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im sorry to hear about this, its difficult to give advice because you need to do what is right for you and your oh, but you both want a baby and you will both love that baby so it seems to me that is a good reason to have one. yes you might get postnatal depression but also you might not and even if you do there is lots they can do to help you. remember you will be well monitered and they will do everything that they can to help you. good luck xxx
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Oh sweetie 
I dont think it would be selfish, and I dont think you should never ttc. Other people with bipolar must of had babies, so I dont see why you cant.
I just googled trying to conceive with bipolar, and there is lots of forums for support and advice, but the thing I would really suggest is talking to your doctor, and perhaps getting referred to an obstetrician who specialises in mental health during pregnancy.
I dont think it would be selfish, and I dont think you should never ttc. Other people with bipolar must of had babies, so I dont see why you cant. I just googled trying to conceive with bipolar, and there is lots of forums for support and advice, but the thing I would really suggest is talking to your doctor, and perhaps getting referred to an obstetrician who specialises in mental health during pregnancy.
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Hey hun!
I don't think that you should let this get in the way of what you and your partner would want. Now that you know what the situation is, I think you will have all the support that you need to help you through a pregnancy and parenthood.
Your doctor will now be aware and be able to inform you and your partner / family or symptoms that you may develop due to your situation, and you and your family will be able to keep an eye out for these, and be able to act on them immediately if they did arise.
The fact that you are concerned about bringing a child into your situation only goes to prove how much you care about your future family! I think with the support available you would make fantastic parents!!!
Good Luck, and all the best of luck with your journey!
I don't think that you should let this get in the way of what you and your partner would want. Now that you know what the situation is, I think you will have all the support that you need to help you through a pregnancy and parenthood.
Your doctor will now be aware and be able to inform you and your partner / family or symptoms that you may develop due to your situation, and you and your family will be able to keep an eye out for these, and be able to act on them immediately if they did arise.
The fact that you are concerned about bringing a child into your situation only goes to prove how much you care about your future family! I think with the support available you would make fantastic parents!!!
Good Luck, and all the best of luck with your journey!
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You need to do what feels right for you - I'm sure you would love the child (and it would love you) regardless.
Does sound like you'd need to sort the meds out but it seems perfectly possible to have healthy babies in your condition, just look at Kerry Katona - she's got bipolar (I think) and has 4 healthy kids (if you're not in the UK and haven't heard of her she used to be in a girl pop group years ago, then married someone from a boy band, had 2 kids with him, got divorced, married someone else and had 2 more kids with him)
Post natal depression can happen to anyone, at least if you are on high alert for it, OH can be ready to give you all the love and support you need.
Does sound like you'd need to sort the meds out but it seems perfectly possible to have healthy babies in your condition, just look at Kerry Katona - she's got bipolar (I think) and has 4 healthy kids (if you're not in the UK and haven't heard of her she used to be in a girl pop group years ago, then married someone from a boy band, had 2 kids with him, got divorced, married someone else and had 2 more kids with him)
Post natal depression can happen to anyone, at least if you are on high alert for it, OH can be ready to give you all the love and support you need.
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what treatment will make them abnormal? The medication?? I am bipolar (been diagnosed for 6 yrs) I am currently pregnant. I dont take my medication while pregnant I always come off it for the sake of the baby. However I attend weekly sessions with my therapist woman who keeps an eye on me etc. It is hard but it is manageable.
People who are not bipolar sometimes get the post natal depression. People with bipolar dont aleays get it. I had it yes with my 1st baby but the mental health team were out and looked after me etc. I did NOT have it after my 2nd child. I was absolutely fine.
Having bipolar has not put me off having children at all. It can be managed well with and without medication if you have the right support network
People who are not bipolar sometimes get the post natal depression. People with bipolar dont aleays get it. I had it yes with my 1st baby but the mental health team were out and looked after me etc. I did NOT have it after my 2nd child. I was absolutely fine.
Having bipolar has not put me off having children at all. It can be managed well with and without medication if you have the right support network
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thanks 
yeah i know! The breast feeding issue is a bummer.. I am hoping not to have to go back on the meds until long after the birth etc... if need be.
Theres loads of options out there for support networks... the fact that you have your OH there too is a big help... Sometimes OHs tend to go flakey with bipolar.. its kinda hard for then to understand etc... I have been this way all my life and being with my OH 10 yrs there have been times when things have gone total tits up etc...but they got back to being ok
good luck with sorting out all your meds etc... its a trying time esp if they try you on loads of diff meds. It is hard finding a combination that suits the person too...but you will get there
yeah i know! The breast feeding issue is a bummer.. I am hoping not to have to go back on the meds until long after the birth etc... if need be.Theres loads of options out there for support networks... the fact that you have your OH there too is a big help... Sometimes OHs tend to go flakey with bipolar.. its kinda hard for then to understand etc... I have been this way all my life and being with my OH 10 yrs there have been times when things have gone total tits up etc...but they got back to being ok
good luck with sorting out all your meds etc... its a trying time esp if they try you on loads of diff meds. It is hard finding a combination that suits the person too...but you will get there
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Hi. First of all that was an incredibly brave post to put up, and it does show how important this is to you and that you would be a great mum.
My advise would be to hold off until you are married (bit old fashioned I know), but it will give you a chance to get used to the diagnosis, your medication and perhaps get a counsellor you trust so you have alternatives to the medication.
Do your research well to understand the true risks to you and your baby. Talk to your doctor and find those forums to see what it has meant to and for others.
Build up a support network of friends and family. Will you have someone to look after the baby if you need a break or a chance to regroup?
Have a plan incase you are unlucky enough to get PPD (as people have said, there's no guarentee you will).
I think if you focus on stability (home, relationship, support, health) and being prepared (forums, doctor, research, plans), there is no reason why you can't be a mum. And think how precious your child(ren) will feel knowing what mum and dad did just to prepare for TTC!
My advise would be to hold off until you are married (bit old fashioned I know), but it will give you a chance to get used to the diagnosis, your medication and perhaps get a counsellor you trust so you have alternatives to the medication.
Do your research well to understand the true risks to you and your baby. Talk to your doctor and find those forums to see what it has meant to and for others.
Build up a support network of friends and family. Will you have someone to look after the baby if you need a break or a chance to regroup?
Have a plan incase you are unlucky enough to get PPD (as people have said, there's no guarentee you will).
I think if you focus on stability (home, relationship, support, health) and being prepared (forums, doctor, research, plans), there is no reason why you can't be a mum. And think how precious your child(ren) will feel knowing what mum and dad did just to prepare for TTC!
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hey chick,
Didn't want to read and run so thought I would drop in and say hello.
Firstly there are ways to have babies and cope with your bi-polar aswell. I know lots of women with depression who switch medication when ttc and are preggers and although in your situation it may be more complex with the full backing of the mental health multi disiplinary team you should do fabby!! Also breast may be best but I for one had a breast reduction and uplift so won't be able to breast feed - Do I feel guilty - a little of course...but...breast feeding isn't the bee all and end all of raising a healthy happy child.
Good luck to you hunny sending baby dust to you and you OH.
Didn't want to read and run so thought I would drop in and say hello.
Firstly there are ways to have babies and cope with your bi-polar aswell. I know lots of women with depression who switch medication when ttc and are preggers and although in your situation it may be more complex with the full backing of the mental health multi disiplinary team you should do fabby!! Also breast may be best but I for one had a breast reduction and uplift so won't be able to breast feed - Do I feel guilty - a little of course...but...breast feeding isn't the bee all and end all of raising a healthy happy child.
Good luck to you hunny sending baby dust to you and you OH.
