PND Support Thread

[ticklemonster]

Hi i've recently been diagnosed with pnd. I'm on meds but things are still so hard, me and my partner are arguing constantly, he doesn't seem to understand how i'm feeling, all i get from him is pull yourself together and get on with life!! How can i make him understand it's not that easy?

 

[Petite]

I thought I would head over here and say hello. I was diagnosed with PND after the birth of my girl.
I've suffered with depression in the past but nothing compared to PND. The doctor has me on Citalopram which I've been taking for almost 5 weeks now, it seems to be helping but I still get my off days.
At my worst I couldn't even look at my little girl so my husband took care of Abbey for the first two weeks of her life. I felt as though I couldn't talk to anyone and still, very select people know about my PND. I felt ashamed and thought people would think I was a bad mother, I certainly felt like a bad mother.
I think one of the factors in my PND was my failure to produce enough breast milk to satisfy my girl - At 9lbs birth weight she needed a lot. So her second night home she was screaming with hunger and my nipples were bleeding heavily due to hours and hours of feeding. My husband went out to our local 24 hour Asda and bought some formula. I felt as though I had completely failed my daughter.
I do feel a lot better now and my husband returned to work two weeks ago and I feel like I'm coping OK. The health visitor has been dropping by every so often to make sure I'm OK and she mentioned that I look a lot better and commented that I'm actually able to look at Abbey now and interact with her.

Well, that is my story. At the time I felt as though I was in a deep dark tunnel with no light at the end. A few weeks on and it does get better. Seek help if you feel like you're suffering with PND. You don't have to suffer in silence or be ashamed to admit there is a problem. The sooner the problem is identified then the sooner it will be sorted.

 

[Hattie80]

Hi i've recently been diagnosed with pnd. I'm on meds but things are still so hard, me and my partner are arguing constantly, he doesn't seem to understand how i'm feeling, all i get from him is pull yourself together and get on with life!! How can i make him understand it's not that easy?

Hi - i have exactly this problem too. I have pnd and terrible anxiety which stops me sleeping. my partner doesn't understand and says pull yrself together too. He thinks i'm just being hopeless and lazy. I feel so down i'm crying 2-3 times / day and can't switch off my mind to sleep. it's a living nightmare. my little boy is 10 weeks and so gorgeous but i just can't enjoy anything. it's so hard isn't it. what meds r u on?

 

[ticklemonster]

Hi i've recently been diagnosed with pnd. I'm on meds but things are still so hard, me and my partner are arguing constantly, he doesn't seem to understand how i'm feeling, all i get from him is pull yourself together and get on with life!! How can i make him understand it's not that easy?

Hi - i have exactly this problem too. I have pnd and terrible anxiety which stops me sleeping. my partner doesn't understand and says pull yrself together too. He thinks i'm just being hopeless and lazy. I feel so down i'm crying 2-3 times / day and can't switch off my mind to sleep. it's a living nightmare. my little boy is 10 weeks and so gorgeous but i just can't enjoy anything. it's so hard isn't it. what meds r u on?

I started on 10 mg of Citalopram, it's not started working yet but i'm at my wits end with my partner, i keep saying please read up on pnd then we will talk but we never actually get round to talking. I'm trying my hardest to be nice to him but it's so hard when he doesn't understand x

 

[jenny_wren]

to those with partner issues ...

take them with you to your doctors appointments
trust me it soons wakes them up!

men are quite hard to get through too as most just
'get on with things' and dont tend to seek help if
they need it, i found with mine if he was there when
my hv came round or if he came in when i saw the doc
he started to understand exactly what was going on
and hearing it from a professional really worked

it is hard trying to keep a relationship with pnd ours
has gone downhill no end but most men soon become
supportive when they see whats really going on, just
be honest with them it'll sink in eventually that you have
a condition and you're not just making it up so to speak

xxx​

 

[xpinkness87x]

I agree with Jenny... I would take your partner to the GP with you.
Me and my OH's relationship went right down hill till they got me on the right tablets.

I am quite lucky that i found the right tablets right away we just had to up the dose a little, But i feel like me again

 

[jenny_wren]

you are lucky yea

good to hear a success story
ill be joining you one day

xx​

 

[xpinkness87x]

you are lucky yea

good to hear a success story
ill be joining you one day

xx​

Hopefully sooner than you think xxx

 

[jenny_wren]

hopefully lol

xx​

 

[Hattie80]

I agree with Jenny... I would take your partner to the GP with you.
Me and my OH's relationship went right down hill till they got me on the right tablets.

