redlemonade
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I've been having some symptoms that point to possible endometriosis for some time now, though these symptoms are milder than what other women appear to have. I get bad pain around ovulation (some months more than others), but generally my periods are regular, light and only 1 day of pain. Occasionally I get pain during BD or BM (sorry if that's tmi) but not all that often; though sometimes when it does happen it's extremely painful. Still, my GP reckoned that even mild symptoms can indicate a lot of endometriosis so she referred me to an OB/GYN, especially as this is our 6th month ttc.
Well, Since I was waiting so long to see this OB/GYN in the public system, I decided to go private and pay out to see him. My appointment was today and, frankly, I wish I hadn't bothered. What an unbelievably awful experience! I would have thought that, having paid out so much money, I'd have been able to have a lengthy chat and might have come out feeling supported, but nope!
He examined me and found "tenderness" but nothing else sinister (great), but said I may still have endo. BUT he said he's not going to do anything about it because we're ttc and because my pain "isn't that bad". Given that I've been in pain for a few days as I'm currently ovulating, I swear I just wanted to smack him right in his face. Not that bad? WHYYY do men become OB/GYN's, they have no earthly idea!? This reminds me of the first time I went to a (male) doctor with these pains and he told me "it's just ovulation pains, get over it".
I would have thought they could do a laparoscopy and clear it if they find endo, no? He said the only options are going on the pill and getting pregnant. Then he laughed and said "so my prescription is go get pregnant"!
He said there's no point doing a lap because we're ttc..? Is that odd? I thought they would do a lap BECAUSE we're ttc, no?
Moreover, he said he wouldn't refer to a fertility specialist until we'd been ttc for at least 18 months! I reminded him that I'm 34 and I consider that too long to wait, but he dismissed me entirely.
Given that this was a private consultation in particular, I'm thoroughly disgusted. I felt dismissed like I was a hypochondriac and a silly worrying woman. I was examined and finished up in less than 10 minutes. His parting words were "maybe I'll see you soon with a baby on board" - I thought, 'yeah right, you're delivering no child of mine'. He was condescending and patronising and incredibly unhelpful.
I feel so incredibly sad. I've paid out money to be treated horribly. I don't think I'll ever see a male doctor again. My experiences with male doctors and gynae issues have not been very positive. I would have hoped to have some answers, not to be told to go away. I really felt I was wasting his time. OK my pain isn't as bad as some women's, and 6 cycles probably isn't awful long. But I know I can still have endo and even blocked tubes, and he's going to make me wait for another year before he'll consider doing anything.
Has anybody got any advice for me? I'm sorry this has been such a long rant, and thank you for reading!
Well, Since I was waiting so long to see this OB/GYN in the public system, I decided to go private and pay out to see him. My appointment was today and, frankly, I wish I hadn't bothered. What an unbelievably awful experience! I would have thought that, having paid out so much money, I'd have been able to have a lengthy chat and might have come out feeling supported, but nope!
He examined me and found "tenderness" but nothing else sinister (great), but said I may still have endo. BUT he said he's not going to do anything about it because we're ttc and because my pain "isn't that bad". Given that I've been in pain for a few days as I'm currently ovulating, I swear I just wanted to smack him right in his face. Not that bad? WHYYY do men become OB/GYN's, they have no earthly idea!? This reminds me of the first time I went to a (male) doctor with these pains and he told me "it's just ovulation pains, get over it".
I would have thought they could do a laparoscopy and clear it if they find endo, no? He said the only options are going on the pill and getting pregnant. Then he laughed and said "so my prescription is go get pregnant"!
He said there's no point doing a lap because we're ttc..? Is that odd? I thought they would do a lap BECAUSE we're ttc, no?
Moreover, he said he wouldn't refer to a fertility specialist until we'd been ttc for at least 18 months! I reminded him that I'm 34 and I consider that too long to wait, but he dismissed me entirely.
Given that this was a private consultation in particular, I'm thoroughly disgusted. I felt dismissed like I was a hypochondriac and a silly worrying woman. I was examined and finished up in less than 10 minutes. His parting words were "maybe I'll see you soon with a baby on board" - I thought, 'yeah right, you're delivering no child of mine'. He was condescending and patronising and incredibly unhelpful.
I feel so incredibly sad. I've paid out money to be treated horribly. I don't think I'll ever see a male doctor again. My experiences with male doctors and gynae issues have not been very positive. I would have hoped to have some answers, not to be told to go away. I really felt I was wasting his time. OK my pain isn't as bad as some women's, and 6 cycles probably isn't awful long. But I know I can still have endo and even blocked tubes, and he's going to make me wait for another year before he'll consider doing anything.
Has anybody got any advice for me? I'm sorry this has been such a long rant, and thank you for reading!