BabyMaybe917
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Background: DH and I have been fostering our niece (4) and nephew (7) since April of this year, kids were removed from my sisters home in February. They stayed with my aunt for 2 months until our home was approved, it was across state lines so it was a mess to navigate but we did it! So now we are approaching the next court hearing which is the end of this month. The hearing is for termination of maternal rights to both children and paternal rights of our niece as well. They have different fathers. We are 99.9% sure termination will be ruled by the judge as he's been ready to rule on this for a while. The kids haven't seen their mom since March or talked on the phone even since May. They don't ask about her at all and only on rare occasion do they tell a story of their past including her. They are truly happy and have adjusted amazingly well. Our plan is to adopt our niece because both rights will be terminated. However, the father of our nephew wants to maintain visitation rights so we will do a Guardianship most likely. So, he will live in our home go to school in our district etc, etc. but he will still have so many weekends and holidays with his dad.
Anyone else been in a similar situation. I'm nervous/scared as we don't have kids of our own (yet). We are fully committed but the scariest part is the waiting for this to happen and figuring out how to co-parent with someone I barely know. And our newest curveball... we're expecting twins!
Our family, the children's caseworkers, all attorneys involved on the kids side are on board with our plans and we shouldn't have any bumps once the next court hearing passes. But through all of this I've learned that there are far more bumps in the road than you can navigate sometimes!
Also wanting advice on how to handle telling the kids we're expecting because we haven't yet since I am so early... and also how on earth do we tell them they won't be with their mom again. Such a tough situation.
Anyone else been in a similar situation. I'm nervous/scared as we don't have kids of our own (yet). We are fully committed but the scariest part is the waiting for this to happen and figuring out how to co-parent with someone I barely know. And our newest curveball... we're expecting twins!
Our family, the children's caseworkers, all attorneys involved on the kids side are on board with our plans and we shouldn't have any bumps once the next court hearing passes. But through all of this I've learned that there are far more bumps in the road than you can navigate sometimes!
Also wanting advice on how to handle telling the kids we're expecting because we haven't yet since I am so early... and also how on earth do we tell them they won't be with their mom again. Such a tough situation.