I just wanted to give a public service announcement, to all of you women who have less than stellar partners. It seems that there are no shortage of women posting about partners who are selfish, self-absorbed, and expect their women to be pregnant, cheerful and still take care of them like their own mommy did when they were 5. My heart breaks for women who feel/are trapped in a relationship like that.
So you ladies know, NOT ALL men are 'like that'. Men out there DO EXIST who are wonderful, supportive partners who do their fair share (and then some on those days where you really feel like crap), work hard at work, work hard at home, and STILL find the ability to treat their partners like PARTNERS. Even if they are the 'primary breadwinner', even if they don't get to BD for 2 months while you are pregnant, even if they don't get to go out with their friends every night of the week, and even IF you don't have the energy or desire to cook and clean up after them.
They exist, I promise. Maybe they don't always come in the prettiest or most atheletic package, and their sense of style may be somewhat lacking
. But honestly, none of that matters. I married a "computer nerd". He may not be the one turn all of the girls heads on the street (boy they don't know what they are missing!!!!) but to me, he is the most attractive man I can imagine, because of the way he treats ME, others and how I *know* he will treat our children.
So, please don't sell yourselves short and settle for an overgrown 5 y/o, because wonderful men DO exist in the world. Please make sure that you are getting a partnership out of your relationship - someone who brings something to the table to make your life better, easier and more enjoyable. I am not saying that everyday is fairy-tale land, because it isn't, but the good days should heavily outweigh the bad.
So you ladies know, NOT ALL men are 'like that'. Men out there DO EXIST who are wonderful, supportive partners who do their fair share (and then some on those days where you really feel like crap), work hard at work, work hard at home, and STILL find the ability to treat their partners like PARTNERS. Even if they are the 'primary breadwinner', even if they don't get to BD for 2 months while you are pregnant, even if they don't get to go out with their friends every night of the week, and even IF you don't have the energy or desire to cook and clean up after them.
They exist, I promise. Maybe they don't always come in the prettiest or most atheletic package, and their sense of style may be somewhat lacking
. But honestly, none of that matters. I married a "computer nerd". He may not be the one turn all of the girls heads on the street (boy they don't know what they are missing!!!!) but to me, he is the most attractive man I can imagine, because of the way he treats ME, others and how I *know* he will treat our children.So, please don't sell yourselves short and settle for an overgrown 5 y/o, because wonderful men DO exist in the world. Please make sure that you are getting a partnership out of your relationship - someone who brings something to the table to make your life better, easier and more enjoyable. I am not saying that everyday is fairy-tale land, because it isn't, but the good days should heavily outweigh the bad.
) I'm definitely glad I decided not to settle n fought for him. Worth every minute.
