PND Support Thread

[Aidedhoney]

Good Luck for tomorrow Erin xx

I had my first counselling session today wasnt as bad as i thought it would be, do feel somewhat lighter emotinally(sp)

Big hugs to everyone xx

 

[xerinx]

Thankyou....

Im glad you found the councilling helpful. Im hoping everything goes ok tomorrow

 

[mrskx0x0]

The health visitor told me that instead of prescribing pills for depression etc my surgery gives people gym membership... wtf? Is there even any point getting diagnosed if that's their cure? I don't drive, the nearest gym is 5 miles away, I'm tired and wobbly and if I had the bloody time and childcare surely I would be better off having a nap?

At which spare 5 minutes do they expect you to be able to that.
I'm really sorry you're not getting the support you need. Can you speak to your GP?

Take care.

I think I am going to ring and make an appointment tomorrow. I'm just worried he's going to fob me off, and by that I mean suggest something that isn't pills which seems likely. I'm not some kind of druggie or anything but I don't want to talk to some stranger or go to the gym or try and find someone to confide in. I've already lost a month with her and I don't want to lose anymore time, I know I will feel really sad about this one day.

 

[Aidedhoney]

MrsK Can you ask for a female doctor??

 

[Aidedhoney]

Erin........ It will all good good tomorrow, i know how scared i was but my doctor was lovely she really listened and made me feel like i wasnt going crazy. The hardest step is actually going and admitting there is something wrong x

 

[xerinx]

Erin........ It will all good good tomorrow, i know how scared i was but my doctor was lovely she really listened and made me feel like i wasnt going crazy. The hardest step is actually going and admitting there is something wrong x

Yea im taking oh with me as its obviously effecting him aswell. And while he is there i cant miss bits out because ive told him to make sure he says his opinion too. Also it might do him some good hearing me be completely honest about the way im feeling as i tend to hold back a bit with him as i dont want him to think bad of me. And it might help him understand a bit better... well thats the plan.

My doc is lovely shes one of these docs then when you go in for something shes quite happy to sit and chat for a while... it makes a change compared to my last doc who would rush you in and out and didnt actually care.

 

[mrskx0x0]

MrsK Can you ask for a female doctor??

Yeah there is one female doctor there I think. Does it help? xxx

 

[Aidedhoney]

MrsK i felt more comfortable with a female doctor when it came to discussing how i was feeling, i did get emotinal and teary and i felt that she understood more than what a man would if that makes sense?

The important thing is to go and get the help i put off going for months, kept thinking that i would wake up fine the next day and it cost me my relationship (Oh couldnt handle the PND).

Good Luck ladies let us know how you get on xx

 

[xerinx]

Well ive been docs and have been put on sertraline 50mg and referred to the cpn's which could take 6 weeks ive been told.

Im feeling a bit better having been and knowing that things will start to look up soon

 

[mrskx0x0]

Well ive been docs and have been put on sertraline 50mg and referred to the cpn's which could take 6 weeks ive been told.

Im feeling a bit better having been and knowing that things will start to look up soon

thats brilliant xx

 

[xerinx]

I would say seeing a female doc was easier. Mine is lovely and understanding she said that i was the 4th one that had been inthis morning with pnd... must be something in the water!!!

 

[katie_bump]

Hey ladies,
Just recently iv been feeling really low and down, the only way i can describe it is that i honestly can't cope with everything, but i couldnt explain why i feel like this as i just dont know! Its worse in the morning and towards the end of the day.
Had alot going on with the OH, we dont live together and lately been arguing quite abit. Living at home with my mum (her partener and my little brother too), shes a great support so i feel abit silly saying i cant cope.
Some days just getting out of bed and dressed is a lot to ask! I was going to metion the way iv been feeling to the health visitor, as she always asks, but it wasnt my usual one and i didnt feel comfortable talking to her at all so just said i felt fine when asked.
Really dont know if its PND but iv never felt down like this before, feel so bad for my LO as sometimes i just end up crying and he must wonder whats up!
Anyways just thought id post up as have been trying to keep all this in (which isnt really helping)
Katie xx

 

[Aidedhoney]

Well ive been docs and have been put on sertraline 50mg and referred to the cpn's which could take 6 weeks ive been told.

Im feeling a bit better having been and knowing that things will start to look up soon

Fantastic Erin, glad it went well for you xx

 

[Aidedhoney]

Big hugs Katie, if i were you i would pop and see the doctor, i do know that my PND was worse first thing but everyone is different with it xx

 

[xerinx]

for me it kicks in at night... when im tired i guess and first thing in the morning...

im finding it hard to be motivated to get dressed ect and was scared of going out alone with logan but ive done it today and it wasnt as scary as i thought.

i seem to be getting obsessive with cleaning too.... my house has to be spotless at all times even tho i dont get visitors lol!!

During the day im fine tho... oh goes uni and i cope fine its strange how it works huh??

 

[mrskx0x0]

Am I the only one who doesn't feel any connection with their LO? Reading back a couple of pages it seems like you all do. When I want to walk out it isn't because I think she will be better off without me it's just because I can't be bothered sitting on pins waiting for the screaming to start.

 

[xerinx]

Am I the only one who doesn't feel any connection with their LO? Reading back a couple of pages it seems like you all do. When I want to walk out it isn't because I think she will be better off without me it's just because I can't be bothered sitting on pins waiting for the screaming to start.

Thats how i felt with my eldest... i loved him but i didnt want to be around him and i would bury my head under the quilt when he cried ect. I reaally resented my son untill i got help ect and pnd went.

With logan i have bonded with him but there has been a couple of occasions where i just wish he would be quiet!

I really suggest you get some help hun... mine ended up quite bad and it took a bad incident (something i wont go into here) for me to get better.

 

[mrskx0x0]

Am I the only one who doesn't feel any connection with their LO? Reading back a couple of pages it seems like you all do. When I want to walk out it isn't because I think she will be better off without me it's just because I can't be bothered sitting on pins waiting for the screaming to start.

Thats how i felt with my eldest... i loved him but i didnt want to be around him and i would bury my head under the quilt when he cried ect. I reaally resented my son untill i got help ect and pnd went.

With logan i have bonded with him but there has been a couple of occasions where i just wish he would be quiet!

I really suggest you get some help hun... mine ended up quite bad and it took a bad incident (something i wont go into here) for me to get better.

Awww Glad you got better and glad you bonded with little Logan. I will go to see the doctor although I cant help but think theres not much point. Probably tell me to talk to someone or go to some group thing, or even worse the gym. How does any of that actually get rid of the problem? Hope I don't throw a tantrum and leave her there! What did they do for you last time? xx

 

[xerinx]

They put me on prozac which made me alot worse so i refused to take it after 2 weeks. I also saw a cpn which is what i want this time.

Ive had counciling but i found having a cpn come out to my house and sit and chat whilst being relaxed was easier. It meant they she could see how i was around ds. She specialised in pnd and I found that she really helped me.

I understand how exercise releases seratonin(sp?) which is the hormone that increases 'happyness' but when you have a lo it exercise is the last thing on your mind. I do try however to take lo out for a walk everyday even just around the block. Its difficult when most of the time i cant be bothered getting dressed or moving but i force myself to do it. Im also trying to eat healthy as thats meant to help but we shall see!

 

[Aidedhoney]

Its a cpn i have and she comes to the house, talking does help but i wouldnt like group therapy at all.

I think the most important thing when you go to the doctor is to be honest about how you feel, go in and let it all out then you will get the correct help.
I know i didnt hold back on the things that i had said, felt and done.