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Pregnant, Single and Alone - very far from Home

Well last week when I saw FOB last he told me he was going to Balmorhea on saturday which pissed me off because he has been telling me about this place for months and has said we should go... well he tells me "don't be alarmed if you don't hear from me all day saturday bc I will be at belmorhea!" I was like "without me??" "sorry for your bad luck" was his response... Nice right. So then he tells me he is going with his little bro dusty and his best friend Joey Oh and his little bro's girlfriend Michelle... You know I was fine when it was a "boys' weekend" but once the 16 year old brother's gf got an invite I was hurt and didn't understand wtf was going on. Well this weekend Friday afternoon I hear from FOB he doesn't mention that he is going to belmorhea and i didn't ask because i didn't want it to upset me again. But then all of a sudden he stops texting with me at 4pm friday and I still haven't heard from him and it's almost 1pm monday. WTF!!!

Well I find this completely shady and although we aren't together and he is free to date, sleep with etc whoever he wants I do not TOLERATE lying. So I fell like he either a)brought a girl there and refrained from contacting me so she didn't see him on his phone 24/7 or he b) met a girl there and the same thing.... why would he not contact me literally the entire weekend??? I feel like if it isn't a girl then he is "testing" me because I've been getting upset when he doesn't contact me and now he isn't contacting me just to see how I'm gonna react. Well fine If he doesn't contact me I will try not to make referrence to the silence and just be like Hey how are you?

I'm so done with being treated like shit. I wish I could be strong enough to just tell him to leave me alone or be strong enough to ignore him IF he does text me. I just don't understand is he gonna just text me out of nowhere like nothing? Like Hey or is this silence going to go on for a while more?? IDK. All I know is I am PISSED! It's not worth going off on him about it either because he will just throw it in my face that we aren't married and he isn't obligated to text me. That will make me even angrier. I FRACKING hate men!!! I hate how emotional I am and I hate that I'm so alone.
 
Just my opinion, and please dont be offended, but you need to ditch this guy! It sounds like he only contacts you when he needs/wants something from you. I know how hard it is (and it must be even harder while pregnant) but you dont want him bouncing in and out of you and your baby's life. I think it sounds like you really want a relationship with him, but try hard to act like you dont :) As harsh as it is, he has told you you quite a few times he doesnt want any kind of commitment. If I was you, I would head back up to New York with your family.
 
Just my opinion, and please dont be offended, but you need to ditch this guy! It sounds like he only contacts you when he needs/wants something from you. I know how hard it is (and it must be even harder while pregnant) but you dont want him bouncing in and out of you and your baby's life. I think it sounds like you really want a relationship with him, but try hard to act like you dont :) As harsh as it is, he has told you you quite a few times he doesnt want any kind of commitment. If I was you, I would head back up to New York with your family.

Not offended at all I know you are 100% right.... I wish NY was an option unfortunately it's not :( But my mom is coming to texas to live with me! YAY!!! :)

Yes i agree i don't want him bouncing in and out of baby's life. if it was just me that would be one thing but it would be wrong for my daughter. He does only contact me when he wants something. Although last night he FINALLY contacted me after i posted on FB that I was sick!! which i was really sick. He was being nice and kissing ass. he acted like we hadn't had a 3 and a half day silence which I played along. It sucks because I know so few people here that I hate to cut him off and then have no one. But sometimes having him around is the same as having no one so I guess I have to pick my side. I'm just super clingy while pregnant and it sucks. He would have been gone a long time ago if I wasn't pregnant. But your advice is appreciated.

I do want a relationship with him. At least the version of him that is sweet and nice and caring not the a**hole lol. Well he has been throwing it in my face that we aren't married etc... (he is currently married but separated) and finally I said "stop reminding me we aren't married. I AM FULLY aware of this... and furthermore who the f*ck said I want to marry you anyway? because i don't!!" Then he was like upset and said that wasn't nice of me. OH WELL! lol he can dish it but can't take it smh
 
I am so happy for you that your mom is coming to live with you. Hopefully she can give you enough support to get you through the hard parts :) I was taught that people treat you how you let them, and by ignoring his bad behavior, you are letting him think its ok to treat you badly :( I wish I could smack him for you (lol damn pregnancy hormones).
 
I am so happy for you that your mom is coming to live with you. Hopefully she can give you enough support to get you through the hard parts :) I was taught that people treat you how you let them, and by ignoring his bad behavior, you are letting him think its ok to treat you badly :( I wish I could smack him for you (lol damn pregnancy hormones).

You are right I am condoning the bad behavior and that isn't good!! I'm just so different while pregnant than I usually am. I can't tell if things are really as serious as I make them in my head. DAMN hormones are right!! hahaha
I know he has been a douche lately though. I just don't know if i'm blowing them out of proportion or not. I don't think I am. I'm not going to contact him and just let it go where it does. I am defintely not going to "chase" him. He will catch on eventually that i'm not as up his butt as I was. Let's see if that does anything. Plus once my mom comes I'm going full force wth getting ready for baby so I might not have time for him anymore!
 

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