Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[nickielg]

Hello ladies. I'm so sorry for all of your losses.

I just found yesterday that I lost this pregnancy. I was 9w6d and baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks and passed on. This is only my first miscarriage, but second loss, I had a stillbirth with my first pregnancy at 24 weeks. So no living children for DH and I.

I go for my D&C tomorrow. I know after my loss the first time they did a lot of testing of blood and everything came back negative. They never tested the placenta like they said and couldn't get anything from baby.

I switched doctors for this pregnancy and the NP I saw is determined to find out what's going wrong. I honestly feel it could be as simple as the meds I am on. I have high blood pressure and they put me on labetalol last pregnancy at 18 weeks, baby girl stopped growing at 20 weeks. This time was put on a higher dose at 6 weeks and baby stopped growing about a week later. Could be coincidence but seems odd to me.

Sorry for the long post, thank you for listening.

 

[blueblue]

Nicki - I'm so sorry for your losses . I hope you get some answers, I'm glad your doctor is determined to find the cause.

 

[Squig34]

Sorry to hear of your losses Nicki. Hope your d&c today went ok.

I lost my son in February at 21 weeks due to iugr, waiting on results back to try to find the cause. Prior to that I had 5 first tri losses. So I know it's really hard. I hope they can give you some answers

 

[garfie]

Wow this thread moves fast - sadly more and more new faces

Nicki - Sorry for your losses - all mine have been early losses (so no help I'm afraid) just sending hope your d&c went okay

AFM - Just waiting for this cycle to be over - so we can try again (had the procedure this month) drastic drop this morning in temps so hopefully won't be to much longer

Love to everyone



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[dairymomma]

Garfie-trying to remember. Did you mention what you were having done? Was it nk cell testing? Sorry, my brain is deep-fried at the moment (or so it feels).

AFM-had a bit of a wobbly day yesterday but in a good way I think. Felt very freeing and healing to have a tear or two and just let myself 'feel'. It was almost like I was letting my sadness go from me. I dunno how else to explain it.

 

[2kidsplusttc3]

Having a very hard night. Did anyone else that lost a baby around 19 weeks end up getting pictures? I was allowed to take pictures. It hasn't been easy. I am,just sad. Trying to stay strong

 

[Squig34]

Yes 2kids, i lost my little boy around 21 weeks but he wasn't that big, only the size of a 16 -weeker. We took loads of pics, including ones of all 3 of us together, & I'm so glad to have them. It IS hard.

 

[sportysgirl]

2 Kids so sorry for your loss.
I lost our daughter at 19 weeks and we had pictures. They are a great comfort to me.
How long ago was your loss?

 

[nickielg]

Thank you all for your kind words. I had my D&C Friday, and I feel a little bit more closure. Not as sad with my loss at 24 weeks, but still pretty sad. The doc that operated on me told my DH that he had a bunch of losses before going on to have 3 wonderful kids, its nice to know that even the doctors have a hard time.

I'm sorry for your loss 2kids, I took pics of our daughter, she was only measuring at 17 weeks. Its a great comfort to have those. Kinda wished I was able to see my little bean after the D&C but I think it would have made it harder.

 

[2kidsplusttc3]

Yes 2kids, i lost my little boy around 21 weeks but he wasn't that big, only the size of a 16 -weeker. We took loads of pics, including ones of all 3 of us together, & I'm so glad to have them. It IS hard.

thanks. I just have been trying so hard to stay strong. and I keep losing it and crying at random times.

2 Kids so sorry for your loss.
I lost our daughter at 19 weeks and we had pictures. They are a great comfort to me.
How long ago was your loss?

I lost my son Lukas at 19 weeks on march 4th. so last month. it has been really difficult.

Thank you all for your kind words. I had my D&C Friday, and I feel a little bit more closure. Not as sad with my loss at 24 weeks, but still pretty sad. The doc that operated on me told my DH that he had a bunch of losses before going on to have 3 wonderful kids, its nice to know that even the doctors have a hard time.

I'm sorry for your loss 2kids, I took pics of our daughter, she was only measuring at 17 weeks. Its a great comfort to have those. Kinda wished I was able to see my little bean after the D&C but I think it would have made it harder.

big hugs. I am sorry for your loss. it is definitely really hard.

