Pregnant after 4 losses!

[4angels]

Hi everyone, just looking for a bit of reassurance. I found out on Monday that I am expecting my 6th child (1 daughter, 1 ectopic and 3 miscarriages) I'm so happy but so nervous at the same time. I just feel so lonely as my partner won't speak much about it as I think he is frightened to build up my hopes in case things don't go as planned. Really just hoped some of you would share your experiences with me and give me a bit of reassurance! Thank you in advance xx

 

[Daisypetals]

Hi 4angels, I really do not have any experiences with successful pregnancies, but I do have experiences with MC. it is hard to to be pregnant after a miscarriage because of all the roller coaster emotions- hope, fear, excitement... Just try to keep telling yourself that each pregnancy us different, and do all you can to make this one healthy. I too am pregnant after a MC, my hubby and I conceived right away. I have been so scared with my past pregnancies, this time I'm telling myself I will enjoy every minute of being pregnant. There's nothing we can do to control the outcome. Hugs to you Hun, because it is difficult.

 

[SoBlessedMama]

I'm so sorry for your losses--but congratulations on this new little one!!

We had DS #1 in 2010, and decided in mid-2013 we were ready to try for #2. I got pregnant in November and miscarried in December. We got our 2nd BFP in February 2014. I was completely terrified that I would miscarry again, and every step of the way I have looked for things to be wrong. But I'm now 28 weeks and expecting a healthy little boy in October. : )

I can't imagine how scary it is after multiple losses, but like Daisy said--each pregnancy is different, and all you can really do is be as healthy as possible. God has reassured me over and over that He holds this baby in His hands, and loves him infinitely. I really hope you can get some peace and enjoy your pregnancy--of course you will worry, and that is natural. But I have everything crossed for you that this little one is already growing healthy and strong! : )

 

[4angels]

Hi Daisypetals, thanks so much for sharing your experience. Congratulations on the pregnancy, how far along are you? I just personally feel like I can't enjoy being pregnant as I'm just waiting for it all to come to an end again. But you're right, we have to remember each pregnancy is different and be positive. It's out of our hands really. Sending hugs and lots of positivity xxx

 

[4angels]

Hi SoBlessed! Congrats on the pregnancy, always so nice to hear of people getting their rainbows after the storm. Thank you for your reply, I always appreciate people taking the time to talk to me xx

 

[SoBlessedMama]

Hi SoBlessed! Congrats on the pregnancy, always so nice to hear of people getting their rainbows after the storm. Thank you for your reply, I always appreciate people taking the time to talk to me xx

Of course!! : ) You'll have to let us know if you start a pregnancy journal so we can follow you all the way to your happy ending. : )

 

[Daisypetals]

Hi 4angels, I only found out I was pregnant this past Sunday on the 27th. I am about 4 weeks, 4 days. I have had 2 miscarriages and one chemical. We are still trying for our first baby. This last miscarriage was June 29, and we got pregnant with this baby straight away with no period in between. You and I are probably due around the same time. I would love to stay in touch with you to see how this pregnancy is going. Is your doctor monitoring you closely due to your previous miscarriages? My Dr. is having blood work done every two days to check HCG and progesterone. So far, so good. Well, anytime you want to talk you can message me- here are hugs and prayers going your way.

 

[SoBlessedMama]

Congrats, daisy! Praying for a happy and healthy 9 months for you!

 

[4angels]

That would be great, I'll need to figure out how to do all that because I don't use the forums much! ) Oh I so hope it is a happy ending this time. I'm a bit worried this morning because the tenderness in my chest has gone and that was the first thing to go with my previous miscarriages! Just so worried all the time! Xx

 

[4angels]

Morning Daisy, sorry to hear you've had such a tough journey. That's great your doctor is doing that for you! When we went for all our tests after the 3rd miscarriage, we were told that we would be given extra care should I conceive again and I have to say I'm pretty disappointed so far. I phoned the specialist midwife who told me to phone early pregnancy and they would scan me next week (6 weeks pg) but theyve told me to hold off until 18th August and judge myself how I feel and then contact them if I'm worried about anything! Glad everything is going well for you. I'd love to keep in touch to see how you're getting on xx

 

[SoBlessedMama]

I agree--that doesn't sound like they're really going out of their way. : ( I'm sorry! I hope after that first visit, they're a little more proactive. (Personally, I'd probably call and try to get in earlier anyway lol.)

