Possible secondary infertility

[Obsessed4baby]

Hi I have a 12 year old daughter, I have wanted a second child for 7 years but because my husband only wanted one we waited. A year ago we decided to start trying , he saw the light. Well it has been 10 months and still nothing. I have survived the tww and stopped taking tests because the bfn was too depressing. I am wondering if anyone out there has experienced secondary infertility?

 

[tasha41]

Hi & Welcome!
There's actually a section here that may help you find ladies in similar situations:
https://www.babyandbump.com/secondary-infertility/ there you go!!

Good luck hun.

 

[Obsessed4baby]

Thanks, I will check it out

 

[polo_princess]

Ive moved this across to our secondary infertility section, im sure the ladies in here will be able to give you some advice and answer any question you have

 

[Sambatiki]

HI hun!

Im currently being treated with secondary infertility after a MC 15 months ago. Most docs will refer you after 12 months TTC. I understand the frustration! Why wont our bodies fall pregnant again! xxx

Wishing you lots of luck with your journey xxx

 

[bumski]

Hi i have a DD who is nearly 10 i fell pregnant with her very easily when i was 17, after she was born i went on the pill for about 6 months, as this didnt agree with me i chose different methods of contraception IYKWIM
i am now with my DH (not daughters dad), we have been trying for 4 years now, 2 yrs NTNP and 2 yrs trying with no joy but all in all no pill for 9 yrs,
We have recently found out i dont ovulate and have PCOS
Sometimes i just wonder where she came from. good luck to you and getting yourvery soon

 

[JASMAK]

I have secondary infertility. I have a son, 6 years, and a daughter, 4 years. I have NEVER used b/c in my life. Both my kids took effort. This time, since my daughter was born, 4.5 years ago, we never used any b/c. It was Dec. 2006 (my husband would argue it was earlier) that we started really trying. I have been on 8 or 9 rounds of Clomid. I also take Prometrium. I have been pregnant 3 times, and I have lost 4 babies (one set was twins). I have had an HSG, lap/hysterscopy/D&C and so far nothing. I have now been referred for a second opinion in Victoria, BC at their fertility clinic. I still TTC on Clomid while waiting, though they want me to take next month off Clomid, but still TTC and "see what my body does on it's own".

 

[Obsessed4baby]

I am sorry to hear that Jasmak, that is alot of emotional ups and downs and lots of work. I wish you all the luck!

It makes me so frustrated. I fell pregnant with my daughter with my husband (then boy friend) by accident. Really, I was like OH my goodness what now? I was scared and unprepared. I just am so thankful to have her.

The problem doesn't seem that im not ovulating because I test and it shows a big Smiley around that time, it's more around the implantation time. I am going to make an appointment for a ovarian ultrasound to see whats going on in there.

I too have not used any birth control since having my daughter 12 1/2 years ago though we did often do natural birth control because my hubby wasn't into it at the time, so frustrating. Well, right now I am at 11dpo and having AF cramps so i'm sure I will be getting her this month. I actually gave up the tww because I was creating phantom pregnancy feelings.

 

[Obsessed4baby]

Hi i have a DD who is nearly 10 i fell pregnant with her very easily when i was 17, after she was born i went on the pill for about 6 months, as this didnt agree with me i chose different methods of contraception IYKWIM
i am now with my DH (not daughters dad), we have been trying for 4 years now, 2 yrs NTNP and 2 yrs trying with no joy but all in all no pill for 9 yrs,
We have recently found out i dont ovulate and have PCOS
Sometimes i just wonder where she came from. good luck to you and getting yourvery soon

Good luck to you too, she must be a strong one, just got in and latched on. Thank God.

Im frustrated because I do ovulate but don't seem to get implantation. Very disappointing when I get so happy to see a smily on my O-test and nothing after.

 

[bumski]

Its really confusing isnt it? i thought when i had my daughter that i would be able to choose exactly the right time to concieve again as i fell so easily with her.
Have you had any tests done yet? x

 

[Obsessed4baby]

Its really confusing isnt it? i thought when i had my daughter that i would be able to choose exactly the right time to concieve again as i fell so easily with her.
Have you had any tests done yet? x

I have had hormone/ thyroid test , I am waiting to get my ovarian ultra sound next month. This is really annoying but my dh needs to still get checked but is procrastinating . It's kind of pissing me off. For a couple more months he kept holding off saying we should just keep going at it, but nothing. Well I guess that will have to wait till next week. I am going to do those and then see what's next I guess. What is next?

