pregnancy buddies due in June 2009!

[ClaireyF]

not long now serina!!

Nats is being very good and staying off here whilst she tidys!
x

 

[happy mum]

Cor blimey you let chat a lot!!! lol!!
So i didn't come bck on, but i havn't finished the cleaning the kids were driving me m ad playing with hoover, and dylan chucking stuff down the stairs i'd just taken up. So i took my caged animals out for a walk to see horse and sheep. The sheep was well grumpy, waited for kids to put hands thru gate then head butted them, i was more scared than kids tho they thought it was funny!! so now they have walked and played on swing they are happily watching ice age. trouble is i'm now knackered and no energy for cleaning!! will go back to it after lunch when they are in bed!! be easier then any way!!

Clare sounds dodgy to me!!!do you do a lot of miles in your car?

A really admire you Jue to be a surragate! Dh and i had discussed it but my insides are knackered now so couldn't, but i also suffer in pg so not much fun. I'm not sure i'd be able to hand over baby either, even if technically it wasn't mine. how do you think you'd cope?

 

[Cariad_bach]

Lol Nat it sounds like youve had quite a morning ... you need to put your feet up now and just relax for a bit

(as for coping with giving baby to mum and dad bit ... it wont be easy but i think that through it all, through ever kick/scan/test there going to be there, getting excited, getting involved, wanting to hear all about everything ... so it will always be theirs in my mind ... i can just imagine how happy they will be the day they have their baby ... ive spoke to my kids about it because my biggest worry was what they would think, i told them that if another ladies tummy was broke would they mind if i grew a baby for that lady in my tummy one day, they think its a great idea lol)


Whens your scan again Nat ... its towards the end of this month isnt it?

 

[ClaireyF]

Jue, do you get paid for being a surrogate?

Nats my car has done 38000miles which is alot but not a huge amount for everything they say is wrong with it! xx

 

[Cariad_bach]

No Claire its illegal in this country to get paid...

...In fact if a Judge suspects youve been payed he can refuse to sign the paperwork once babys born..

You can claim expenses (like Maternity clothes, petrol, Wages lost for time off work (if you work) and any child care costs etc but theres a Maximum amount of expenses you can claim and you have to be able to prove that the about you claimed is justified.



38000 miles is nothing on a new car ..... it shouldnt need that much work doing to it...whats your OH said?




Just realised im 23 weeks today ...1 week till Viable, 4 weeks till 3rd tri and 17 weeks till hes here

 

[ClaireyF]

oh right, i didnt realise it was illegal
i haven't managed to get hold of Paul yet because i'm in work and i think he's working with his boss today, i'm going to ring him on the way to collecting my car.

xx

 

[ClaireyF]

Jue how does it work then being a surrogate mum? how do ppl find you? how you you get fertilised? this is all new to me!! xx

 

[Cariad_bach]

Jue how does it work then being a surrogate mum? how do ppl find you? how you you get fertilised? this is all new to me!! xx

Its really hard because its also illegal to advertise your self as a surrogate or to advertise that you need one

There are a few UK agencies that you can join where everyone's had a health check and police check and they just organise meet up's and they have forums for people to chat on ... they dont set you up with couples but its a good way to meet them ...

..but although its free for surrogate mums to join the wanna be parents have to pay massive fees which is heartbreaking, its like only the rich get to have the chance, but your guaranteed the couples are checked out.

There's some American websites that UK people advertise them selves as seeking other UK people on and there's some Face book groups etc

Fertilized depends on if your using your own egg or not .... if its your egg then you just used the Dads sperm like a sperm donor (either though a hospital or a DIY job with a turkey baster lol)
If its the woman's egg then you do the whole IVF thing where they fertilize the egg and put it in the host....thats the way i want to do it but it costs the parents to be a load of money and i think the nearest hospital that will do it to us is Chester/Manchester which would involve heavy travel costs for the poor couple.
But using your own egg altho quicker, easier and cheaper would make the baby half mine biologically speaking and i dont know if i could do that ... i could probably donate eggs but not carry the LO as well as if you know what i mean ... all of my kids look really alike and i know they have the same dad but what if the surrogate child also looked like my lot!


(ps just realised that in 15 days your count down will be in double figures!!!!)

 

[mrsholmes]

I also thought the other mum cant ask u have to offer?! is that right?

Def sounds likeyou have had a mad morning Nat! I dont know how I will cope ive have NO experience of kids/babies/toddlers at all at any ages under the age of 13 or so! which is the age of james cousins etc

 

[ClaireyF]

Wow Jue, you know alot about it all! i never really knew anything about it.

