Pregnant after 2 losses

[ttc1soon]

I am pregnant again after having two m/c so of course I'm scared and elated at the same time. Its so hard for me not to say things like "if we make it my due date will be April 29" or "I should be 20 weeks at my sisters wedding". Like a hesitation. I am super excited and I even staying positive that everything will be okay but it doesn't stop my mind from automatically putting an if or should with everything. I just want everything to go smoothly this time!

 

[elohcin]

Congratulations!!!!

It's okay, I completely understand. I wish I could just be totally confident and go ahead as if everything is and will be just fine. But I've done that before and still lost the babies, and so I feel like it's sort of "protecting myself" to not allow complete confidence. I know that God will be with me no matter what, and that He can bring me through this once again if I DO lose the baby, but I hope and pray that He allows us to keep this one. I just feel like I'm getting ahead of myself anymore if I get too excited.

 

[JenX]

I am pregnant again after having two m/c so of course I'm scared and elated at the same time. Its so hard for me not to say things like "if we make it my due date will be April 29" or "I should be 20 weeks at my sisters wedding". Like a hesitation. I am super excited and I even staying positive that everything will be okay but it doesn't stop my mind from automatically putting an if or should with everything. I just want everything to go smoothly this time!

I'm in the same boat. Pregnant after two losses this year, due (if I make it that far) on April 23rd. I think if I make it to the point of seeing a heartbeat, I will have a little more confidence. We've never seen one before.

So anyway, I know just how you feel!

 

[rooster100]

I'm the same! Had 2 loses, have a good feeling about lucky number 3! I just wish I knew for sure if this one will stick! I hate every ache and pain I get!will hopefully have an early scan and hopefully see a h/b! I'm too scared to even say to my friend who is coming over next week that I'm pregnant in case I jinx myself and lose it! X

 

[melfy77]

Hi there

I am very sorry for your losses, I've also had two early miscarriages before, and I pray my rainbow baby will be born healthy beginning of february. The only advice i can give you is to take it one day at a time, because it's stressful. But everytime you'll get to a milestone, you'll feel more confident did your doc put you on progesterone? low dose aspirin? if not, you should ask about it. Can't hurt, might help You'll have your rainbow!!

 

[ttc1soon]

I'm on progesterone this time so that makes me feel a little better that it could help. With both mine I saw heartbeats and lost them shortly after so I don't know if that will make me feel better this time or not. Once I hit 9 weeks I'll feel a little better.

 

[NatalieGrace]

I'm in the exact same boat. This is my third pregnancy after 2 losses, and even now at 21 weeks I still play the "if" game. When people ask me how the baby is doing, all I can say is "so far so good". I always thought when I saw the heartbeat I'd feel better (we never saw one with the first two). Nope. Then I thought after 12 weeks I'd feel better. Nope. Then I thought after I started to feel her kick I'd feel better. Nope. I've just accepted that I will probably worry until the day she is born, and then I'll get a whole new set of worries! I just try to keep it as minimal as possible, reassure myself however I can, and take it day by day. But you know what they say, third time's a charm!

 

[ttc1soon]

I sure am hoping third time is the charm. I'll probably worry the whole time too but hopefully a little less after the first trimester.

 

[mich_sumanoy]

me too. got misscarriage twice but had a 5 y.o. daugther b4 my mcs. my 1st scan will be on 1st week of sept (8 weeks). can't wait for that week coz i want to know f my bayb will have a heart beat or not. i pray it will not be the same with my previous pregnancies

 

[FeLynn]

congrats hoping for a sticky one! I have had 3 losses so I know I will not be happy until I give birth to a healthy baby. I will always be paranoid. Good luck hun!

 

[tuckie27]

Hey there I am pregnant right now after 2 losses in a row and tryin for #1 so I can totally relate. So far, so good! Just started 3rs tri. I took progesterone with this one. I was never diagnosed low prog but my dr put me on 100mg daily as preventative until 14 weeks. Can't say for sure of it made the difference or not, but all of my blood work and scans have indicated that this is a normal, healthy pregnancy. Good luck to all of you!

 

[Sarajayne]

I had my first born in 2009 completely healthy and happy - sadly right before his first birthday he passed away from an intestinal hernia the doctors overlooked. About a year and a half ago we finally started ttc...we got our bfp in may 2011 but started spotting 3 days later (6 weeks along) and lost the pregnancy...then it took 11 months to get pregnant again and lost the pregnancy at 6 weeks again...same thing both times. Now I found out i am pregnant again a little less than a month ago - it has been 3 months since my last miscarriage - Today I am 8 weeks and have all the symptoms in the book, which does make me feel hopeful but still nervous as ever!! My first scan is tomorrow morning and i am so anxious, nervous, & excited! ha. So i am 2 weeks past what I have been in the past and so far all signs are pointing to okay but there is always that chance of a mmc...but i am trying to stay positive! Congrats to all of you on your BFP and I wish you all nothing but the best of luck!!!! I will update tomorrow after my scan. how long does everyone have until their first scans?! Baby Dust to all!

 

[ttc1soon]

Sarajane that must have been unbareable to lose your son, its hard enough having a m/c but I can only imagine how much harder it is to lose a little one you've already held in your arms. I have my scan on Thursday and I can't wait but the first scan probably won't give me any reassurance. My 6 weeks scans were fine both times before and the problems happened later. I have a 8 week appointment too and I am hoping that will give me a little piece of mind. (I found out I lost the last little one at 9 weeks but it was a mmc so it had happened weeks before). Tuckie my OB started me on 100mg of progestone too, she doesn't like testing for it since your numbers can change by the hour so she decided since it won't hurt why not try. I hope it does the trick!!

 

[Sarajayne]

Well my 8 weeks scan went beautiful! saw a great little heartbeat and peanut measured right so just gotta pray it stays that way 9 weeks now. Wishing you all good luck!!!

 

[Sally_D]

I am pregnant again after having two m/c so of course I'm scared and elated at the same time. Its so hard for me not to say things like "if we make it my due date will be April 29" or "I should be 20 weeks at my sisters wedding". Like a hesitation. I am super excited and I even staying positive that everything will be okay but it doesn't stop my mind from automatically putting an if or should with everything. I just want everything to go smoothly this time!

Well, I am in the same boat too.having miscarried twice, I am super paranoid and scared, though i try very hard to stay positive...if all goes well, I will be due around April 27. My first scan is next Thursday, keeing everything crossed till then. Good luck to all of us..Hope all stays well!!

 

[Charlee]

I got pregnant around 6 months after my M/C at 12 weeks, It is completely normal to feel/act like that. I was petrified until I could feel regular movements. I would reccomend a Doppler once you get to 12 weeks, people say it drives you nuts but it put my mind at ease so much. Happy and healthy 9 months.

 

[giggles1070]

I completely understand all your worries, I am unfortunately in the same boat. I have a gorgous 8 yr old little girl but almost 5 yrs ago I had a stillborn little girl. After yrs of infertility I finally got pregnant 3 times this yr and have lost them all at around 5 to 6 weeks. This time around I decided to take progesterone since before I knew I was pregnant and thanks God for that because come to find out I am having twins this time around I believe that thanks to the progesterone is why I will be 11 weeks on Monday. But every little twing or cramp I get freaked out. Just praying that we all have happy healthy babies this time around