****really scared***** want C-section , will i have it??

[Zaki]

Hi

i had horrible birth ,nealry 2 days in agony , i was not progressing at all, baby was nearly dying ( his heart rate went to 40 nearly 5 times ) and ended up with Emergency C-section.
My son died 3.5 months after due to the brain damage but it was never proven that a diffucult labour caused it.
Well , i always believed it that it did!!

Now i am pregnat , nearly 15 weeks and i really dont want V Birth just in case it happens again.
My pregnancy is already high risk as i had some bleeding etc so do you think i could request C- section without any problems?
I am so so worries they will say no
What can i do or who do i have to see to ensure i will be booked for one near my due date
Thank you

 

[tristansmum]

I'm so sorry about the loss of your son.
Where are you? In UK they might advise you to vbac (which I did) but they won't refuse you a planned c section. Especially after what happened I'm sure you won't meet any resistance. Try not to worry about it x

 

[Eternal]

I'm so sorry about the loss of your son.
Where are you? In UK they might advise you to vbac (which I did) but they won't refuse you a planned c section. Especially after what happened I'm sure you won't meet any resistance. Try not to worry about it x

I was going to say as this.

So sorry for your loss

 

[Celesse]

I don't think you'll have any problem arranging a repeat c-section. Just go in, explain your reasons and I'm certain they will support you.

 

[skc22]

Oh I am so sorry for your loss. I think once you have had a c section you can always choose to have one on other births. They may push towards a vbac but the choice will always be yours. I hope it goes smoothly for you

 

[SRTBaby]

I doubt they will refuse you a c-section, i am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Amber100]

If you're in the UK once you've had one c section they can't refuse you another & I would imagine they'd be very sympathetic considering what happened last time.

 

[Abz1982]

they will not refuse it, but be prepared for them to at every occasion push you towards a vbac. This is what I had that resulted in another emergency c-section as I had an identical labour.

 

[AmandaSquire]

In some places it depends on the length of time, in most hopitals in FL it's 5 years for a VBAC some will NOT do a VBAC at all..
Good Luck!! Hope everything goes the way you want it too! Prayers!!

 

[happigail]

My heart hurts for you. I had a section first time and no one has pushed me to have a vbac. Xx

 

[DaisyMai]

My thoughts are with you hun..
Please don't let your worries stop you from enjoying your presgnancy.At the end of the day it is your decision as to how you labour.
I had a section with my first son due to him been breech and small.I really didn't feel happy going for a vbac with my second and so told them that a section was what I wanted.They never tried to persuade me otherwise.I did have the odd midwife ask `why` but that was all.

Just stick to your guns and I'm sure they will support you whatever.
Take care x

 

[littlesteph]

Sorry for your lost.
yes you can ask to have another C-section, but they might advise a vbac.
they can't force you into anything you don't want to do.
If you explain to them everything about how you feel about a vbac they may go for it.
if you did have another section, they like to do it as close to your due date as possible.
I had an emcs with son due to fetal distress and failure to get pass 2cm after 14 hours into my induction. I feel pregnant again pretty quick after, I explained to my consultant that the whole idea of vbac scared me because a vaginal birth was something I hadn't had before and because of the close age gap. I have my section booked for a week before my due date.

 

[SRTBaby]

In Canada it would be you choice, i told my doctor i wanted c-section and he did not question it. With your case being high risk i would think they would recommend c-section.

 

[Alpinestars]

Firstly so sorry for your loss
We lost our 3rd child due to cot death in 2005. Obviously with cot death there was no explanation, but the PM report did state scaring on the lungs due to apnea at birth. He was born naturally, but although he was my 3rd natural delivery he took a long time to be born and I could feel the concern in the local MW led unit, he eventually was born with his hand on his head. Yes, it may not be relevant and had he have lived I might be non the wiser. But unfortunately that wasn't the case and mothers instincts, who knows, but something didn't sit right.
Anyway, we were blessed with a DD 12 months later. My BFP was four months after the loss of our DS, and we decided to have ANC at the larger consultant led hospital. We were really looked after (and have been since) and I had a. Named MW whom I saw each appt. this stopped awkward questions and going through our history each time. I knew from the start I wanted a CS and the consultant didn't hesitate to agree. The MW did suggest trying natural a few times, but I not pushy, and I knew I needed the experience to be different and somehow controlled that time.
I have have no regrets opting for the CS and it was a very special positive experience. I'm now heading towards my 4th CS end of March (a huge surprise BFP!) and each time has been very positive.
Hth
X

 

[Mommyagain]

So sorry for your loss. I agree with the others that as long as you stick to your guns of desiring a repeat C-section they will honor your wishes. I had an emergency C-section the first time around and my doctor prefers I have a repeat C-section. I am truly so sorry for what you have been through and the loss of your sweet child.

 

[jenmcn1]

Hi

i had horrible birth ,nealry 2 days in agony , i was not progressing at all, baby was nearly dying ( his heart rate went to 40 nearly 5 times ) and ended up with Emergency C-section.
My son died 3.5 months after due to the brain damage but it was never proven that a diffucult labour caused it.
Well , i always believed it that it did!!

Now i am pregnat , nearly 15 weeks and i really dont want V Birth just in case it happens again.
My pregnancy is already high risk as i had some bleeding etc so do you think i could request C- section without any problems?
I am so so worries they will say no
What can i do or who do i have to see to ensure i will be booked for one near my due date
Thank you

First of all I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. No parent should have to go through this. I hope you find peace and comfort of hope during this pregnancy. Now with regards to the csection or vaginal birth, I think it should be up to you. Have you spoken with your doctor about this yet? If not, I would do this. If the doctor doesn't respect your concerns, get a second opinion. That being said, first time pregnancies/births are much different than the first time around. It can be quicker, and easier since your body has already done this. At the end of the day though, you should choose what your comfortable with. If it were me, I would say csection. Bless you on this journey of continued healing for your loss.