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[laurac1988]

Hi all,

Just wanted to have a rant on here.

Today I was on the bus with my partner, on the way to our local pub for lunch. We were just minding our business, she had her arm around me, some woman then thought it was her place to call us disgusting lesbians, she then phoned her friend to say that she was sitting on the bus and there was these two disgusting dykes and she had to move because she couldn't LOOK at us as we were so disgusting. This lady had a young baby on her lap and by her own admission was on her way to pick up her other children from school. She wasn't an old lady. Probably early thirties.

We soon got off the bus at our stop, her shouting "dykes!" after us. DP told her to be quiet several times when we were on the bus, but I never want these things to turn into slagging matches.

I just wanted to say, although I know no one here would be as small minded as this ridiculous woman, please think about what you are saying about people. Please think about how what you say will affect that person. Although I was strong in front of this woman, I crumbled as soon as we got to the pub. Literally sobbed for near on half an hour. It has ruined my day completely. For those of you who are not aware, I have been signed off work for the past two weeks with stress and anxiety and things like this are part of the reason why.

I also ask, please, if you see anything like this happen please intervene. Even just to say you don't think it's appropriate. The lady was black, so I don't understand how she didn't think about her actions considering that at some point in her life she had probably been victimised over her skin colour. Like sexuality, it's something that you can't change.

If every person here can help educate someone they know, who is maybe to as broad minded as themselves, the world will be a better place. I'm sick of being judged for who I am. It's not fair to be judged on race, sex, sexuality, weight, hair colour, eye colour or whatever else.

 

[Ceejay123]

Owh bless you, what a vile and pathetic woman! You must have felt so upset.

I can't believe there are still people in the world like this, do they have no common sense or decency! Argh, I'm so sorry this woman had to be so small and narrow minded. x

 

[chell5544]

I hate the fact that people feel like they can act like this its horrible
My sisters is now married to her wife so if I was on that bus I would not of kept my mouth shut no one deserves to be treated like that
The thing that annoys me is that if she was doing that to say a coloured person then she would be arrested for being rastists why is it any different

 

[Emma&Freya]

I never understand why people are so horrid to people.

Freya has an aunty who is a lesbian and although me and her do not talk I do want Freya to be proud of her!

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

omg that is awful

 

[leahtaba]

thank god people like that are a minority. i def would of said something if i was on that bus. i know its easier said than done but please try not to let people like that get you down. instead feel sad that she is an ignorant uneducated horror.

 

[Ceejay123]

Indeed, feel sorry for this woman, she's merely ignorant and rude! I also wouldn't have kept my mouth shut.. Well I like to think I wouldn't. I have a lot of close lesbian friends and they're amazing and strong women. I wouldn't discriminate against them in the slightest. Your sexual orientation doesn't affect who you are as a person - Just like your skin colour or race don't. Ignorance bugs me! people need to judge WHO a person is, not WHAT they are. x

 

[dgirllamius]

ugh, that's just awful.

I feel sorry for the baby she had on her lap. can only imagine that baby will grow up to be just as nasty.

it's the 21st century, people should accept these things by now :/

 

[AP]

Things like that piss me off! Folk need to get a grip!
Im a terrible one for retaliating though. I had a lot of stick with my first girlfriend but it was generally non-educated twits

 

[alicecooper]

Wow what an ignorant woman. The funny thing is that people see fit to judge others like this, and yet they don't even take into account that by being this way, it is THEMSELVES who are the ones who are morally questionable.

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That's the ludicrously ironic thing about people who judge others. They think they are so morally clean, yet from an observer's point of view it's almost laughable. The views they hold are so far from being peaceful or Christian or morally right that it's just pure hypocrisy.


So OP, honestly, don't take it to heart. So the woman disapproves of homosexuality...meh...so what? Like you said, she probably has experienced some form of racial intolerance in her own lifetime, so she's nothing more than a hypocrite.

Forgive them, they know not what they do

 

[babyerin]

I pity the homophobic twit because it must be awful carrying around sp much unnecessary hatred around with her every day, she must be deeply unhappy and jealous of anyone who looks happy with their partner like you do with yours.
Be true to who you are, my best friend is trans/gender neutral and mu daughter and I adore them so much. Its the person behind the gender/sexuality that counts.

 

[Boothh]

It honestly baffles me that people have a problem with what other people's sexuality is. I canttttt understand it!!
To me it's the same as me hating someone because they like brown bread and I like white!
Really really struggle to understand why people care so much about other peoples business

What an idiot!

 

[violet chase]

sorry some small minded moron ruined your day It seems to be the "norm" at the minute in London to hear about these rants on public transport.

 

[moderntate]

I honestly don't know how you or your partner controlled yourselves. I would have several choice words to say to her that would soon pull her head out of her backside!

 

[Natasha2605]

How horrible . So sorry you experienced that

 

[lucy_x]

I pity the homophobic twit because it must be awful carrying around sp much unnecessary hatred around with her every day, she must be deeply unhappy and jealous of anyone who looks happy with their partner like you do with yours.
Be true to who you are, my best friend is trans/gender neutral and mu daughter and I adore them so much. Its the person behind the gender/sexuality that counts.

This entirely. I pity her for her lack of understanding, god help any of her children should they be anything different to her expectations.

 

[Annie77]

I'm sorry that you experienced this. As for her being black, perhaps she has experienced racial abuse and by then abusing you because of your sexual orientation, she feels better about herself?
Not that i am making excuses of course, i have just seen those who are bullied and victimised then turn on other people as if it helps them feel some sense of power or identity.

I hope you are okay? People can be so cruel

 

[Tegans Mama]

If I was you I would go to your local police station and report it. The bus company will have CCTV of what happened and it is a hate crime, no matter how minor, and these things have a MASSIVE effect on the way we live our lives. Being a lesbian has got jack all to do with anyone except yourselves. We don't use buses anymore (thankfully) but we have had our fair share of abuse on the bus in the past. I also start crying when stuff like this happens but wifey is better at dealing with it than me.

 

[MamaTex]

Don't feel bad because of that woman. Feel bad for that woman because she is ignorant and probably a miserable c***! I am sorry you had such a bad day yesterday. Some people really have a lot of nerve!! Most people don't think like that. I know I would have said something to her if I were on that bus with you.

 

[Biscuitbaby]

I just wanted to leave a hug xxx

I seen a status this morning on Facebook which said something like
We live in a society that feels more
comfortable seeing a man holding guns than the hand of another man
And then I read your post, I'm so sorry xxx I really wonder how ppl like that justify their actions!??