squirrel.
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Hi ladies,
I'm here asking for some advice about what to call our baby. A few years ago I fell in love with the name Isla. I consulted my husband (I love talking baby names, even when I'm not pregnant!) and he loved it too. We were set, if evere we were to have a daughter we would call her Isla.
Fast forward a year and our very close friends were pregnant. I was casually asking about names and they said if it was a girl they loved the name Isla. My face dropped. I seem to remember my reaction being along the lines of "What?!" We all laughed it off then, but inside I was devastated. Well, it did turn out to be a girl and after they found out and announced they would definitely be calling her Isla I spoke to them honestly and asked them about how they would feel if we still used it. They knew how much I loved it and that we'd already decided on it before they announced they were going to use the name and I think they felt bad for me. They said they didn't mind.
Fast forward again and their baby Isla is now 6 months old. When we found out we were having a girl I spoke to them about it once more. They seemed genuinly fine with it; though they joked that they would always say theirs came first.
I kind of put the idea of the name Isla out of my mind, it felt kind of wrong. I didn't know if they were being honest when they said they didn't mind and I also didn't want everyone thinking we'd copied them. We decided on Evie instead, which is a name I like, but don't love. Subconsciously this baby has been Isla from the start and when I call her Evie it feels wrong... Isla is the name that automatically springs to mind.
As I get closer to the due date I know I will always regret not calling her Isla. Our friends have stated they're okay with it and they will probably be moving back to NZ in a few years (which sucks, as they're really good friends), so our daughters probably won't grow up together anyway, but a huge part of me still feels it's wrong. Is it treading on their toes? Will people judge us and think we copied them? I don't know why that would bother me anyway - probably because it's not true and I don't want people thinking it is... ugh! I wish I just didn't care.
What would you do?
Thanks very much for your advice in advance.
I'm here asking for some advice about what to call our baby. A few years ago I fell in love with the name Isla. I consulted my husband (I love talking baby names, even when I'm not pregnant!) and he loved it too. We were set, if evere we were to have a daughter we would call her Isla.
Fast forward a year and our very close friends were pregnant. I was casually asking about names and they said if it was a girl they loved the name Isla. My face dropped. I seem to remember my reaction being along the lines of "What?!" We all laughed it off then, but inside I was devastated. Well, it did turn out to be a girl and after they found out and announced they would definitely be calling her Isla I spoke to them honestly and asked them about how they would feel if we still used it. They knew how much I loved it and that we'd already decided on it before they announced they were going to use the name and I think they felt bad for me. They said they didn't mind.
Fast forward again and their baby Isla is now 6 months old. When we found out we were having a girl I spoke to them about it once more. They seemed genuinly fine with it; though they joked that they would always say theirs came first.
I kind of put the idea of the name Isla out of my mind, it felt kind of wrong. I didn't know if they were being honest when they said they didn't mind and I also didn't want everyone thinking we'd copied them. We decided on Evie instead, which is a name I like, but don't love. Subconsciously this baby has been Isla from the start and when I call her Evie it feels wrong... Isla is the name that automatically springs to mind.
As I get closer to the due date I know I will always regret not calling her Isla. Our friends have stated they're okay with it and they will probably be moving back to NZ in a few years (which sucks, as they're really good friends), so our daughters probably won't grow up together anyway, but a huge part of me still feels it's wrong. Is it treading on their toes? Will people judge us and think we copied them? I don't know why that would bother me anyway - probably because it's not true and I don't want people thinking it is... ugh! I wish I just didn't care.
What would you do?
Thanks very much for your advice in advance.