 

[Squig34]

2kids, it's only been 6 weeks. You need to let yourself grieve. It's normal. Don't be hard on yourself & feel like you have to be strong, cos right now you don't. Little Lukas' loss is a huge blow to you. You're his mum after all. You will eventually feel more able to face normal life again, but let yourself cry when you need to.

 

[NDH]

So I had heaps of bloods taken on Monday for various testing (not sure exactly what - I had requested thyroid function and thyroid antibodies and mthfr but the Dr didn't even know what mthfr was and couldn't find it in the book she looked in so I know she didn't request that one...). Anyway she said if nothing came up abnormal I wouldn't hear anything back. I got a call today that my test results are in and I need to make a "non urgent appointment" with the Dr in the next 3-4 weeks. Soonest I can get in because its non urgent is the 28th. Meanwhile I'm going crazy wondering what it is.

Based on what my naturopath said and and some reading I've been doing I won't be surprised by a Hashimotos diagnosis. I almost certainly am hypothyriod based on my symptoms and I strongly suspect an autoimmune response. I guess I'll know Tuesday if I'm right.

 

[NDH]

Shoot shoot shoot I'm pregnant again. This is the ONLY month in 6+years I've NOT wanted to get pregnant. We only DTD on CD 5 which should have been fine as I ovulate between CD 13 and 15 but apparently not as I'm only CD22 today and have very noticeable lines on my tests, which I only took because of weird brown spotting I thought was AF coming super early but then nothing happened so I wanted to rule out IB.
And now I have almost black spotting. It's a mind game I tell you.

I get my blood test results tomorrow so will mention to the Dr that I got a positive pregnancy test even though I wasn't trying and see what she suggests.

 

[dairymomma]

NDH-Every time DH and I try NOT to get pg, I get pg even faster and against even bigger odds so I know exactly how you feel. We're currently on a sex ban because it's the ONLY way we know of that will prevent any and all pregnancy until my 3 month waiting period is up. Not fun but it's the only way to be 100% certain I don't get pg. But FX this is your rainbow! (and I'll mention here that all three of my kids were conceived when we weren't supposed to get pg/weren't ttc.)

 

[NDH]

The good news is my test results all came back clear (though the Dr didn't actually test for thyroid antibodies as I requested, but since my thyroid function is normal I'm not overly concerned at this stage - will get follow up testing in a month. And as I was already aware didn't test for mthfr mutations as she didn't know what that was)

The bad news is the brown spotting I had for 2 days prior to my bfp hasn't eased and this morning turned to red bleeding. I'm still testing 3x a day though and the latest test was by far the darkest yet. So it could go either way and I'm just being patient for now. I can't get to the Dr for betas til probably Friday.

 

[Blu10]

Hi Ladies. Hope someone can help. I had a mc in 2010 then conceived DS 3 months later - he is now 4. I had another loss in Feb this year and discovered I was pregnant again on 16th April and think im approx 6weeks. I had old brown watery blood today and internal showed a closed cervix and scan showed a 4week sac with what looks like the start of a fetal pole (1mm). Bleeding has now stopped again but Im prepared for another loss.
I suppose i wonder if anyone has a success story where the pregnancy was viable under similar circumstances and if not do you think i could push for testing given ive had 3 losses even though one was prior to DS? Thank you x

 

[Hope39]

Blu you can try and push for testing but some trusts say you have to have 3 consecutive losses . they may argue you don't have an issue because of your son x

Totally crap but please push, they may say yes xx

 

[dairymomma]

I agree with Hope. Push for testing. Just because you've had one successful pregnancy doesn't mean there isn't another issue.

 

[Blu10]

Thanks Ladies, i read a few months ago that the chance of recurrent losses is greater after a boy and its something to do with testosterone. Im so fed up now, just want to give DS a sibling x

 

[Hope39]

Ive never heard of that Blu

1 miscarriage is quite common which may explain your first loss, you could have then developed an issue after your son was born which would explain your next two losses. Auto immune diseases can develop at any time and so can the elevation of your nk cells so it really could be anything, its a minefield out there.

I had 6 losses before we figured everything out, some tests i had to do privately (well only the infection testing) but i had to get a referal after my 6th loss to a different consultant to get the nk cell diagnosis x