PND Support Thread

[ALY]

Jenny
I no how you feel i was the same and was just looking after robyn and sam cos that is wat you do x
but i can honesly with ronym i didnt love her was just doing my job of looking after her
am now feeling a lot better than what i was x
Hun if you ever need anyone to talk to just come on here and we will do our best to help you but if you want you can also pm me anytime

 

[jenny_wren]

thankyou
it's nice to hear success stories

cant wait to start feeling like a
loving mother ...

x​

 

[ALY]

I was the same hun all i wanted to do was feel like a proper mum if that makes sence x
Hun you will get there and it il be wen you least expect it i was layed in bed one night wen i got the urge to go give my kids a kiss for no reason and then i knew that i loved them x
it will take time and were ALL here if you need us

 

[jenny_wren]

aw thankyou ​

 

[Jkelmum]

Jenny sounds like when I had Katie ...I fell completly inlove with her at 13 months old after she had a acciedent x

 

[elm]

Hi Jenny - sorry you're here too . I'd really recommend just trying the councelling - I felt the same way about people not understanding and the first woman I saw wasn't at all what I'd expected or needed as it didn't feel like she understood at all. I'm seeing a nurse now who specialised in cognitive behavioural therapy and I'm already seeing links between things about why I'm feeling how I do and I've only had an assessment with her so far.

If you go to a parent and baby unit they deal with pnd all the time and it's so reassuring to hear that some of the things you're feeling and thinking are common with pnd.

I've been depressed before and just took tablets and I'm starting to see that if I'd accepted councelling before that things might be different now. Not that it's any good thinking that way but I really recommend giving it a go if you've been offered it xxx (I took my motivation from wanting to be a better mother if that's any help to you - I'm a quiet person and have never really liked talking about how I'm feeling!).

Shifter.... I didn't go today either... It was totally because I just didn't want to be in that situation, I'd got no energy or desire to move... Sorry !! Next week?! xxx

 

[jenny_wren]

thankyou elm

i think i'll see how the bonding
goes and if i still feel the way i do
after trying my hardest i'll give councelling
a go i really dont wanna be on medication
i'd feel better getting through it without
the drugs

xx​

 

[Shifter]

Next week elm. Definitely

 

[Mama1985]

Hey everyone.... I think I might be suffering from PND.

I dont feel weepy or anything, usually I feel fine, I just dont feel emtionally bonded to the baby, I dont feel connected to her at all, I look at her and its like someone elses baby.
I can take care of her physically, (Nappy changing, etc) but when it comes to emotionlly being there for her, I can't, not like this.
On top of this, I dont mind dealing with her when Im on my own, but in the back of my mind im always thinking I wish my mum or my fiancee was here so I can hand her over!!

I dont even feel like a mum, I dont feel different from before my pregnancy at all! I was expecting to feel a little different but I feel excatly the same!! I dont even feel mum love for her! Just....well duh I do love her, just not that Awww mummy love.
Its so frustrating!!!

and on top of that!! when I took her in for her 6 week check and they kept badgering me about getting the feed down her, cos she wasnt putting on much weight and well, it just made me feel like a failure, I was thinking ok I may not have the mum love feeling but I can take of her physically...but then they are telling me 'its all wrong' and im trying to tell them what she is like and they are basically saying its not good enough...I just felt really bad, I was trying my best and it was all wrong, it made me doubt myself, it made me ask the question can I cope??? EURgH!!

And then all this happens with her heart, and im like I hope she is ok and that is it¬!!!! I didnt cry, I didnt feel upset in any way, just a little concern, like I would over any baby thats ill!!

I actually came home one evening to sort myself out, I showered chilled out etc... and I didnt miss her at all!!! Yea I was a litte concerened (not much though) but that was it!! I was so frustrated with myself, I just couldnt believe it, I feel like im dead inside!!!

 

[elm]

Hi Mama1985 xxx Have you been able to talk to anyone about how you're feeling? I don't know if it's pnd or not but I can tell you that when I mentioned about not having that rush of love just after birth the nurse I'm seeing for counselling said that loads of women don't have that especially with a first baby and that it's a relationship that grows and needs working on.

I'm absolutely certain that you're not alone in what you're feeling, I relate to the feeling dead inside feeling sometimes. You will feel those mummy love feelings - it's just finding out what steps you need to take to get there xxx

 

[nataliecn]

Well... My appointment is monday. Hopefully I'll get the help I need so that I can get through this!

Sometimes I find I get really frustrated on here when people keep saying "it's easy"... must be nice not struggling with pnd..

 

[elm]

Well... My appointment is monday. Hopefully I'll get the help I need so that I can get through this!

Sometimes I find I get really frustrated on here when people keep saying "it's easy"... must be nice not struggling with pnd..

Hope your appointment goes really well, who is it with? xxx

 

[nataliecn]

just with my doctor!
finally scheduled my appointment to talk about it..

 

[elm]

That's not 'just', that's fantastic Hope you've got a good dr and s/he can set you down the right path to getting better as quickly as possible xxx

 

[Shifter]

Hope it goes well natalie

 

[ALY]

Nataliecn hope evrything goes well for you with your appointment hun

 

[elm]

How did it go natalie?

I had my first cbt session - it was really good but bought a few things up that I don't know what to do with now and don't have another session for a couple of weeks!

Hope everyone else is ok
x

 

[Shifter]

elm. Do you want to talk about it? I might be able to help before your next session, having had lots of CBT myself.

 

[Jade--x]

Hey I got diagnosed with severe PND after I had baby, and been put on anti ds and see gp fortnightly to talk about it and review my medication, but lately I feel like I'm getting worse and worse with everything I've got going on!
I've split up with my ex (we were friends for years but in my 3rd trimester he took me on with baby and has treated baby as his own he's been great)
My ex (babys 'father') is taking me to court and ringing me threatening me and my baby
My mum keeps falling out with me over stupid things! Like me saying I don't love my ex when I do..Or me sitting crying because I feel depressed..Or not wanting to tidy up because I just feel energyless and dead.
And all I want to do all the time is sit and cry and I know it's not good for me or LO and I try not to let him see me but it's so hard!
I went to baby massage today and just burst into tears as soon as I set him down on the floor!
And I don't have any friends or anyone around me I can even talk to about it.
I don't know what's the matter with me! I've had my medication increased but it doesn't seem to be doing anything, and my ex is just making everything 100000x worse!

Sorry to go on abit I just feel so down I dunno who to talk to x

 

[elm]

Jade xxx Tyler is beautiful x

Sounds like you're going through so much at the moment and all that's on top of having a new demanding baby We're all here for you to talk to x You could also ask your dr about some counselling if you think it might help for you, then you'd have someone to talk to who would be able to guide you through this period of your life and help you sort out some strategies to deal with things.

x

Thanks Shifter - it's just things like remembering stuff that happened in childhood (not hugely traumatic or anything, just stuff I'd forgotten about). I'm not thinking about it as much as yesterday, will probably have forgotten all about it again soon!!!

x