Pretty shocked!!!! and worried.. need non judgmental advice

[msq]

Soooo I just found out I'm pregnant again... I just had a chemical pregnancy last month and we stopped trying to conceive and using condoms after that. I know this going to sound terrible and I feel terrible about it already but I have been smoking weed and an e cigarette and I have drank a little bit in the last two weeks. Do you think everything will be okay? I'm really worrying about this

 

[skye93]

Chances are your baby will be fine, but there is an increased risk in miscarriage etc
Sorry, but who has been looking after your child while you've been off smoking weed?!

 

[ClairAye]

I'm sure it's okay, I'm sure it happens to a lot of people before they find out they are pregnant.

 

[EMSwife1124]

Chances are your baby will be fine, but there is an increased risk in miscarriage etc
Sorry, but who has been looking after your child while you've been off smoking weed?!

I'm pretty sure she asked for non judgemental advice. She is obviously already stressed. She doesn't need people like you to add to it.

As for your question, I'm sure you will be okay. There are always risks but many women drink and smoke before they know they are prego and their babies are fine. Try to stay calm and breathe

 

[msq]

Thanks, I hope everything will be okay. I can't even believe I'm pregnant again so soon.

Also, I wasn't 'off smoking weed' I smoked after my daughter was already in bed for the night to help with my upset stomach and sleep. I know that my post sounded pretty irresponsible but I actually am not. I am a full time student, I work and my daughter's father isn't in the picture so technically I'm a single mom supporting her myself although I do have support from my mom and my fiance.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS!
Secondly, have a positive.mindset and everything will be ok
Pm me if you need to chat!

 

[StarBrites]

I think everything will be okay sweetie!
Also, congratulations on your BFP!
I haven't heard from you in awhile so I decided to look you up, I too got a BFP today!

 

[msq]

Thank you girls! And congrats to you star

 

[babyjan]

I'm sure everything will be fine, if you haven't already start taking prenatal vitamins and congrats!

 

[JJKCB]

smoking and drink in the first few weeks would do much damage (most people will of smoked and/or drank during the first 4/5/6 weeks) so dont stress out but you should stop ASAP if you havnt already

the drugs probably wont do massive damage if it was just a small amount and stop quickly probably similar-ish to smoking

I have got to say im worried though, I know you asked for no judgement but you smoke drugs and drink while in charge of a child is pretty shocking (if shes asleep your still in charge of her) and that is fair to judge as its the well being of an innocent child (the reason CPS exists is certain things need to be judged)

being a single mum isn't an excuse at all, I was as where several of my friends and Ive never heard anyone drink or doing drugs with their child upstairs (although several smoke cigarettes outside as a destresser) - the night is where your child is most at risk of complications (cot death, sleep apnea, illness, suffocation)

im confused by your post though - if you are a single mum who are you trying for/having a baby with?

P.s. you are an adult and drinking/doing drugs is your choice the issue being judged is that your child wasn't in the care of a safe sober adult in case of emergency, if you had been caught you could lose custody of your child which is obviously very serious and im sure is a risk you dont really want

 

[HBGirl]

All I have to say is be careful what you post online. You have your daughters name and picture on here. Everything is traceable.

 

[babyjan]

JJKCB, I do agree with you on that, she did mention she has a fiancé?

 

[JJKCB]

JJKCB, I do agree with you on that, she did mention she has a fiancé?

if she has a fiance she is not a single mum... you may live alone or be financially independent but your not single

to be honest many people in relationships either live alone or/and are financially unsupported by one member of the couple doesn't make them single mums (if we counted everyone whose bio-parents arent together there would be a hell of a lot of single parents)

 

[msq]

This is her fiancé, and the threatening shit needs to stop. You say she has pictures online and info? Does it say where we live? California. Weed is not illegal, and drinking isn't either, so how would you call cps? It's not like we leave her alone or anything anyways, we have family. You bitches are ridiculous harassing someone who is already having a tough time.

 

[kaylamariee]

I think your bubba will be fine!
As long as you have stopped (which you probably have) after you've found out.
I smoked cigarettes the first month of my pregnancy till I found out, I still even smoked after I found out (not as many, but I still did :$) (not encouraging it, I felt sooo bad for doing it)
And my baby girl is perfectly healthy.

 

[JJKCB]

This is her fiancé, and the threatening shit needs to stop. You say she has pictures online and info? Does it say where we live? California. Weed is not illegal, and drinking isn't either, so how would you call cps? It's not like we leave her alone or anything anyways, we have family. You bitches are ridiculous harassing someone who is already having a tough time.

first off no one threatened anything... we said IF cps find out

second of all lots of things are legal you cant do them in charge of a child/car/heavy machinery etc... common sense (i.e - drinking is legal but you drink and drive your gonna get your ass arested)

thirdly if your not coping then trying for a baby really wasnt wise it doesnt get easier, go seek help there are plenty of people to talk to without risking your children

 

[msq]

No one said I'm not coping. I'm coping well actually, I am in school full time and have a 3.5 GPA and I'm working to support my daughter. I'm doing the best I can and I'm lucky to have a great support system. The point was that I was asking for non judgmental advice, not for people to get involved in my business. There are other people who I live with who could help if I needed it. There are a lot of people who drink a lot while caring for their children at family get together and what not. Its not as if I smoked so much that I wasn't aware of my surroundings or unable to respond to an emergency. I know my own limits and I smoked for medical reasons which is completely legal.

 

[msq]

It would be much worse if I were drinking than smoking which to be clear I do not drink when my daughter is present.

 

[Sinclair]

I would honestly say not to go ahead and defend yourself to other people. What happens, happens. Before I found out I was pregnant I was drinking, smoking cigarettes and so on. I'm currently 29 weeks with our son and he's perfectly healthy. I was about 6, 7 weeks when I found out. If you're smoking for legal reasons, and where was said they live is true, it's legal.

Just don't stress it.

 

[Desi's_lost]

Weed is fairly decriminalized in a lot of places in the states, if not completely legal. Becoming more and more acceptable for recreational use as well. Obviously not around a child. But that says itself.

Anyway!
I wasn't trying to conceive when I did and was in a terrible place so I was smoking (weed and cigs) and drinking. I'll be specific, I wasn't even in the same state as my daughter, hence was I was in such a bad place. The weed and drinking probably stopped about a week after conception but I continued smoking cigarettes until the day I found out I was pregnant which was probably about 3 weeks.

So far, baby is measuring normal, seems fine. And I'm sure he will be fine. So I wouldn't be too worried about your new LO either.

Good luck and congrats!