 

[JASMAK]

Its really confusing isnt it? i thought when i had my daughter that i would be able to choose exactly the right time to concieve again as i fell so easily with her.
Have you had any tests done yet? x

I have had hormone/ thyroid test , I am waiting to get my ovarian ultra sound next month. This is really annoying but my dh needs to still get checked but is procrastinating . It's kind of pissing me off. For a couple more months he kept holding off saying we should just keep going at it, but nothing. Well I guess that will have to wait till next week. I am going to do those and then see what's next I guess. What is next?

My hubby was the same way, and it pissed me off too...I mean, it's a pretty easy test! I finally got him in there...just last week...but, it's been YEARS for us!

 

[Obsessed4baby]

Yeah really it's only one simple thing. Way less embarrasing then an annual. Well he came home early today and we went and did it finally. I guess next is the ultra sound. I just can't wait for af to start so I can get started again. It's always a waiting game.

 

[JASMAK]

I hear ya!

 

[srm0421]

I am suffering from Secondary infertility too, I got PG with my son by some miracle after 4 months dating my Now Dh, it was not planned and so when we decided to start planning I got off BCP (will never get on them again) in August of 08 cuz we were getting married and wanted to fall PG right away, I never Oed or got a period without provera, I took clomid privately and did finally O but I think it made my lining too thin cuz my periods were was light, My gyno just diagnosed me with PCOS well actually confirmed it today and wrote me a prescription for provera and clomid so let the games begin.

 

[Dancingkaty1]

hi there, I have been trying to get pregnant for a year now....the more mths that pass the more i get upset & wish we had started trying sooner as i really didnt want a huge age gap imbetween my daughter & next baby...she iwll be 4 in jan. It only 6 mths when trying to conceive her so I didnt think it would be a prob & was kinda expecting to be pregnant this year.....doubt thats gonna happen, its nearly christmas already Recenly been diagnosed with polycysts on my only ovary but have tests done to show i am ovulating which confuses me....fertility specialist says i dont need clomid as i am ovulating but i wonder if i have been unlucky & only ov when i did those tests! husbands sperm is low count & motility so he is taking fertile aid for men...any1 else heard of this or partners been on it? good or bad??? Waiting to have my fallopian tube checked for blockages etc at the end of this mth which im dreading. If they its bad i will be so gutted....as i only have the 1 tube as had the other removed when i was a baby with the ovary as it had cyst on. xxx

 

[sleepycat]

I have struggled with secondary infertility for almost 4 years, maybe longer, but this is how long we have been trying for another baby. Because I had 2 children easily, (the oldest was 7.5 and the youngest 3.5 when we started trying) I thought it would be easy. I fell straight away but m/c at 6 weeks. Everyone assured me it was just one of those things and I'd be fine bc I had proven fertility already! I wasted so much time just thinking it would work as it did before and I regret it now. Turned out I had far to high prolactin and wasn't ovulating. Took 3 years to get the diagnosis and treatment! Now I miscarry recurrently (just had my third official on Friday - a d&c at 9 weeks mm/c @6wks, but other early misses this year too - chemicals..) and having just turned 35, and discovering I have a low amh, I wish someone had made me see the importance of getting proactive 4 years ago. Get tested...

Get your hormones tested, including prolactin - prolactinoma is very common - 25% of general population, men and women- and it stops you ovulating. Test your chromosones, mine are fine, but I am glad I found out. Don't waste time with useless doctor's who tell you your fine, and it'll just take a bit more time - like I did. It is most likely something you can work out. Get DH tested too.

My oldest is now 11 and my baby, 7. I have been in Limbo and have lost time. Secondary infertilty is a sneaky silent fiend, one I fear has robbed me of my longed for third child. I am full on now with accupuncture, exercise, herbs, suppliments, meditation. I am gearing this old girl up, I just want one more, and I will never quit. If and when I do get my baby, I am going to have my tubes tied so I never have to think about conception again. This is the most traumatic pain I have ever experienced and it has changed me as a person in so many ways. Certainly humbles a gal.

 

[Dancingkaty1]

Hi sleepcat.... I know exactly how you feel when you say about people telling you 'it will be fine you've done it before'. I have a nearly 4 yr old & we have been ttc for a year with no luck & all my family & friends say well at least you have the 1, just be grateful to have her, make the most out of her'. Dont get me wrong, I know they are right & im soooo grateful to have my daughter....prob now more than ever. But there is a part of my life that is missing...another baby. I have a wonderful husband who is very supportive & i lucky that we lead a lovely life, full of lovely holidays & nights away. I couldnt ask anymore from him...he is a fab daddy too. I also feel bad that my daughter will not have the bro/sister relationship that i grew up to have. So many of my friends have had secondary infertility.....in a way its reassuring that im not the only one & hopefully soon it will be our turn for baby number 2 xxx