Pregnant after 4 losses!

[hopingwaiting]

thanks.. my legs are kind of cramping and my lower back hurt when i stand. a small back pain was the only pain i was in with the last loss so a little freaked out. i think it was because the way i was sitting at work today with my fee propped up. Anyone else have this or back pain at all?

 

[SoBlessedMama]

I'm sure little aches and pains like that are completely normal. : ) It is definitely understandable you're nervous, and I'm so sorry its hard to be excited right now. I hope you can get some reassurance soon and enjoy things! : )

 

[4angels]

Hi daisy, how are you now?? Hope everything is ok xx

 

[4angels]

Hi hopingwaiting! Congratulations on the pregnancy, sending lots of positivity your way and hoping all went well at your ultrasound? I think it's so hard not to compare pregnancies all the time and I freak out at the smallest sign of things going wrong. I have back ache this time too but I did when I was pregnant with my little girl. Trying to think positive and hope it's just everything stretching. Hope you are well xx

 

[Daisypetals]

So I went in today to do my normal blood work, but the nurse said that my Dr. wanted me to do a ultrasound that morning, because my HCG levels were so high for 5 weeks pregnant, and because I got pregnant right after a MC with no period in between (which apparently is a no-no according to this Dr.'s office). I told the nurse I was scared to do the ultrasound, because after every ultrasound I MC (it happened to me twice once at 7 1/2 weeks and again at 7 weeks). Well, my fears and apprehension was forwarded to the ultrasound technician (the first person I offended) because he asked me if the miscarriages happened after ultrasounds at that clinic (one did and one did not) anyhow, I go ahead and have the ultrasound done- they see a gestational sac, but that is all, no yolk sac and no fetal pole. Based on the measurement of the gestational sac, they have me at 5 weeks 4 days with a conception date of July 11, which is impossible because my husband and I only DTD on July 13 and I ovulated on the 14th. Before I go any further, I don't want to worry or scare anyone with my irrational ultrasound fears, they are just my irrational fears based on my past experiences. Everyone I know, including my Dr. Says ultrasounds are safe in early pregnancy.
I also managed to ruffle my Dr.'s feathers, because he was kinda getting on me about getting pregnant right after a MC. I told him my other Dr. said it was okay to start trying right away. So he wasn't pleased with me saying that. In the end- I have another appointment for another ultrasound in a week.

 

[hilslo]

Hi ladies. I'm now 35 weeks pregnant after 2 previous losses, one ectopic at 13.5 weeks and a mmc at 7.5 weeks so don't give up. I know it's cliched but try to take each day as it comes and set yourself mini targets (always less than a week). I was nervous with my first 2 pregnancies even though they seemed to be going well (my 12 week scan showed everything was perfect!) and didn't want to jinx them with a ticker. This time I thought, sod it, I'm going to enjoy it whilst it lasts and started one. Lo and behold the fruit and veg creeped up!

My local EPU was great. I had a scan every other week from 5 weeks. I can't believe that after a previous ectopic they've not scanned you yet!

Hold tight - it's been a scary ride and I hid my pregnancy from most people for as long as I could (only told one friend yesterday!). Whatever you need to do to get through it -do it ! For me it was self-protection of people not knowing (apart from my boss who I told at 6 weeks as I knew either way I'd be taking off quite a bit of time !) but it may be different for you.

Good luck - I hope these are your rainbows!!!

 

[hopingwaiting]

Appointment yesterday went good. They saw the yolk sac and what they think is the fetal pole. No heartbeat yet. I was measuring at 5 weeks 6 days so thats good. I was upset after the u/s but tried not to freak. This is my 1st ultrasound i was ever able to go to. This was the 1st time going to this doctor. After he came in he made my fears go away. They were all so nice and caring to me. the u/s tech said to come back in 2 weeks but the dr knowing my fears said he would do quats yesterday, tomorrow and monday to keep an eye on me. I am still freaking out because i lost the last baby at 6 weeks 2 days which would be friday. I hope and pray that this sticks!!!

When should i really see the heartbeat?

