PUPD - need help!!

[NG09]

Just looking for advice from any of you who have used PUPD and had success!

My LO was poorly so I let him sleep in with me and DH went into the spare room .... 3 weeks on LO has now decided he quite likes sleeping in with me and doesn't want to be in his own bed anymore. I have tried rocking him back to sleep but as soon as he goes into his cot he stands back up and points out the door (wanting back into our room) I have tried lying on the floor next to his cot but won't have that either, we did PUPD last night (DH and I took turns) and he did go back to sleep but woke every 10 mins all night.

He still doesn't self settle so has to be asleep when I put him dwn otherwise he stands up and cries.

I really don't want to let him CIO, I don't feel it's for us.

He used to SSTN in his own room but now he's not having any of it.

Any suggestions?

 

[NG09]

Anyone??

 

[terridee69]

I really wish I could help, but I have the same problem. I will be watching for any advice ;-)

 

[cherryglitter]

sorry i have none. unless you persist with the PUPD?

 

[cath]

Keep at it hun, things always get worse before they get better with PU/PD. We found it easiest to take shifts so that we at least got a bit of sleep. So either OH got in spare room with music on to drown out LO while I did the night & then he took her out for the day so I could catch up or we split the night in half- he did bedtime- 1 or 2 am & I did from then til wake up.

 

[gorgeousmumof]

I tried PUPD but have had to resort to CIO. As everytime I put him back down he screams and screams. And it lasts ALL night. I have now given in and let him cry for a minute or 2, then when it doesn't stop him I give him milk and he goes back to sleep.
Not sure he should still have milk at 1 in the night, but he still wakes 2-3 times a night (if I give him milk). If I don't give milk he will wake every 10 minutes
It's so tough being a mummy when they wake so often and I really feel for you. Have you spoken to your HV for some advice? Mine keeps advising controlled crying, but it tugs on my heart strings and makes me feel so damn mean!!

 

[NG09]

I tried PUPD but have had to resort to CIO. As everytime I put him back down he screams and screams. And it lasts ALL night. I have now given in and let him cry for a minute or 2, then when it doesn't stop him I give him milk and he goes back to sleep.
Not sure he should still have milk at 1 in the night, but he still wakes 2-3 times a night (if I give him milk). If I don't give milk he will wake every 10 minutes
It's so tough being a mummy when they wake so often and I really feel for you. Have you spoken to your HV for some advice? Mine keeps advising controlled crying, but it tugs on my heart strings and makes me feel so damn mean!!

I just don't know why he's doing it at all. He was fine before he was poorly now it's like he wants in with us for comfort. He went to bed tonight at 8pm and already we have been up 4 times. It's as though he's having a bad dream as sometimes he's still asleep but crying a bit at the same time. It's such a shame, I feel so bad for not just taking him into our bed but no one is sleeping well, he certainly isn't as he tosses and turns in our bed all night long. Don't know what to do x

 

[terridee69]

Hi again, reading what you have written above just reminded me of when the bad sleeping started. I went to the chemist and explained, my Lo had colic which I thought she was to old for, but after a couple of weeks of gripe water It's gone. She was about the same age as your Lo....
However now I think she is either hungry or its now a habit

 

[kirstylm]

Had exact same problem for same reasons few
Months back and LO did same thing, wome and pointed at door and nothing worked unless we gave in and took her to our bed!

After a few weeks of this we realised there's nothing wring with her coz as soon as she was in our bed she would smile away and go back to sleep after a bit of messing around!!!

So what we did was just get a bit tough! It was horrible and I felt so guilty but we just didnt give into it. For a couple of days I just slept in the spare bed in LO room
With her and if she woke I brought her in with me then after that she then started pointing at that bed rather than the door ! Doh!!!

She was just testing us and seeing how long she could get her own way so we ended up just letting her cry for a bit before going in when she woke, it was never a bad cry and she soon quietened down. I must admit though it was heart breaking having to let her cry like that but we knew it was the only way as we had tried every other approach and us going into her just seemed to make her hysterical when we then put er down again!

As long as. Know that LO is safe and there's nothing actually wrong, he just wants to come into ur bed u just gotta be a bit tougher I guess, well that's what we did and it worked.

Now, Eva sleeps they every night and er put her down in her cot awake every nap and night time and she sends herself off happily and content.

Also our other littletrick was (if u use a dummy) spreadbloads out in the cot as Eva wakes and chucks everything out the cot so we have spread 7 dummies around her bed lol!!!! Works a treat though!! Plus they are night time dummies that glow in the dark so she can easily Find them!

Good luck xxx

 

[kirstylm]

Look up night terrors Hun too as Eva also did this a few night was horrible screaming like mad But her eyes were closed as if she was still asleep! It's horrible but she luckily only had few days of this then it seemed to stop. Could also be the problem!?

