Kiki1993
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So close to setting a date but not sure what to do for the best!
The closest date we could pick is Dec 2015 because by 6 months i will have finshed my course. But not sure if we should wait until i work full time again, i plan on being a SAHM for the first 5 years so it isnt like i would go back to working anyway, probably just part time like i work now which is only 10 hours a week. Not sure what to do for the best, everyone keeps saying "your still young" etc and yes i aam aware, (will 22 when pregnant and 23 by brith if we do next dec) but i have been wanting a baby since i was 16! ... ever since i was a kid i wanted to be a mum and i never really had a dream job except being a mum.
I need someone from outside my life to either knock sense into me or confirm it isn't a crazy idea.
We have 2 plans - 1. trying in Dec 2015, will receive mat allowance and would finish my course in the june when i would be approx 6 months along. OH earn enough to pay the bills and have a minimum of 100 pound a month left over. Not including my maternity allowance and any other money i get. We have 2 spare rooms. and he also gets loads of opportunities to do overtime (has worked the last 3/4 sats and 2/4 sundays and then a few 10 hour shifts)
OR
Trying Dec 2016 when i will have been in a full time job and get maternity pay, i wont be returning to the job after mat leave and money would be the same after mat leave as above plan.
Not sure whether to follow heart or head.... OH said so long as im finished college before baby is born he is fine with whatever i choose, any advice. What plan sounds best? I like plan one because it means we have our baby sooner and we will get by fine financially, but plan 2 although i have longer to wait the first 9 months we would get a bit extra money which might help us book a family holiday or something... because our rent and bills are relatively cheap OH wage is fine to live on and my friend who has an OH that gets less than my OH - they have a son, there rent is 200 more than ours a month and they get by fine with no help too.... opinions?
The closest date we could pick is Dec 2015 because by 6 months i will have finshed my course. But not sure if we should wait until i work full time again, i plan on being a SAHM for the first 5 years so it isnt like i would go back to working anyway, probably just part time like i work now which is only 10 hours a week. Not sure what to do for the best, everyone keeps saying "your still young" etc and yes i aam aware, (will 22 when pregnant and 23 by brith if we do next dec) but i have been wanting a baby since i was 16! ... ever since i was a kid i wanted to be a mum and i never really had a dream job except being a mum.
I need someone from outside my life to either knock sense into me or confirm it isn't a crazy idea.
We have 2 plans - 1. trying in Dec 2015, will receive mat allowance and would finish my course in the june when i would be approx 6 months along. OH earn enough to pay the bills and have a minimum of 100 pound a month left over. Not including my maternity allowance and any other money i get. We have 2 spare rooms. and he also gets loads of opportunities to do overtime (has worked the last 3/4 sats and 2/4 sundays and then a few 10 hour shifts)
OR
Trying Dec 2016 when i will have been in a full time job and get maternity pay, i wont be returning to the job after mat leave and money would be the same after mat leave as above plan.
Not sure whether to follow heart or head.... OH said so long as im finished college before baby is born he is fine with whatever i choose, any advice. What plan sounds best? I like plan one because it means we have our baby sooner and we will get by fine financially, but plan 2 although i have longer to wait the first 9 months we would get a bit extra money which might help us book a family holiday or something... because our rent and bills are relatively cheap OH wage is fine to live on and my friend who has an OH that gets less than my OH - they have a son, there rent is 200 more than ours a month and they get by fine with no help too.... opinions?