Please please help me......

[Jade85]

I have just found out I am pregnant by my DS's father, we have always been casual but he was on the brink of moving back up here to try properly, get a nice house etc. He has been for a job interview in the area and has a good chance of being offered the job this week.

Thing is he doesn't want me to keep this baby (DS is 13 months and I also have a 6 year old from a previous relationship) if I do he says its all off, we will never be in a relationship as he doesn't agree with the circumstances and it will ruin everything

I've been texting him all day begging him to change his mind. he says no chance. So I've just snapped and sent him a message out of anger saying, fine have it your way, hope your happy etc. He hasn't text back.

Thing is I don't think I can cope with 3 children, my youngest will be around 21/22 months old when this baby will be born. I just don't think I can do it alone

 

[SophiasMummy]

sorry to hear hes being such a crappy person hun, havent really got any good advice as I only have one LO but do you really want to be with a man that is trying to force you to end the pregnancy? Xx

 

[Jade85]

I know, I know I should tell him to take a run and jump. I'm just so scared to raise 3 children alone

 

[Stargazer77]

Wow. So he's willing to sacrifice his first child with you, because of his second.

He sounds swell.

(((Hugs)))

 

[Jade85]

I asked him that, I said so you're gonna see your Son but not this baby?? He didn't really answer the question just said I would rather you come to your senses and realise a baby is a stupid thing to do now.

 

[Jade85]

I should also add he did this when I was pregnant with my Son. He didn't talk to me for the 1st 16 weeks and repeatedly told me not to have him

 

[Stargazer77]

Well he should have the snip shouldn't he. And he should man up, take responsibility, and stop telling you what to do.

 

[Jade85]

You know what I didn't think of telling HIM to have the snip!!!

He said he doesn't want another unplanned baby, and his Mum will flip as she doesn't have a high opinion of me anyway (sorry but I've met this woman once!)

He then went on to ask me how many times am I gonna do this? Just keep getting pregnant? arrrrrrrggghhh I'm so annoyed, confused, worried, angry, pissed off!!!!

xx

 

[Stargazer77]

Tell the Dick head it takes two to make a baby. Or maybe he can't count that high.

Honestly gurl, seize this opportunity to get rid and find yourself a real man.

Good luck x

 

[AbbynChloe]

I replied to your other thread! Im so sorry sweetie xxxxxxx

Boys are beyond hard work! xxxxx

 

[Jade85]

I'm just so torn

I think he's worried about telling his family, I should mention at this point we're both 26!! Once that's done maybe he'll be relieved?? I'm not sure.

BUT I know he won't tell his family unless he absolutely HAS to ie I keep the baby and get to god knows how far gone

He will know by the end of the week if he has this job and if he does I jst know he's gonna be asking me "Well am I taking the job or not?"

It just feels like in order for us to have a proper family ad nice home I have to forsake the life of my child?? Is that too big a compromise?? I think so.

I told him this is even more reason to make a go of things, but he's not having any of it.

xx

 

[littlekitten8]

I cant believe he is trying to force you to get rid of your child. Sounds like a complete arse. I agree that its too big a compromise. Massive hugs hun xx