I know, can't believe that its nearly double figures!! Woohoo!!

Cath, I'm the same as you, i have no experience either. My little cousins are young (youngest 5) but i hardly see them or even look after them! xx

 

[Cariad_bach]

Yer Cath your right they cant ask.


As for coping with kids you guys will be great mums..

..Before i had my first i actually disliked kids and would shy away from them all the time, didn't matter what age they were, i was a animal person not a kid person.
When you have your own its great .. hard work etc but fantastic,
I still struggle with other peoples kids sometimes but your own are easier, you understand them and your in tune with them xxxx

 

[ClaireyF]

Hope your right Jue

I'm off to collect my naughty little car now and see what they say, see if i understand it 2nd time around! xx

 

[happy mum]

Sounds like you've done your homework JUe. takes a really special person to do it.... and i think it might be you!!!! XX

Good luck at the garage Clare!!

Cath i had loads of experience with kids before having my own, i nannyed for 8 years before doing 3 years as a maternity nanny(looking after newborns to 6 weeks in private homes), i personally have found it much more difficult with my own, i thinks the hours that kill, and no days off, none of my family have my kids for me ,only if desperate and then only for an hour or two at a time. so no break.
Anyway i've fed them and put them to bed, dylan asleep, evie messing with dollys in her room but at least she s contained..... i have a stairgate on her room!!
now to finish the cleaning.......
Good news though Dh has heard of local farmer who needs a herdsman, temporary, so sounds good £10ph, so ok pay too. not sure how many hours or anything but something is better than nothing!! he used to be a herdsman before we married for 26 yrs so well qualified for the job!!

o last night my mum rang to tell me her husbands brother just ied of a heart attack at 53!! bit of a shock. not sure what to do though i obviously passed on condolences, i didn't really know him and i hate my step father, so not sure, i don't really think i should go to funeral, is it bad if i just send a condolence card, don't know what to say when wasn't close to him but he was my step uncle??? and i'm too skint to send flowers!!

 

[happy mum]

God i just re read that about the kids it sounds so negative sorry Cath, i don't realy mean its so bad i love them and they make me laugh all the time theyare sooo cute, its just hard work thats all...... you'll be great and they are babies first which is easier!! XX

 

[happy mum]

....... and Evie starts pre school 20th April 5 mornings a week , which she is more than ready for!!! Xx

 

[mrsholmes]

LOL i thought it sounded like a good idea! everyone is trying to tell me what to do already, even when shes a teenager!

that sounds good Nat, I remember u was saying he was short of work what has he been doing?

Not sure really about the uncle, if it was me I wouldn't go just because i would feel awrkward speaking the his family etc, u could also use the kids as an excuse. They may ask for donations instead of flowers anyway.

good luck with the garage!!

 

[ClaireyF]

Nats good news about the job for your husband!! also i think a card is fine for a step uncle.

Well, i'm still non wiser on what is wrong with my car but have booked it in at a garage for brake pads & discs on friday, i didn't mention that the other garage thought i needed new tyres (which i know i don't) so i will see if they mention it to me.

Cath, are you enjoying your day off? have you heard about the 2 planes that have crashed in S.Wales, Porthcawl (i think) is that near you? xxx

 

[happy mum]

LOL i thought it sounded like a good idea! everyone is trying to tell me what to do already, even when shes a teenager!

that sounds good Nat, I remember u was saying he was short of work what has he been doing?

Not sure really about the uncle, if it was me I wouldn't go just because i would feel awrkward speaking the his family etc, u could also use the kids as an excuse. They may ask for donations instead of flowers anyway.

good luck with the garage!!

No one can tell you what to do Cath, everyones kids are different!!

yeah pleased about job, he's got a gardening buisness, just not getting any work! he's been decorating at one of my uncles houses to get some money and delivering leaflets for his brother who has an auctioners in chester. he'll do anything time has gone to be proud!
yeah im agree card will be enough thanks! X

Hows your painful bits with the day off?

 

[happy mum]

Lets see what this garage make of your tyres!!

My Dh got me the 4d scan for my xmas present, is it you r birthday soon???

 

[ClaireyF]

my birthday is 14th november so been and gone, unfortunately i don't think we have the money for the scan it needs to go on bills and car repairs and the other mortgage Paul doesn't want to have the scan done anyway because he wants to wait until the birth to see what Josh looks like. xx