Cheshirista
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Ok, so tell me if I'm just being an unreasonable pregnant bitch.
My cleaner has been coming for 2.5 years, since just before DS was born. She's a friend of the family. DS adores her and she looks after him sometimes for me as well, while I walk the dogs or go to the shops. She's very nice and a big help and I do appreciate her.
However, she's always done some annoying things. She picks up clothes from everywhere and washes them, not just the laundry basket. If I'm wearing a jumper and take it off for a minute, it's in the wash. She tumble dries everything. She puts stuff away that's still damp. She puts stuff away in the wrong places and I can't find it. She irons everything, even pyjamas and underwear, a complete waste of time IMO. She over-tidies, changing things from how I've put them. I've tried saying things before but it doesn't seem to make any difference, but I'd say them in a light hearted way. I tried telling her not to do laundry, and I'd leave her the ironing to do, I've tried this a few times, but she just carried on doing it anyway. And I didn't make a big deal, because I guess the house always looked nice and having damp clothes in the cupboards wasn't the end of the world.
But now I'm pregnant with no2, and I want my house to be the way I want it. I just feel that way. And it's MY house. So I asked her firmly but politely to leave some stuff where it was. She got really stroppy and then tidied it all away anyway. So I started just doing all the laundry, getting it dried and packed away before she came, hiding my clean clothes and leaving the few bits to be ironed in a basket. This went ok for a few weeks, then last week she kicked off, saying I was trying to do her out of her job and insisting I had been secretly ironing. I didn't appreciate it, but smoothed it over.
Today, I've done most of the laundry so it's dry and separated the ironing. I showed her what I'd done so she could see I wasn't being underhand. I said "everything that needs ironing is in that white basket". And now she's put it all together again and is ironing it.
I feel like tearing my hair out. It's my house, I should be allowed to do my own laundry if I want, how I want, and it's our money that's paying her to iron bloody underpants. I want to get rid of her, because I feel oppressed now, but it would be awkward because she's a family friend and sad for DS because he loves her. But I've started to feel annoyed with her just being here, I dread it.
Am I being out.of order? I've tried hinting, I've tried saying, I've tried finding her other stuff to do and nothing will get her to change.
Sorry for long post, and petty nature of it all. I'm a very angry pregnant lady 😠
My cleaner has been coming for 2.5 years, since just before DS was born. She's a friend of the family. DS adores her and she looks after him sometimes for me as well, while I walk the dogs or go to the shops. She's very nice and a big help and I do appreciate her.
However, she's always done some annoying things. She picks up clothes from everywhere and washes them, not just the laundry basket. If I'm wearing a jumper and take it off for a minute, it's in the wash. She tumble dries everything. She puts stuff away that's still damp. She puts stuff away in the wrong places and I can't find it. She irons everything, even pyjamas and underwear, a complete waste of time IMO. She over-tidies, changing things from how I've put them. I've tried saying things before but it doesn't seem to make any difference, but I'd say them in a light hearted way. I tried telling her not to do laundry, and I'd leave her the ironing to do, I've tried this a few times, but she just carried on doing it anyway. And I didn't make a big deal, because I guess the house always looked nice and having damp clothes in the cupboards wasn't the end of the world.
But now I'm pregnant with no2, and I want my house to be the way I want it. I just feel that way. And it's MY house. So I asked her firmly but politely to leave some stuff where it was. She got really stroppy and then tidied it all away anyway. So I started just doing all the laundry, getting it dried and packed away before she came, hiding my clean clothes and leaving the few bits to be ironed in a basket. This went ok for a few weeks, then last week she kicked off, saying I was trying to do her out of her job and insisting I had been secretly ironing. I didn't appreciate it, but smoothed it over.
Today, I've done most of the laundry so it's dry and separated the ironing. I showed her what I'd done so she could see I wasn't being underhand. I said "everything that needs ironing is in that white basket". And now she's put it all together again and is ironing it.
I feel like tearing my hair out. It's my house, I should be allowed to do my own laundry if I want, how I want, and it's our money that's paying her to iron bloody underpants. I want to get rid of her, because I feel oppressed now, but it would be awkward because she's a family friend and sad for DS because he loves her. But I've started to feel annoyed with her just being here, I dread it.
Am I being out.of order? I've tried hinting, I've tried saying, I've tried finding her other stuff to do and nothing will get her to change.
Sorry for long post, and petty nature of it all. I'm a very angry pregnant lady 😠