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[stephaniexx]

hi girlies, i need to vent.. i have a growth scan on friday and i found out OHs mum has taken the day off work so she can come when she isnt invited and its really ticked me off.. it really should be private between me and OH.. this scan and the next one are really important because they decide if kaitlyn has to come early or not and shes just expecting a lovely time playing nana when we could be given bad news.

all i care about is finding out if shes ok in a private moment with OH, not with her parading about like a fool.. i get anxiety attacks and this has set them off BIG time and i dont have the heart to tell OH cos he licks her arse and id never want to hurt him. do you think im over-reacting?

i dont know why its hit me so hard its just really annoyed me, i think its the last straw because shes tried to take over just about everything with the baby even though she lives miles away.

she also thinks shes coming straight into the delivery room.. shell be disappointed when shes sent home cos i dont want visitors until im on the postnatal ward.

 

[meow951]

I don't think you're over reacting!

If she's not invited then she's shouldn't come and i do think it's a special time between you and your OH.

Last time i was pregnant OH mum decided she and his gran we having scan pictures to show everyone! I was like excuse me it's our baby and our job to show people. We said no and she had a bloody tantrum. Turns out all the hassle was for nothing as the baby had died and it really annoyed me!

I'd put your foot down now and then it won't be so hard later on.

 

[Sophiiie]

you're not over-reacting
my OH's mum was a bit of a problem as well.. she didn't do anything as bad as inviting herself to scans, but she took it upon herself to tell most of the town we live in that I was expecting. me & my OH wanted to keep it quiet for a while, due to a previous loss, and when we told his parents we asked that they only tell immediate family if they needed to.

a matter of days later we had a lot of my OH's friends texting him saying congrats, and his mum very openly said "well you couldn't expect me to keep it quiet could you..i'm a gob on legs!" I was so upset.. it's not like that was some common gossip to be passed on in the post office

I know what it's like when your OH is a bit of a mummys boy.. mine is the same. but i'd suggest trying to talk to him & explain how you feel xx

 

[x__amour]

You are NOT over reacting, I promise!
This is definitely a special thing between you and your OH, and very private. I feel exactly where you're coming from. My mom has been super crazy involved in my pregnancy almost to the point where it's suffocating, she actually went into my baby book and stole the ultrasounds of my LO! Ditto with the delivery room, she expects to be there but she's going to be in for a shock when they won't let her in. This is my family, not her family, which is where I feel you're coming from too! Sounds like your OH is a mommy's boy, but he needs to support you and YOUR decisions. It is, after all, YOUR BABY. Either you or OH will nicely have to tell OH's mom that she doesn't really have a right to just invite herself to your scan! And like meow951 said, it's better to put your foot down now then later! Good luck!

 

[stephaniexx]

thanks girls, its nice having people on my side lol

im going to have words with him today when he wakes up cos hes just finished work at 6 this morning, and just tell him straight out that i dont mean to sound awful but i dont want her there, i want nobody but him there. she can have a picture for gods sake lol

x

 

[barrowland]

yeah i know how you feel iv had to battle with my OHs mum for ages that she wasnt coming to scans and that she wasnt coming in the room when i deliver i wouldnt feel comfortable at all i finally won by telling her id just tell the midwives that i didnt want her there just talk to OH and explain to him your not comfortable with it all since you might get bad news and you dont want someone there who isnt your OH and that if you didnt invite her then she shouldnt automatically think she can come in with you