her eyes are turning a greenish colour, so she is going to be absolutely gorgeous. I tease daddy all the time about our ginger girl, but she is absolutely beautiful and it is only a tease.

 

[SabrinaKat]

My favourite book as a child was 'Anne of Green Gables', who hated her red hair! I was born with dark red hair and then it went dark, sob, so I have been dying it for years...

My DH has joked about having a ginger baby, but I told him that he was lucky that I, as an adorable red-head, was/had been willing to sleep with him, let alone marry him!

best wishes

 

[MizzDeeDee]

I have to say I wish all I had to worry about was if my son had ginger hair but he doesn't he has multiple disabilities, he is in a wheelchair which holds him back in ways you wouldn't/couldn't even imagine infact I am not going to waste any more time with this thread it has highly annoyed the hell out of me!!! Get a grip!!!

Excuse me? Yes its incredibly sad that son has disablitys and is held back in many different ways but this forum is for advice and support! Not everyones problems are the same or as big as each others! And as a redhead myself i actually understand where the OP is coming from! If you don't have anything nice to say you shouldn't say anything at all.

Walk a mile in my shoes love then come back....jog on....

^^ This is more obnoxious then anything else that's ever been said in this thread. Why would you come in here and pick a fight?

I'm sorry about your son but everything doesn't revolve around your situation. This wasn't about you so don't highjack this thread and make it that way.

 

[hinkybinky]

My husband had very red hair at school. He tells me that, beyond the usual nicknames, he did not get 'picked on' for his hair colour. I am a teacher at primary school and have honestly never heard children saying nasty things about other kids for the colour of their hair. I have a girl in my class with beautiful light red hair and another with really rich auburn brown. Really gorgeous. I have noticed that it tends to be adults that are mean about it, trying to be funny. I love my son's hair colour and wouldn't change it.

 

[dustbunny]

The father of my baby is ginger and my sister and mum keep ribbing me about the baby being born ginger. But its family jokes, nothing serious at all. Sometimes I do catch myself 'worrying' but there will come a time when everything slots into place. And... slightly different... I was born white blond, as white a blond can be and am now dark brown naturally.

 

[mummy2lola]

I have to say I wish all I had to worry about was if my son had ginger hair but he doesn't he has multiple disabilities, he is in a wheelchair which holds him back in ways you wouldn't/couldn't even imagine infact I am not going to waste any more time with this thread it has highly annoyed the hell out of me!!! Get a grip!!!

Excuse me? Yes its incredibly sad that son has disablitys and is held back in many different ways but this forum is for advice and support! Not everyones problems are the same or as big as each others! And as a redhead myself i actually understand where the OP is coming from! If you don't have anything nice to say you shouldn't say anything at all.

Walk a mile in my shoes love then come back....jog on....

I think there's only one person in this thread that needs to "jog on".

We are all very sorry about the daily struggles u go and ur son go through but that doesn't give u the right to b so horrid to people u don't even know.this lady has come onto a support forum for something she is genuinely worried about.it doesn't matter how big or small.she didn't start the thread to aggitate someone she doesn't even know and it's not all about u.I'd like to think others have given u alot more support than u show to others

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

You know, before I came here I was going to write exactly what DanielleMitch said, so yeah I agree.

I am sorry but to worry about hair colour? really?

 

[lhancock90]

I have to say I wish all I had to worry about was if my son had ginger hair but he doesn't he has multiple disabilities, he is in a wheelchair which holds him back in ways you wouldn't/couldn't even imagine infact I am not going to waste any more time with this thread it has highly annoyed the hell out of me!!! Get a grip!!!

Excuse me? Yes its incredibly sad that son has disablitys and is held back in many different ways but this forum is for advice and support! Not everyones problems are the same or as big as each others! And as a redhead myself i actually understand where the OP is coming from! If you don't have anything nice to say you shouldn't say anything at all.

Walk a mile in my shoes love then come back....jog on....

You know what. Walk a mile in mine, love. You have no idea what struggles i have yet i didn't rip into the OP! Are you going to go on every thread and have a go at everyone with a lesser problem? Its a forum for support.

 

[MizzDeeDee]

You know, before I came here I was going to write exactly what DanielleMitch said, so yeah I agree.

I am sorry but to worry about hair colour? really?

Though it might seem petty to you do you really think it's right to come into someone's thread and say, " You think you've got problems- because I have problems. You don't know what real problems are."

In this forum I see women complain about things that I WISH were problems that I had to deal with in the past but I would never tell them that their problems were silly, even if I thought they were. I just think it is rude and unsympathetic and I don't have the right.

In the whole broad scheme of things it might not be a big deal but coming onto a thread and trying to talk down to people because you have bigger problems is really wrong. I'm sorry.

 

[aliss]

It's a sad fact of life that there will always be someone who has had a harder time than you, unfortunately. If we had to abide by that rule, nobody here would be allowed to be upset about anything.

What is trivial and stupid to one person, may not be to another person. There are thousands of mothers on this planet whose children have endured even worse circumstances than ones mentioned here, that doesn't mean that nobody has the right to be upset about something else.

I too, don't consider hair colour to be an issue at all, but that doesn't mean that the OP's feelings are invalid.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

woah, you seriously have the wrong end of the stick. I would understand if red/ginger hair was actually bad? but its not?...

 

[lhancock90]

Ofc none of us think its bad! But children can be cruel and because red hair is less popular it becomes just another thing for children to pick on, i had my fair share of names as a child but i wasn't fussed.

 

[MizzDeeDee]

woah, you seriously have the wrong end of the stick. I would understand if red/ginger hair was actually bad? but its not?...

I think you're missing the point. The point was not that being a ginger is bad but that she was concerned that her child would be ridiculed for having it.... which does happen. She was worried about her child being bullied- she doesn't have an issue with redheads.


Regardless though, should you REALLY come into someone's thread and tell them that their concerns aren't valid.. even if you feel that way? Of course not.