also i think its unfair that people say there is problems in the relationship and u need counciling!! i mean seriously!?
OP wants marriage and does not think there is a problem with their sex life. OP's boyfriend does not want marriage until the problems in their relationship (ie. sex life) are addressed. If someone thinks her desire to have marriage and children is important (which it is) and that his desire to address what HE perceives to be a relationship problem (sex) is *not* important, then I would caution about being unrealistic. Does his opinion on a serious issue not matter? Problems in relationships, such as sex, can and will destroy a marriage. Sex is not a low priority issue for men like it can be for some women.
Bottom line - a man isn't going to marry or commit to a woman just because she wants marriage and children. He will marry and commit to a woman because he feels that she loves him, respects his needs, listens to what he feels is a problem and works towards fixing them, and cares for him as a person. No man wishes to feel like a side dish in his own family. He has plainly said that this is a problem to him and downplaying the importance is only going to make things worse.
I don't think it unimportant, my sex drive jus isn't as high as his, also, the beginning of our relationship was long distance, we only saw each other every 2-3 weeks so were cramming 2 wks worth o sex into 2 days, to the point where I cudn't sit down (Sorry Again TMI). I think thats totally impossible to maintain.
Prob gonna be more TMI here again, but there are times when i'll blatantly say "not tonight dear", and other times I'll make the effort even if i'm not in the mood and when I have AF, I'll do other things, if u know wat I mean. I think I'm very accommodationg in this respect, so much so that OH had the cheek to say to me a few wks ago (when we were arguing and when I had my AF) that I hadn't even "serviced him". As if I would want to try and appease him when he does nothing to make me happy?
At this moment in time I'm beginning to hark back to the good old days when there was no sex before marriage, then u really had to be committed before you got the goods. lol