Rant! It feels good to get it out!

[87BeautyQueen]

Why are some women so mean? If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything! I am so sick and tired of other women having negative opinions on everything. As soon as your pregnant it seems that everyone will tell you what you should and shouldn't do, how big or small you should be, how your life will change, labour, breast feeding, the list goes on.... I take great pride in proving the haters wrong. I am sure I am not alone feeling like this...

 

[ItsJana]

I've experienced this too, and honestly I think it's just jealousy most of the time.

 

[heidi87814]

I've never understood the lack of sisterhood between women sometimes. So sad.

 

[Kezzybear]

Ugh! I agree! So annoying! Everyone has an opinion. It's just irritating!

 

[Rcx]

I never know why people think it's an open invitation for all their opinions, advice and extremely personal questions!! Pregnant woman are sensitive as it is never mins all that crap!

 

[Eriamel]

I usually reply with one line and one line only "that's the thing with opinions; everyone has a different one"..

I've had someone tell me I HAD to vaccinate because otherwise I'll always be running to the hospital with my baby. and I HAD to not do co-sleeping because (and then I wasn't paying attention anymore) and I HAD... and I said I HAVE to do nothing.. and especially not when people tell me to..

if people are what you perceive to be rude.. I'd just be as blunt and rude back, that's often the only way to make them see how what they are saying is actually inappropriate.

 

[Meljenn]

I want to just quit work and hide at home until the baby because I am so tired of peoples opinions.

If you stretch you will wrap your babies cord around its neck. If you eat beef from a grocery store your child could get autism. No beef and your a horrible mother. Push a cart and your going to rip its cord.

Ugh I am just having a bad day here at work

 

[Eriamel]

I can't believe those old wives tales are still being told.. not stretching your arms over your head. I guess no hair-washing for you for 9 months !

 

[salu_34]

I've had that ... and actually had it happen with friends. We were out a restaurant and I ordered a sprite and water (separate) to drink. My one friend asks our other friend (who just had a baby) if I should be drinking the sprite. I thought it a little rude. I answered and said yes there is no caffeine in sprite and I'm actually allowed 200mg a day of caffeine. I just thought it made me seem like I didn't know what I was doing.

 

[Rcx]

Lol at the stretching thing I've never heard that before!! Crazy!
I volunteer with an old lady and had to share this:
She was saying oh these woman with they're tightest tshirts on like they're so proud of themselves it's downright disgusting, and to think not even a half of them are married!

She's such a sweet lady but at 89, her opinions are so strong and old fashioned that I just burst our laughing at the stuff she's says and tell her she's a drama queen haha!!

 

[87BeautyQueen]

So I'm not the only one... You'd think after being in the same situation themselves, they might understand?? I usually react by being blunt and setting people straight but probably come across as being bitchy, but I can't let people walk all over me! If everyone kept their opinions to themselves about the right way to have a baby the world would be a better place

 

[salu_34]

My mom had pretty much said "Don't ley anybody but you and Eric tell you how to raise your baby". Which is true. I know there will be a lot of ppl telling me this way is better and I shouldn't do this or that. I'm too quiet to say anything to anybody, so I'd probably just nod and smile lol.

 

[Eriamel]

I was like that too for the longest time.. It'd let people walk all over me.. I found that this impending motherhood has made me very protective over my methods and my baby and how I see parenthood. So now I will be rude and blunt back when they talk to me like that. My husband has been speechless quite a few times already when he saw me responding to some people that I found were a little too intrusive and personal and rude with the unsolicited advice.. Because that's not a side he knows of me. lol. And you know what? It feels great! It makes me feel a whole lot better lol! So speak your mind, you'll feel relieved afterwards.

 

[kittylady]

Unfortunately this doesn't change once the babies born. Everyone has an opinion. I am also amazed how mothers can be so spiteful to each other over everything from bf/ff, weaning, schooling, vaccinations, etc. People get so defensive of their own parenting methods that they attack anyone who does anything differently.

 

[lilmonkey86]

I am totally with you on this one. I think my biggest annoyance since day one is my MIL, she was so mean to me when DH and I first got together right up until our wedding day when he finally threatened to cut her out of our lives completely, now she is sweet as pie, but now she just has an opinion about everything to do with this baby, some of which I agree with some of which I don't. the part that makes it really hard is that DH is agreeing with her on some things and it is pissing me off, but I am such a timid person that I don't argue. for example, I plan to breast feed but I don't want to exclusively breast feed at about 6 weeks I plan to introduce pumped bottles (I am a fairly independent person and I want the ability to have DH watch my son and not have to wake up mid nap to feed) so on my registry I registered for the bottles I want, MIL proceeds to tell me that i should take them off because if i'm going to breast feed then i should just buy the bottles after he is here, which in my opinion if I am planning to pump 100% for sure than why would I not register for bottles. people buy bottles for your baby shower whether you register for them or not so why not tell them what kind I want? but DH agreed with her, also throughout my pregnancy I have experienced symptoms earlier than "normal", for example I could feel him moving around 16+4, MIL said it is impossible to feel them move that early and DH agreed with her making me feel like I was going crazy, but i think i may get the last laugh as now I can physically see him kicking from the outside but i'm sure she will say i'm crazy and that can't happen til 30 weeks.... jokes on her I got it on video last week

 

[Eriamel]

Omg how frustrating...

I would be so pissed off at my husband.. I can see how this annoys you.

My MIL has not been too intrusive, but that's because we've deliberately not shared too much information with her about what our plans are or how we plan on doing things. I'm sure it will happen once the baby is there -_-.

 

[panda8298]

think you just need to take it as they cares, and want to share their experience.... a few people done that - and a few of them says, thats our experience etc so you build your own etc.
at the end of the day, you can take the good ones and ignore the bad ones (your opinion) and nod politely