I tried PUPD but have had to resort to CIO. As everytime I put him back down he screams and screams. And it lasts ALL night. I have now given in and let him cry for a minute or 2, then when it doesn't stop him I give him milk and he goes back to sleep.
Not sure he should still have milk at 1 in the night, but he still wakes 2-3 times a night (if I give him milk). If I don't give milk he will wake every 10 minutes
It's so tough being a mummy when they wake so often and I really feel for you. Have you spoken to your HV for some advice? Mine keeps advising controlled crying, but it tugs on my heart strings and makes me feel so damn mean!!

I just don't know why he's doing it at all. He was fine before he was poorly now it's like he wants in with us for comfort. He went to bed tonight at 8pm and already we have been up 4 times. It's as though he's having a bad dream as sometimes he's still asleep but crying a bit at the same time. It's such a shame, I feel so bad for not just taking him into our bed but no one is sleeping well, he certainly isn't as he tosses and turns in our bed all night long. Don't know what to do x

 

[PepsiChic]

I did PUPD with Barry from about the age of 4 months, and even now if he degresses a bit I revert back to it.

I would never do CIO or CC, but of course that is up to you if you choose that route.

My suggestions are to get into a VERY good bedtime routine this was the biggest key thing for getting it to work.

so before bed, quiet time, read a book, sing lullabys while holding him and patting his back, if he has a drink of milk before bed let him have that and then cuddle.

then into the bedroom, put him down, give him a comforter, even a small blanket or soft toy he can hold would work, use a light show projector those ones that go onto the celing, this distracts from you leaving.

then leave. dont say a word.
if he starts crying wait a minute and see what he does he may know that you'll go right back in, if he goes to fussing or starts fussing leave him.

if he starts to cry or scream go in, pick up, calm him down, put him back down, give himt he comforter back, turn lightshow back on and leave again. dont talk, because its bedtime not talk or playtime.

just keep going eventually he will understand and if he wakes up during the night try it, but dont be worried to offer him a drink if he needs it especially if after 10 minutes hes not stopped crying he'll likely be hot and thirsty from it. just dont turn any lights on and try not to talk or stimulate him.

good luck chick i know its hard work but it pays off so much!

 

[NG09]

Thank you so much for the advice, last night I put LO to bed at his usual time and low and behold he stared it again. So I just put him back down in his own bed. He slept for a few hours and at midnight he woke up again, when I went through he was standing up pointing at the door so I lay him back down and he went to sleep, 10 mins later same thing so I put him back down again, I sat on his bedroom floor and he fell asleep. I went back to bed thinking he would be back up again but he slept until 8am in his cot!!!!

He's been in the same bedtime routine since he was tiny so I guess he's just pushing his luck to see how far he can go, certainly looks like it!

 

[PepsiChic]

Thank you so much for the advice, last night I put LO to bed at his usual time and low and behold he stared it again. So I just put him back down in his own bed. He slept for a few hours and at midnight he woke up again, when I went through he was standing up pointing at the door so I lay him back down and he went to sleep, 10 mins later same thing so I put him back down again, I sat on his bedroom floor and he fell asleep. I went back to bed thinking he would be back up again but he slept until 8am in his cot!!!!

He's been in the same bedtime routine since he was tiny so I guess he's just pushing his luck to see how far he can go, certainly looks like it!

so glad its working out again, fingers crossed for you that he soon figures out that its not worth waking up after 10 minutes!

Its good to see you around on here again, its been a while! x

 

[NG09]

Thank you so much for the advice, last night I put LO to bed at his usual time and low and behold he stared it again. So I just put him back down in his own bed. He slept for a few hours and at midnight he woke up again, when I went through he was standing up pointing at the door so I lay him back down and he went to sleep, 10 mins later same thing so I put him back down again, I sat on his bedroom floor and he fell asleep. I went back to bed thinking he would be back up again but he slept until 8am in his cot!!!!

He's been in the same bedtime routine since he was tiny so I guess he's just pushing his luck to see how far he can go, certainly looks like it!

so glad its working out again, fingers crossed for you that he soon figures out that its not worth waking up after 10 minutes!

Its good to see you around on here again, its been a while! x

Thanks pepsi, lasnt night I actually managed to put him down awake and he fell asleep without being rocked, cuddled ..... that was a first!!

Don't seem to get so much time to come on here anymore, life is busy juggling a toddler, house, husband and work!!! I'm sure you know the feeling well!! lol x

 

[PepsiChic]

Thanks pepsi, lasnt night I actually managed to put him down awake and he fell asleep without being rocked, cuddled ..... that was a first!!

Don't seem to get so much time to come on here anymore, life is busy juggling a toddler, house, husband and work!!! I'm sure you know the feeling well!! lol x

thats fantastic i 100% recommend doing that every night form now on because once they start to go to sleep awake it can only get better from there! so keep going your doing such a great job!

and oh yes i know what you mean! i get 5 minutes before work to check my emails if im lucky and 10 minutes in the evening to check the forums.