I am quite lucky that i found the right tablets right away we just had to up the dose a little, But i feel like me again

What r u taking out of interest? I've been on sertraline for nearly 3 weeks and feel... WORSE!! The side effects make me even more anxious when i wake up and i'm in tears most days. PND SUCKS soooo much. I so just wanna b normal and enjoy my gorgeous lil boy

 

[jenny_wren]

I agree with Jenny... I would take your partner to the GP with you.
Me and my OH's relationship went right down hill till they got me on the right tablets.

I am quite lucky that i found the right tablets right away we just had to up the dose a little, But i feel like me again

What r u taking out of interest? I've been on sertraline for nearly 3 weeks and feel... WORSE!! The side effects make me even more anxious when i wake up and i'm in tears most days. PND SUCKS soooo much. I so just wanna b normal and enjoy my gorgeous lil boy

most make me feel worse too they do
take awhile to settle in though so give it time if in a few
weeks you feel worse pop back to your doctor

i tried 3 different ones until i found one that agrees with me
now we're working on the dosage and such it does take
time to find one that works

xxx​

 

[xpinkness87x]

I agree with Jenny... I would take your partner to the GP with you.
Me and my OH's relationship went right down hill till they got me on the right tablets.

I am quite lucky that i found the right tablets right away we just had to up the dose a little, But i feel like me again

What r u taking out of interest? I've been on sertraline for nearly 3 weeks and feel... WORSE!! The side effects make me even more anxious when i wake up and i'm in tears most days. PND SUCKS soooo much. I so just wanna b normal and enjoy my gorgeous lil boy

I am on fluxotine or something im on 40mg. I went really bad when i first got put on them! I was on 10mg and i thought i was getting there and then i went really down hill to the point i couldnt see why there was any point me being alive.

Different tablets work for different people but if you still feel bad go see your GP

I dont have panic attacks or anything now (very often)!! It is soo nice to be able to walk out the door with out having to plan every step.

But saying that I do still get some bad days. I had to get OH to come home from work wednesday last week because i was panicking. Im trying to get through this whole week with out other half having to come home!

 

[Raggydoll]

Hi Hattie80 and Ticklemonster,

I'm sorry your not getting support from your partners. I think Jenny's advice about taking them to your appointments.

How are you doing Jenny

I'm on Venlafaxin 150mg and also Quetiapin (sp) 50mg as I suffer from terrible anxiety.

Annawrigley(great name ) How are things with you? I hope you are getting some more support.

Miss Muffett Hope you're having a better day. Ella looks so cute in your avatar.

I have now officially been discharged from the Mother and baby unit, my care has been handed back to the recovery team. Unfortunately she doesn't seem to now what she's doing. I'm supposed to be having weekly follow ups but she's just told me to ring the crisis team if I need help. . I'm going back to my GP to see if I can go back to my CPN as he was brilliant.


to you all. Ten weeks ago I really thought there was no end to this but with the right support and medication I can now see there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I might not have reached it yet but I can see it.

 

[jenny_wren]

How are you doing Jenny

:wave: im getting there slowly just waiting
to hear back from the shrink office

my oh's got tomorrow off so im going to lunch
and then some retail theropy so hopefully it'll
help getting out for the day!

apparently we're buying me new clothes and
makeup my oh kindly said 'i need to start making
an effort again' and for him to say i look
like shit must mean i've really let myself go
which is true i really dont bother with myself anymore
i dont wash, shave, put makeup on or even brush my
hair anymore bit of a reality slap really

good to hear you've been discharged hun
but yea they really should know what they're doing
some professionals are shite
it's good you can see a light at the end you'll
get there soon enough

xxx​

 

[Hattie80]

Hi Hattie80 and Ticklemonster,

I'm sorry your not getting support from your partners. I think Jenny's advice about taking them to your appointments.

How are you doing Jenny

I'm on Venlafaxin 150mg and also Quetiapin (sp) 50mg as I suffer from terrible anxiety.

Annawrigley(great name ) How are things with you? I hope you are getting some more support.

Miss Muffett Hope you're having a better day. Ella looks so cute in your avatar.

