Pretty shocked!!!! and worried.. need non judgmental advice

[msq]

Thank you. I'm hoping everything will turn out alright.

 

[ctoms89]

I was smoking and drinking before I found out I was pregnant at 8 weeks and my daughter is a perfectly happy, healthy, and very smart 3 year old. Most of these ladies are from the UK and probably don't understand the legality of weed in the US. It is decriminalized in over half of the states, if I remember correctly. No biggie. Baby will be fine

 

[Jo.t]

Im in the uk & also not a teen - I dont smoke weed but both me & my partner have a couple of drinks when the kids are in bed - I cant see the big deal tbh as long as shes not stoned or dunk out of her head !

All you people who are judging the OP - can u honestly say you will never have a drink whilst your child is in the same house ? Seriously ? What about xmas ? Birthdays ?

And the poster who said about cot death - that can happen any of day & if its at night you would be asleep anyway so I dont get your point ?

I think your baby will be fine I found out im 4 weeks further on than I thought - which means I was very drunk twice when I was earlyy pregnant (was on holls) - stuff like this happens & guess what ? The children were in the hotel with me ! There were also several other families there with children who were also drinking - the cps would have a massive workload if they delt with all these people :-/

Good luck OP !

 

[skyesmom]

i am sorry to read such harsh posts on this amazing forum. the OP asked for non judgmental advice and there you go, someone listing dangerous and honestly, unrelated things that can happen while the already born child is asleep like cot death and sleep apnea.

a) cot death and sleep apnea are not DANGEROUS THINGS. they are RANDOM, DEVASTATING THINGS that can happen to anyone. and it usually goes like this, you wake up in the morning or in the middle of the night and find your baby dead. what should one do, stay awake 24/7 and stare at the child without moving in case they stop breathing? as if there was something that can be done anyway.

b) hands up who has never drunk anything alcoholic (not even a cherry liquor chocolate) or never lit a cigarette or never eaten at mc donald's or never smoked weed, even if you're teens? or never made any mistakes and fuck ups at all?

if there are such immaculate angels on this forum, then i presume you have never actually done anything in your lives.

it is so easy to judge the others and point fingers, the OP here asked for support as she is feeling bad already, she is OBVIOUSLY MORE than aware that smoking weed/cigarettes while pregnant IS NOT a good thing to do and won't benefit the baby, moreover she has STOPPED ever since she has found out that she's expecting and she was just looking for some reassurance that she has not harmed her child.

if this can't be respected and understood, than refrain yourself from posting. i am sure you meant the best, but these kind of post are really not helpful to anyone. people should have more empathy.

 

[mstennischick]

everything will be fine!!! I got drunk multiple times and smoked cigarettes hard core before I found out I was pregnant. Just stop immediately and you will be fine. I promise. I told my OB when I first found out and she brushed it off so quickly as if I hadn't done anything.

 

[mstennischick]

oh and BTW I reported all of those people who are harassing you on here. also, child services is not going to take away your child because you smoke and drank before you found out you were pregnant. Now if you were drinking frequenty and posing a risk to your child knowingly, they could. But not before, don't you worry a tiny bit! I'm really quite shocked to see such rude people as I have deleted my account from multiple sites that allow this kind of behavior. I thought bnb would have blocked them by now.

 

[mstennischick]

Oh btw, I do plan on drinking again after my daughter is born. I will make sure that she has a 100 percent sober person looking after her like her dad or her grandparents, but guess what to every jerk on here: having a kid doesn't mean never drinking again. It's completely legal and in fact it's encouraged to go out every once and a while and have time away from baby. mommies need mom time too.

 

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