Leo_Mumma
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I spoke to my midwife for the first time the other day and had expressed that I didn't want to be treated at a particular local hospital and had asked about my options. She told me on the phone that I was being "neurotic" and that they were short staffed. I ended up finishing the conversation tearful and she asked me if I had depression! ( that was the first time I've cried in about 4 years!)
Although I was hesitant I went for my first appointment today and left feeling very bad about myself and upset. She made it very clear that she didn't believe me when I told her I hadn't suffered with any mental health issues, was completely shocked when I told her I had a partner and my baby was planned. She told me that if I lost weight I'd be "perfect" and in her words that I should "lay off the cakes" she also told me that if I did gain an excess amount of weight that I wouldn't be able to continue my treatment there and just went on and on about my weight. I am 5'5 and weigh 12'10. I am a size 14 and have a. I horse ride and work on a farm. Have 2 massive dogs who require hours exercise a day and consider myself fit.
I'm feeling crap about myself now. I really don't want to see her again. This is my first baby and she's freaked me out about diabetes and preeclampsia!
I really want to change but don't know if I'm allowed too. Has anybody else had a midwife that thy didn't get with? Shall I stick it out?
Although I was hesitant I went for my first appointment today and left feeling very bad about myself and upset. She made it very clear that she didn't believe me when I told her I hadn't suffered with any mental health issues, was completely shocked when I told her I had a partner and my baby was planned. She told me that if I lost weight I'd be "perfect" and in her words that I should "lay off the cakes" she also told me that if I did gain an excess amount of weight that I wouldn't be able to continue my treatment there and just went on and on about my weight. I am 5'5 and weigh 12'10. I am a size 14 and have a. I horse ride and work on a farm. Have 2 massive dogs who require hours exercise a day and consider myself fit.
I'm feeling crap about myself now. I really don't want to see her again. This is my first baby and she's freaked me out about diabetes and preeclampsia!
I really want to change but don't know if I'm allowed too. Has anybody else had a midwife that thy didn't get with? Shall I stick it out?