I have now officially been discharged from the Mother and baby unit, my care has been handed back to the recovery team. Unfortunately she doesn't seem to now what she's doing. I'm supposed to be having weekly follow ups but she's just told me to ring the crisis team if I need help. . I'm going back to my GP to see if I can go back to my CPN as he was brilliant.


to you all. Ten weeks ago I really thought there was no end to this but with the right support and medication I can now see there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I might not have reached it yet but I can see it.

Just wondering is mother and baby unit for people with pnd? What is it exactly (if u don't mind me being nosey). My hv and gp are crap...need to look elsewhere 4 help.

 

[kimmyjane84]

Sorry to post and run, but it's almost 1am and I need to get to bed... But if I don't post now I'll never post

Is it normal to deny the fact that you have/may have PND?

Had 6-8 week check-up with Dr today and instead of telling her how rubbish and low I feel I just told her "I'm fine" Feel even worse for it now!!

 

[Raggydoll]

How are you doing Jenny

:wave: im getting there slowly just waiting
to hear back from the shrink office

my oh's got tomorrow off so im going to lunch
and then some retail theropy so hopefully it'll
help getting out for the day!

apparently we're buying me new clothes and
makeup my oh kindly said 'i need to start making
an effort again' and for him to say i look
like shit must mean i've really let myself go
which is true i really dont bother with myself anymore
i dont wash, shave, put makeup on or even brush my
hair anymore bit of a reality slap really

good to hear you've been discharged hun
but yea they really should know what they're doing
some professionals are shite
it's good you can see a light at the end you'll
get there soon enough

xxx​

Retail therapy, I like that and for your oh comment hit his wallet hard. It's so bloody hard even to get up in the morning with PND let alone get yourself ready as well as a baby.

Hope you hear from your counsellor soon. My Health Visitor has agreed today to come in weekly until I sorted out proper support.

 

[Raggydoll]

Hi Hattie80 and Ticklemonster,

I'm sorry your not getting support from your partners. I think Jenny's advice about taking them to your appointments.

How are you doing Jenny

I'm on Venlafaxin 150mg and also Quetiapin (sp) 50mg as I suffer from terrible anxiety.

Annawrigley(great name ) How are things with you? I hope you are getting some more support.

Miss Muffett Hope you're having a better day. Ella looks so cute in your avatar.

I have now officially been discharged from the Mother and baby unit, my care has been handed back to the recovery team. Unfortunately she doesn't seem to now what she's doing. I'm supposed to be having weekly follow ups but she's just told me to ring the crisis team if I need help. . I'm going back to my GP to see if I can go back to my CPN as he was brilliant.


to you all. Ten weeks ago I really thought there was no end to this but with the right support and medication I can now see there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I might not have reached it yet but I can see it.

Just wondering is mother and baby unit for people with pnd? What is it exactly (if u don't mind me being nosey). My hv and gp are crap...need to look elsewhere 4 help.

Yes it is, it's 24 hour support. It was hard being away from my husband but it's really turned things around for me plus they sorted out my medication which I had been asking to change for weeks and diagnosed my over active thyroid. It also helped being with other women going through the same thing.

I think there may be a unit in Oxford as when my hospital were looking the suggested Oxford luckily something closer was available.

 

[Raggydoll]

Sorry to post and run, but it's almost 1am and I need to get to bed... But if I don't post now I'll never post

Is it normal to deny the fact that you have/may have PND?

Had 6-8 week check-up with Dr today and instead of telling her how rubbish and low I feel I just told her "I'm fine" Feel even worse for it now!!

Hi Kimmyjane,

can you go back to your GP or speak to your health visitor? It's so hard getting help at first but they can really help by getting you the support you need.

 

[jenny_wren]

Retail therapy, I like that and for your oh comment hit his wallet hard. It's so bloody hard even to get up in the morning with PND let alone get yourself ready as well as a baby.

Hope you hear from your counsellor soon. My Health Visitor has agreed today to come in weekly until I sorted out proper support.

i did hit his wallet pretty hard

new makeup, new clothes, new jewellery
galaxy caramel and some hair dye lol

to be fair it has been a whole year i can understand
him saying i need to make an effort and he's right i do
need a kick up the bum i cant smell and look awful forever!


at one point i had to have all my hair cut off because it
just matted where i didn't brush it i dont wanna
have to do that again my hairs only just started growing!

we have a christening to go to this weekend
so atleast i'll look good for that lol

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