Revealing the name...How and when?

[JumpingIn]

We're definitely set on our name, but I know people don't normally tell this soon and we've been talking about when and how we should. We're a bit concerned as all the children in the family have ultra traditional names like Richard, Benjamin etc, and although we haven't chosen a wild name, we've strayed a little from the family norm. We also haven't included any family names and our names don't have particularly special meaning to us other than they're the ones we want

How and when are you telling/did you tell? Any advice from those who already have children?

 

[ellahopesky]

we've always told once we've decided during pregnancy, which cues all the opinions and hatred, some likes too i admit. my advice, which i will follow myself this time around, is that if you are set on the name then keep it secret from your close family etc until the birth announcement... and ask all negative opinions to be kept to themselves! it causes untold stress believe me!! xxx

 

[steph.]

I agree with the above. I've always told during pregnancy, but I think this time I wont. People (especially family) think that before the baby is born they can tell you what they really think of the name, make fun of it, even laugh at it. My mum even told me on the phone when I called to ssy my waters had broken and I was heading to hospital to not call my dd Sienna and definitely not use the md Hope.

It's hard I think not to tell people, but if you don't wsnt to hear negative comments and alternate suggestions keep it quiet.

 

[HappyAnjeL]

Agree with the previous .. We Didn't end up naming DD until she was born because every time we mentioned a name people would make comments and throw me and DH off the names. Then we were pressured by my mom and mil to name her Abigail.. Although its a great name I kicked myself for using such a popular name (in our area) when we wanted something more unique.

 

[NicaQ]

We want to keep gender and name to ourselves until big enough to do maternity/gender reveal photos, but not sure we'll not accidentally let it slip if we ever do get pregnant

 

[venapols]

dont would be my advice

people are rude and nasty basically

I announced DS name right when he was born, he was a preemie and born as an emergancy + we both had complications it was the last thing I said before blacking out and having surgery - no one would of dared object after that and they all seem to love it as they thought it could be so much worse from our lack of discussing it with them

 

[NicaQ]

dont would be my advice

people are rude and nasty basically

I announced DS name right when he was born, he was a preemie and born as an emergancy + we both had complications it was the last thing I said before blacking out and having surgery - no one would of dared object after that and they all seem to love it as they thought it could be so much worse from our lack of discussing it with them

I'm so curious as to what you chose now! That's a pretty amazing story you'll be able to tell him

We made the mistake with our pregnancy to announce our name that we loved for a boy and got so many negative comments, it really hurt my feelings being hormonal and all, so just keeping it to ourselves. They already know it and I think waiting so long to announce it will let them know how serious we are about it. Plus, maybe when I'm huge and grouchy I'll just let them know exactly what I think of their opinion instead of being sad all by myself lol

 

[bucherwurm]

We are pretty set on our name and we are not planning on telling any one. One exception was telling my mom of a middle name choice, as it is based off my nana (her mom), as my nana is sick. She thought it was a good choice

 

[george83]

We've been team yellow both times so had boys and girls names picked out. With our first my oh wasn't there when I had the baby so I waited for him to get there before announcing. My stepson then chose his middle name so we waited for that. With ds2 we shared his name when we spoke to people after having him.

We didn't get any comments about people not liking the name etc or any "my dog is called that" comments which would have done my head in during pregnancy

 

[venapols]

@nica - we went with Jake but we also considered Aiden/Adrian or Billy too so non where 'out there' but people even have opinion on 'normal/common' names

I really quite liked Aiden but since looking at name sites it seems to always get put down, sometimes quite nastily

 

[Eleanor ace]

Wait until LO is here! Honestly I ave seen sooo many threads on here from people who have announced their LO's name during pregnancy only to be upset by peoples opinions on it, people seem to think they have a right to try and sway parents on a name choice before LO is here. Once LO is born most people wouldn't dare.

 

[Button#]

I have told people if they've asked, I did the same with DS as well. I've had one negative comment from an acquaintance but I don't really care what others think. All the other people I've told have liked it.

 

[LovemyBubx]

I'm def not telling! Especially because my mum says names I really don't like & any names I've mentioned 'just while thinking' she's made a joke of or laughed.

I'm pretty set on Caleb right now & I know she will hate it!

 

[Kirsty3051]

We announced our son's name when we found out that we were having a boy. Our families completely tore it apart, causing DH to change his mind. So instead of Lincoln, we now have a Leonardo. We didn't tell family members his new name until I'd given birth and by that point, they were more interested in meeting and holding him than they were his name.

 

[QueenQueso]

@nica - we went with Jake but we also considered Aiden/Adrian or Billy too so non where 'out there' but people even have opinion on 'normal/common' names

I really quite liked Aiden but since looking at name sites it seems to always get put down, sometimes quite nastily

I was strongly leaning towards Adrian for my first baby, but my relatives all hated it, especially my mom. When people would ask and I would say the name, my mom would always butt in and say something like 'but she's not really positive yet'. We ended up not using it because of the negativity.

My second, we were firmly decided on names so we announced the day of the gender scan. The only negative bits were my moms brother, who insists still on calling him 'Leon' instead, because the focus for most people was the middle name (which was the last name of DH's best friend who had died two years prior).

I'm undecided about this one yet. We're halfway to the gender scan and we only have a 'short list' of like fifty name combos, so I don't think we'll have it settled by the 20w scan this time, so you never know, we might leave it a mystery. It might even be a mystery to us. Lol.

 

[NicaQ]

@nica - we went with Jake but we also considered Aiden/Adrian or Billy too so non where 'out there' but people even have opinion on 'normal/common' names

I really quite liked Aiden but since looking at name sites it seems to always get put down, sometimes quite nastily

I love the name Adrian!

 

[Larkspur]

We told people from as soon as we decided, about 14 weeks for our son and 22 weeks for our daughter.

The names are not exactly conventional but either we have super-nice friends and family or everyone was too scared of us to say what they really thought, because we had nothing but nice comments.

I'm always shocked by comments on here though, I actually can't imagine anyone I know being openly rude or negative about a name for a baby, regardless of their private opinion on it.

 

[HappyAnjeL]

We've been team yellow both times so had boys and girls names picked out. With our first my oh wasn't there when I had the baby so I waited for him to get there before announcing. My stepson then chose his middle name so we waited for that. With ds2 we shared his name when we spoke to people after having him.

We didn't get any comments about people not liking the name etc or any "my dog is called that" comments which would have done my head in during pregnancy

I had a friend of mine tell me that Abigail/Abby was a dogs name (when we were "just thinking of names" bc her then boyfriends parents had a dog named Abby. Once she was born she smiled and exclaimed "Oh such a cute name" She must hace forgot she already told me she hated it

 

[MrsLemon]

I am not telling anyone the name we have picked for our baby boy, as I get upset and easily swayed

Its harder for people to say nasty to say about a baby`s name once the baby is born -well at least to my face, which is fine by me!!

 

[MrsKChicago]

I've only told a few close friends. DH has told all his coworkers. I'm really only worried about my mom having uninvited opinions, and I'd planned on not going public, but I'm afraid it'll come out at the shower now...

My friends have clearly been a little surprised by our middle name (Constantine), but nobody's been an ass about it, and at least one has come back later to say it really grew on her. I expected a little surprise because it's an unusual name, and his whole name will be pretty long.