PLEASE, somebody help me

[Jess84]

Hi everyone, I just posted in the first trimester forum and got told there was a more specific forum so im going to copy and paste;


"I am nearly 10 weeks pregnant and suffering with terrible hyperemesis. As I sit here typing I am fighting off tears. I've had to be hospitalised twice because of my inability to keep anything down at all, not even water. I was initially prescribed promethazine which did nothing, followed by prochloporizine which did nothing. I then ended up being put into hospital for a few days on fluids because my body was so weak. While in there they gave me promethezine injections which helped a small bit but not much. They tried me on cyclazine tablets that did nothing. They discharged me on ondansatron tablets which seemed to help. A few days later those tablets stopped working and Id ended up back in hospital needing fluids and help because my body was severely dehydrated and back in starvation mode again. They tried me on metaclopromide through my iv this time and it didn't help. Next they tried cyclizine through my iv twice and both times I nearly lost consciousness because of it. Finally they put ondansatron through my iv and this helped.

I was discharged 3 days ago this time with both ondansatron and metaclopromide tablets and im still suffering terribly. Im still throwing up all the time and if i do manage to keep anything down I feel like an elephant is sat on my stomach the discomfort is unbelievable.I don't want a third hospital stay. Im struggling to care for my first child who I was also very ill with but not quite as bad as this. I feel like the shittest pregnant woman in the world, not to mention the overwhelming guilt im feeling from how much medication im having to take. Please, can someone help me with advice or anything. My body is falling apart, im falling apart."

After I wrote this I ran to the toilet and threw up again and then promptly fell about sobbing. The all day debilitating nausea is bad enough without the constant vomiting on top. Im starting to resent being pregnant my head is all over the place, its being going on non stop since 5 weeks. I just don't know what to do anymore.

 

[shocker]

I wish I could give you a big hug Since you've been through this before I cant say I really know what to suggest, please dont feel guilty about having to take this medication first off. Dehydration is much more dangerous for you and baby, not to mention the effects on your mental health when your being sick so often! Is there anyone who can help you look after your other child? Have you discussed possibly scheduling rehydrating IVs or home care with your doctor? For me in the first tri no tablets or IVs made any difference, i was still in bed 24/7 with a bucket next to the bed and it just wouldnt stop. It comes in waves i think, between weeks 18 and 22 i actually felt much better and apart from last week i havnt needed hospitalisation since first tri. I cant imagine how hard it must be looking after another child while dealing with HG! I dont know if any of my advice will actually help but this is what i've found helpful for me?

- eat/drink whatever you can, whenever you can! If you get the urge for a milkshake at 5am and you can get your hands on one then go for it. If you cant drink water (i find it incredibly difficult even now to drink still water without being repulsed) then drink anything at all, diet coke/lucozade anything at all! Forget about what you know to be not advised for caffeine reasons and whatnot, if you can get a caffeine free version of fizzy drinks great but if you cant and you can drink them (i finf fizzy things help my stomach) then just drink them, its better than not getting fluids and there were many weeks i could drink nothing but lucozade, but it kept me hydrated and out of hospital and helped me stop losing weight so drastically. The same applies to food, if the only thing you can stomach is something 'bad' then dont berate yourself. I used to feel so so guilty, but anything that stays down and any bit of nourishment is better than nothing.

- Try and keep something in your stomach, small things even, so long as theres something! Being sick on an empty stomach is sooo soooo painful and even if you know you'll probably be sick after do try! I used to sit at the table in the kitchen crying and trying to stuff toast in my mouth, i had no mind for it but it stopped me tearing my oesophagus and was a lot less draining physically to throw up with something in my stomach.

- After you eat, lie down, in silence if possible for at least 20 minutes. This gives you a chance to absorb some nutrients, in the early days i'd lay on the couch with my eyes shut tight and my jaw and fists clenched trying not to be sick while feeling so nauseous it took every bit of strength not to vomit but i'd do it for as long as possible and then if i did end up being sick after a half hour or an hour i'd feel somewhat better knowing i'd gotten at least some of the benefits of it

Theres a facebook group for people going through hyperemesis, people discuss treatments and its a place to rant if your having a tough day, hope it helps

https://www.facebook.com/groups/162154430519226/

 

[mummySS]

I feel for you so badly and we've all been through this on the hyperemesis forum - please join us and you can have support there. https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/g...s/131902-hyperemesis-sufferers-unite-239.html

I can't give you any better advice than shocker has above. How far along are you? Just please hang in there, it does get better after a while, the first few weeks are the worst.

 

[missy1]

Aw you poor thing, I know how you feel, it's awful. I can't really add anything to the good advice from Shocker. I'm going through it myself now and went through it with my first baby too. I was lucky last time in that I was cometely better by 18 weeks. I'm almost 12 weeks now and feel rubbish.
I felt better when speaking with the other HG sufferers on this forum, it's good to know you're not alone and there are other people out there who know exactly what you're going through and you can get support from one another. I really hope you start to get some relief soon, sending hugs xxx

 

[Jess84]

Thank you everyone so much for your replies. I had a slightly better day yesterday, I still threw up a lot but I felt a small bit better (ill take any improvement at all!) I also tried gaviscon tablets after I had a bit of dinner and they definitely helped ease the huge elephant sat on my stomach. I still felt pressure but some was relieved for sure.

Shocker I know what you mean about water, im repulsed by it too. I used to live off water, juice and fresh orange. All of which just disgusts me now. Im drinking a lot of flavored fizzy fruit water its the only thing I seem to want, and I too drank lucozade to boost my energy during my hospital visits. I've cut down on meals too, im too afraid to eat much because of the vomiting and elephant pressure on my stomach. So im trying my best to snack little and often which is hard when basically all food makes you want to hurl. My parents are caring for my son a lot at the moment my partner is away with work and has been for a few weeks however he is back soon thank goodness I know our little boy will be glad to have at least one healthy happy parent back for now only daddy can fill that role at the moment unfortunately. Luckily he is still young and doesn't fully understand what's going on.

MummySS im 10 weeks now, thank you to both you and missy for suggesting the HG forum, ill check it out.

Hope everyone's HG improves soon. I hate so badly how this is not recognised properly. On my last hospital visit I heard one of the nurses refer to me as the "morning sickness girl". I wanted to slap her across the face so bad! It makes me so sad and jealous when I see a healthy glowing pregnant person, I wonder why I can't be normal like them. But its all worth it in the end Xx

 

[lizziedripping]

Oh sweetie I can't say I've had hg myself (never hospitalised or dehydrated) but my nausea and vomiting was severe enough with my daughter to make me feel total sympathy with the poor ladies who do suffer with it It must be awful, and I have felt that all day, debilitating nausea which pretty much makes life difficult to cope with. There are some wonderful women here who have been exactly where you are and I hope you find some comfort in that darlin xxx

 

[lizziedripping]

Oh and btw, I carried twin boys in my last pregnancy so the ms was fairly intense (tho still nowhere near as severe as with my daughter), and I discovered that chewing gum from the moment I woke up really helped take the edge off and got me thru the hour long school run each day without actually being sick. Although it may not help with severe hyperemesis, it's worth a try xx

 

[mummySS]

Jess I feel bad too not being able to look after my little boy, he's 17 months so I'm sure at least he won't remember any of this.

It totally sucks but as we all know it'll be worth it in the end... I know that end seems a long way off now... I suffered HG my last pregnancy and you really do forget how awful it is.

Hang in there honey x x