I really appreciate both of you sharing your experiences. As you can tell I am extremely anxious surrounding feeding and am desperately trying not to be. But when the doctors tell me he needs this many oz in a day to grow sufficiently and each day we don't hit that I get so upset. But like I say his volume and weight are slowly creeping up in line with both new milk and an increase in omeprazole. He can't do big amounts in one go, 4oz is a great feed for him. We average about 3oz a bottle now, but that's great, I remember when it was a massive battle to even get him to take an oz. Our poor babies.
Myra you're so right, everyone thinks the newborn phase is wonderful but I feel like ours was so anxious and stressful. Firstly the Nicu journey, then he went in for surgery and it's this that we think was the start of his awful reflux. Hours of screaming, and vomiting acid and blood, I'll never forget it
My reassurance is that he'll never remember it, it's just us that have the trauma to deal with! I'll look into that book, thank you. My son has always been ok at nappy change time although we obviously have to wait a while after feeds. But he isn't regular and the milk he's on gives him horrible wind. It sounds so tough, your poor baby.
Linny I'm glad you have some clear answers and know what you need to aim for consistency wise. Thank you for all the advice, I can see stodgy purees like sweet potato, carrot, parsnip etc becoming my best friend. My son never gags so much but a friend has a daughter also with a genetic disorder and what you describe sounds very similar to what she experienced. It sounds horrific. She is still a fussy eater at nearly 2 but now weaned hasn't had an episode for a long while. So scary :'(
I think I need to try and chill, not have any pre conceived ideas and take it as it comes. We're lucky that we have support from the community Nicu team and I am free to call whenever. So next step dietician and then neonatologist following up 10th Feb. I just want my boy to chunk up a little, hate the gasps when people ask me his age. Going to start lying and then when they comment at how he's smiling, chatting, alert, strong etc I'll just say he's really advanced!