 

[SoBlessedMama]

Appointment yesterday went good. They saw the yolk sac and what they think is the fetal pole. No heartbeat yet. I was measuring at 5 weeks 6 days so thats good. I was upset after the u/s but tried not to freak. This is my 1st ultrasound i was ever able to go to. This was the 1st time going to this doctor. After he came in he made my fears go away. They were all so nice and caring to me. the u/s tech said to come back in 2 weeks but the dr knowing my fears said he would do quats yesterday, tomorrow and monday to keep an eye on me. I am still freaking out because i lost the last baby at 6 weeks 2 days which would be friday. I hope and pray that this sticks!!!

When should i really see the heartbeat?

I had some spotting early on, so my doc did an ultrasound right around 5 weeks, and we saw exactly what you saw. She did another follow up U/S at 7 weeks, and could see the heartbeat. No need to worry about not seeing a heartbeat this early. : ) It sounds like you have a very compassionate doctor who will help see you right past that 6w2d milestone. It will be here before you know it, and you will fly past it! : )

 

[SoBlessedMama]

Oh, and just for clarification, I don't know what type of U/S you had, but both of my early U/Ss were trans-vaginal. I definitely wouldn't expect to see anything that early abdominally.

 

[hopingwaiting]

Oh, and just for clarification, I don't know what type of U/S you had, but both of my early U/Ss were trans-vaginal. I definitely wouldn't expect to see anything that early abdominally.

they did both. The 1st one the just saw the sac so then they did a trans-vaginal one that saw a little bump

 

[SoBlessedMama]

I think that sounds like a perfect report this early. : )

 

[hopingwaiting]

my quats at 5 weeks 6 days were 13022! When i miscarried at 6 weeks 2 days (which is today for this preg) they were only 1662. I find out this afternoon if they are doubling correctly

 

[SoBlessedMama]

FXd you get a great update!!!

 

[4angels]

Hi everyone, how is everyone getting on? My head just hasn't been with it these past few days. My scan is not coming quick enough. I'm so worried everything is gonna go wrong! Morning sickness reared it's head today and I have to say I'm delighted as I'll take it as a positive but I feel like I can't make an attachment or bond with this baby as I'm so scared to. Hope you are all doing well. Feel free to drop me a wee message at any time x

 

[SoBlessedMama]

I totally understand the nervousness! But MS is a great sign!!! : )

 

[hopingwaiting]

i wont find out untill monday now since after 3 calls and the lady assuring me that someone would call me back they all left for the day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I now am a stress ball and can focus at work. now who gets to stress all weekend! and stress about not stressing also!

 

[4angels]

Aw that is not good hopingwaiting! Don't think these people understand how anxious we are!! Hope you're holding up ok. Sending you lots of hugs xxx

 

[SoBlessedMama]

Aww, that's awful. : ( I'm sorry, I hate that--not very compassionate on their part!!

 

[flou]

Hi ladies I can completely relate to your fears. Me and my dh have been ttc our first since April 2011. We have had 2 losses along the way, both at 6 weeks. I am currently 8 weeks and 1 day. We had a scan a week ago and I saw my little one with a lovely beating heart. I have my first midwife appointment next Thursday. I'm really hoping this is my rainbow. But I'm struggling to get excited about my pregnancy. It doesn't even feel real that it is happening at the mo. And I feel that I am waiting for it all to go wrong. And then sometimes I feel positive and think this could be it but I feel i can't let myself feel that for too long or I may jinx it!

 

[4angels]

Hi flou, congratulations and I'm glad everything is going well for you! I have my first scan on the 18th and I'm praying we see a heartbeat too! I was exactly the same as you are when I was pregnant with my daughter, scared to buy anything, scared to get excited, scared to pick names but she didn't disappoint us and is now five and a half years old. I think recurrent loss is so frustrating as after an ectopic and 3 miscarriages, we "qualified" for testing and results showed there was no medical reason for the losses! I'm thankful for every day and every little symptom I get! When is your next scan flou? Everything is going great for you so fingers x'd this is your rainbow!! Big hugs xxx