girls i have to vent!
i hope no one takes offense to this!
i know a lot of women think that telling me their stories of how they can relate to my husband being gone is going to make me feel better because it really doesn't! i'm sorry but your husband being gone 3 months and back for almost a month and then leaving again just does nothing for me. i wish i had that with my husband! i've been with him 5 months (TOTAL) since our marriage in 2008. by the time 2011 rolls around we have been together just over 2 years and just over 5 months total. in training i would go 2 or 3 months not seeing him and then see him for a WEEKEND. but keep this in mind, i was in training so i didn't get to spend the night with him. i was only released when my sergeant released me. and i had to be back at a certain time. it wasn't even a visit! when i got to go home for four days in a month to see him, two of the days were flying! it's just so hard for people to try and relate when they aren't in the same shoes as me. i know it's all out of good fath, i do, but it aggravates me!
best way i found to describe it
Things Not to Say to a Military Spouse Or Girlfriend..
"My husband had to go to Europe for business once for three weeks. I totally know what you're going through."
(This one is similar to number two. Do not equate your husband's three week trip to London/Omaha/Tokyo/etc. with a 12-15 month or more deployment to a war zone. Aside from the obvious time difference, nobody shot at your husband or tried to blow him up with an I.E.D., your husband could call home pretty much any time he wanted to, he flew comfortably on a commercial plane, slept between crisp white sheets and ate well, paying for everything with an expense account. There is no comparison. We do not feel bonded to you in the slightest because of this comment and, if anything, we probably resent you a bit for it. Comparing a 12 month combat deployment to a few weeks business trip is like comparing a ****** ford taurus with mercedes convertible.)

for you all for listening and hoping no one takes offense. TNT i know you understand this. i just had to get it out!