Question for those who have been/are married!

[caggimedicine]

Hi meow

Me and OH got married in a registry office with just our mums and dads and sisters there. I wore a dress from Oasis and we hired OH's suit from Burtons! After the ceremony, we went back to my parent's where we'd put up a marque (thanfully, as it was raining!) and had a buffet and drinks with our friends and it was great!

2 of my friends have since got married and had HUGE weddings, and whilst i have thought occasionally "it would have been nice to have this or that", I don't regret the way we got married at all. After all - my friends are now in tons of debt, and we started married life without debt... and we're all married at the end of the day.

Do what YOU want to do - and what you can afford.

 

[Boony]

I got married in a big church and then had reception at party at a hotel. I had everything i wanted and it cost around £4000 but i would've spent more if neccessary. At the end of the day I only plan on getting married once and i wanted it to be perfect and exactly how i'd always imagined.

We went on honeymoon to tenerife for a week afterwards which was probably another £1000 but that was staying in a posh hotel.

Have the wedding that YOU want.

 

[Elli21]

Our budget was um...£600.

My mum and dad bought my wedding dress.
And as our wedding present they paid for close family to have a meal after.

My MIL and FIL paid for us to have a weekend honeymoon in barcelona. (as our wedding gift)

And all our family chipped into the buffet at the party in the evening.

I dont regret it at all!
For us it was perfect.

However, i do regret one thing....I wish we had of got a professional photographer!
My family took pics, and altho most of them are really great and i love them, its just something i would have liked.

 

[waremebaby]

Honestly I loved having a big wedding, but I had a few things going for me. One my parents paid for the wedding, and two I live in a small town where things are very affordable. I had a wedding with about 250 guests for under 5,000. Do what you feel is right for you and have no regrets, you only get to do it once!

 

[Poppeteer]

Our wedding cost £35,000 for 100 guests ay the landmark hotel in central London.... we did everything how we wanted- NOT to please anyone else, and it truly was the best day of my life. Extravagant? Yes, but it's exactly how I wanted it.

 

[llamedos]

You have to do what is best for you - the biggest regret I have is that I organised a 'traditional' wedding, what I thought was expected, rather than what I actually wanted.

 

[pinkmummy]

I think you make your wedding how you want it.

If you don't want to spend alot of money, look for the cheapest alternatives.

Ours is costing around £6k altogether and obviously its not here yet but it is EXACTLY what I want!

 

[beccad]

I had quite a big do - 110 people. It was hard work and I was knackered with all the organising by the time the day itself came around. If I had my day again I'd probably halve the numbers. I'd do something a bit less traditional too, and I'd pay for the whole thing ourselves rather than letting my parents get involved. They weren't demanding, but they were happy to spend the cash and that's how it got so big.

 

[clairebear]

We had smallish wedding totalling around the £4,000 mark and i wouldn't change it for the world!

 

[honeybee2]

Hi!

I know what you mean! We have a £5000 budget (it was 4 at one time!!).
We are getting married and having our reception in the same place (brecon castle) with 80 guests inc me and my fiance. The bridesmaids and best men are paying for their own outfits, the venue is supplying the table centres, I have two mates just graduated from uni doing a photography degree, I'm making my own wedding cakes (we're having two because we're serving one as desert- another great saver) we are having a hot fork buffet and the only free drink is the toast drink, which will be a bottle of beer because we prefer it!! Its about making the day personal, not conforming to traditions long dead. Make the day personal by displaying your hobbies/ interests for example, we're lucky enough that our venue has a private bar in the castle area so we're having band hero in there for the boys, we're setting up our own video camera for guests messages, our mates are in a band, we've sourced a local DJ, the flowers are relaxed and elegant which I love. We're having a whole table dedicated to our friends- we're displaying old photographs of us with friends and relatives and when we were growing up, the favours are our favourite sweets. We're personalising our own vows. See things like that dont cost much money- if anything. Its about you as a person (and a bit about the people you know with hidden talents!!!) hope this helps a bit!!!