PND Support Thread

[Shifter]

Jade. Does your mum know you have PND? Even if she does she obviously doesn't understand what it is like. Perhaps you could take her with you to your next GP appointment so she can have it explained to her a bit, that might help with the way she is with you.

Have you spoken to CAB about your ex taking you to court? What is he pursuing, visitation rights?

Big hun, the most important thing is to know that you're not alone, you have us to talk to.

 

[ALY]

Jade sorry your having to go thro this aswell

Your little one is beautiful and if you ever need us to answer any qestions then ask away

Just to let you all no im still feeling better not 100% but better than i was even tho there is a lot of stressful things going on in my life at the mo
You will all get there and i hope it soon

Sending you all big

 

[bobbleboo]

Hello everyone

I just wanted to share my story with you all and to let you know that you will get better.

I had a straight forward pregnancy until 34 weeks when I was admitted to hospital (40 miles from home) with severe pre eclampsia and HELLP syndrome, DD was born at 35 weeks and spent time in SCBU and I spent time in HDU. When DD was 7 weeks old I was diagnosed with severe PND and was admitted to a specialist Mother and Baby Unit with my DD were we remained for 5 weeks. I was discharged home and received home support from the staff at the unit, my HV and GP. I had quite a few rough times and relapses along the way but slowly they got less!!. I am still taking medication but am so much better than I was and now enjoy being a Mummy. I just want you to know that you will get there it just takes time.

 

[elm]

Thanks bobbleboo x

Hope that stress goes soon Aly and I'm glad you're feeling better than you were xxx

 

[Jade--x]

Thank you

Yeah my Mum knows and she understands, she's trying to help me I know she is, because she doesn't want me to go through what she has with it but when I'm really low I don't see it that way and get really upset about it.

The court and everything I've got a solicitor and everything and he's after visitation that I haven't denied him, but the horrible thing is..he does nothing but lie..manipulate and control. We had a really bad relationship he did really horrible things to me and he doesn't care about Tyler. He knows he's really poorly and hasn't once asked how he is. And it's all over his facebook his new girlfriend, his girlfriends sister - yes SISTER! - that he's got loads of pics with acting like her dad =S..and then a photo album saying 'My 2nd Love' with photos of his computer!! So where Tyler comes in I'll never know. And I've had horrible phone calls, and I know what a violent person he is and I really don't want him around my son. Before he said he was going to court and when he came to see him he was telling me he's changed and I was ready to give him the chance to prove he'd changed and be a dad but he hasn't 1 little bit, and I'm scared for Tylers safety. I know damn well he'd snatch him just to hurt me and I don't know what I'd do if he did!

 

[Shifter]

Jade it sounds like you have a reasonable case for denying your ex access. Has your solicitor been able to reassure you? I hope it all gets sorted out really soon so that you can put it behind you and get on with being a mummy.

 

[Jade--x]

I've spoken to my solicitor but havent been able to tell her everything that has happened in the past and the violence and everything else because until I receive a court notice she's not really getting involved too much. She doesn't reassure me either. My HV has been great! She's always coming round to check how I am and everything that's happening with my ex. She's more like a friend than a professional But she knows everything that's happened and so do the police, so hopefully the court will see the danger and bad influence he is to Tyler. I really do hope they don't fall for his act. He's really good at lying an manipulating people. I'd hate him to manipulate the judge and CAFCAS into thinking he's not a complete tw*t.

 

[netty]

Hi everyone.

I am not sure if I have PND or just being stressed and miserable!!

Basically I was down during my pregnancy but i put that down to being bullied at work ( by a gp) for the last 2 years. I stuck it out so i got maternity pay. My husband worked at the same place I did until recently as the practice manager. He has now got a job somewhere else and left but i have to go back end of September (which I am dreading TBH. I cant face popping in to see them)

Ever since my hubby has got this new job I cant help but cry on and off all day. Cannot enjoy anything and do not look forward to anything. We have every other weekend with step daughter and my boys and as it is so busy and hectic i dread that as well.Also whenever all kids here they are constantlt wanting to pick up alex or hold him or wake him up when he is asleep which really irritates me!!

I am tired and sleeping well and Alex is an excellent baby.
I love him to bits.

I know i am being moody to my husband and cant help myself!!! THIS IS NOT ME!!!!!
Yesterday I forgot to have breakfast and went out and didn't eat till gone 1. I am also breastfeeding. By 130 I had a horrible feeling of being on edge and panicky. I had spoke to a friend about the probs at work. Not sure if anxiety or hunger.

Will see how things go and go to docs if no better after weekend.

 

[ALY]

Netty i just wanted to send you big
Id def say talk to your doc or HV is their a family member you could talk to aswell x

I hope you start to feel better soon hun

Well girls i dont no what is up with me today but i feel like just crying
i dont no if its cos im getting all worked up about the doncaster meet
I no once i get there i will be fine but i just get soo worked up it makes me feel bad and anxious (sp)

How is everyone

 

[netty]

BIG to you too.

I briefly spoke to mum the other night and she is coming to see us tonight so that may help.

 

[ALY]

Aww hun it sounds like you have some support does your oh no how your feeling

 

[netty]

He knows I am fed up and have my panicky do yesterday.
I have not spoke to him about feeling tearful all day.
Bottom line is i think i am disgruntled at him for his new job and leaving me to work there.
i am job hunting but i dont want to drag him down or feel bad.
I am being mean and it is irrational and stupid.

I was arsey with him 5 mins ago when he called to see how we were and was moaning how hard work t was going to be. I should be supportive!

 

[ALY]

Hun its hard to feel supportive for me
Karl works and says he is going to have a hard night at work ok we no they have to work but they just dont understand hoe hard it is looking after children
And then he comes home and says how much he has sat down and its really tiering

Hun you need to tell him your feeling down that way he might help more and understand why your acting like you are

 

[moomin_troll]

Hello Ladies i will be joinin you on here from now on as i have finaly admitted to myself i have pnd.

When i was pregnant i had anti natal depression and my doctor worked fast and got me help at a mental health centre also my mw said if i got worse shed send me to a womans unit which i didnt wana go to so i made out i was better then i was (i now no i shouldnt of)

Well past few months i have noticed theres been something wrong with my mental health but thought it was just stress but its got worse n last night really has got to me.

what happened last night was zane wouldnt sleep for me and he was crying for no aparent reason i got so mad i shouted for my oh to get zane away from me i felt like i wanted to hit him...i NEVER would hit my child i love him too much which is why im so angery at myself for feeling like it.

well oh is at work and wont be back till very late so ile be with zane all day and night so im not lookin forward to it.

i no i wont ever hit my son, i could never do that to him, hes my world.

i was gettin abit frustrated with him so i gave him a bottle n put him in is cot so i can calm down before i feel any worse.

 

[kmh2009]

just popping in to have a big everythings so hard and im so lonely.

 

[Shifter]

Oh no, all round, especially the new comers.

The first, most important step is to admit how you are feeling and to seek support, which you have all done by coming here.

 

[kmh2009]

sat here crying to myself. thinking of ringing my health visitor but what do you say? 'i feel awful?' i dunno wot to say to her.

 

[Shifter]

"I feel awful" is a good place to start hun. Hopefully she'll come right over and have a good chat with you

 

[kmh2009]

spoke to hv, been to docs. am officially here now, bak on antidepressants. hv comin to visit tomoro. i broke down crying on the phone to her. hugs to you all. its so hard isnt it. xx

 

[ALY]

It is hard hun but just remember that this is curable and wont last for ever even if it feels like it will

Hello to the new comers and im sorry your all suffering too