Symptoms definitely come and go--I poked at my chest constantly until about 10 weeks lol, and was worried every day the soreness seemed less. I'm sure all is just fine. : )

 

[4angels]

Oh thank god, I thought I was the only one that was always touching my own chest all the time to see if it was still sore! Haha! Think I'm just always gonna associate losing that tenderness with the heartache that followed soon after! Thanks for your support, means a lot xx

 

[Daisypetals]

Hi 4angels, I hope you can get in for your scan earlier. Can your Dr. or midwife at least have you go in for blood tests? That way if your HCG beta levels keep rising at a good rate and your progesterone is high you have some reassurance? I get my next draw tomorrow. So far for my first my HCG was 180 and progesterone was 23.9. My second two days later my HCG was 544 and progesterone 29. That gave me tremendous comfort to know they were going up. My last pregnancy they rose so slowly, but it made the MC a little easier because I was prepared for it.
I totally understand the boob poking. With my previous pregnancy that was one of my first symptoms-sore boobs, and I lost that symptom and miscarried too. With this pregnancy NO sore boobs. I keep poking them waiting for them to be sore. I just feel tired and very emotional. But Soblessedmama is right- symptoms do come and go. I can't wait until we have the best sign of pregnancy-a big belly and a kicking baby inside! We've got to stay positive and help each other through this first trimester, it's the toughest.

 

[4angels]

It's so hard not to look for every negative eh? I feel as though I'm constantly waiting for things to go wrong and am so thankful for every day closer I get to my scan. Doctor won't bring me in for bloods and when I asked for scan this week, I was told there would be no point as heartbeat probably wouldn't be visible so wouldn't give me any reassurance! I keep telling myself that nothing I do is gonna change the outcome and I'm doing all I can vitamin wise etc to support this little one. So glad I have you to talk to as no one around me understands how worrying this is. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I'm 31 and my little girl is 5 and a half xx

 

[Daisypetals]

Errrr, your Dr. sounds very unsympathetic! After four losses I would think he/she would want to monitor your levels, especially progesterone levels. I am 41 years old, so every time my husband and I get pregnant- it seems like a miracle. We married when I was 35 and he was 32, we weren't trying hard to conceive until I turned 39. Guess I waited a little too long. Do you have any other symptoms besides sore boobs? I only have fatigue, moodiness, slightly bigger but not sore boobs, slightly heightened smell, and just tonight lower abdominal cramps. I'm guessing the cramps are from my uterus growing as I am nearing five weeks. Hang in there, 4angels, I am counting everyday that we do not start bleeding or spotting as a victory.

 

[SoBlessedMama]

4angels--I'm sure I looked crazy as much as I poked around on my boobs lol. It's completely understandable that you associate that symptom loss with something negative. But even when things are healthy, they ebb and flow, so try not to read too much into it. : )

Daisy, I have a friend who is about to turn 41, and is due with a baby boy in 2 weeks. You didn't wait too long--I'm sure your timing was perfect for your family, and I'm praying this is your rainbow!!

 

[4angels]

Good afternoon Daisy! I agree with SoBlessed, I think everything is mapped out for us and this is obviously the right time for you and your husband. I'm thankful for every day we get through and am glad I have the support of yourself and SoBlessed at this stressful time. I'm currently at work just now and panicking because I'm cramping but like you say, I'll be 6 weeks on Wednesday so I'm sure it's just bubba growing! I have chronic heartburn, slight lower back pain, tenderness in my chest that comes and goes and the occasional bout of nausea. Praying that this is our rainbow! Hope you are both well today! xx

 

[Daisypetals]

Thanks Soblessedmama and 4angels. Things are a little crazy here now. I had some very light brownish spotting just this morning and this evening. But I got my HCG and progesterone levels back. Progesterone went from 29 to 25 but HCG went from 544 to 5314. I told the nurse, "But that's too high!" It is a 29 hour doubling time. She said maybe the lab made a mistake. But my first two draws had a 29 hour doubling time too. I asked if it could be a molar pregnancy, and she said' "or maybe multiples." Any way, she is going to talk to the Dr. and call back. I am going to go get another blood draw tomorrow to rule out lab error. Oh, and she told me to go ahead and take my progesterone supplements too.

 

[hopingwaiting]

I am preg with my 3rd baby with no kids. Just had a miscarriage may 28th at 6 weeks 2 days. i also feel my boobs all day long to check and make sure they are still sore. I also go to the bathroom about 20 times a day just to make sure im not spotting or bleeding. Go for my 1st scan tomorrow. luckily my dr had a cancellation. so nervous!! I have never been able to actually have a ultrasound

 

[Daisypetals]

Hi Hopingwaiting! So sorry for your losses. I too, am trying for my first and it's nerve wracking when you have miscarried before. Congrats on your new little one. Let us know how your scan goes- sending positive thoughts and well wishes your way