Right thats is I'm done....

[louise85]

So last night I got sick of wondering whether FOB had recieved my text so I left him a pretty long message on facebook so at least I know he's got it. Nothing nasty, I think it was quite a calm message considering the circumstances.

Anyways now I'm done thats it no more contact, if he wants to come to the scan he can contact me, he knows when it is now.

I'm feeling a lot more positive today and he can do as he bloody well pleases, I'm just gonna sit back concentrate on me, daughter and bubs and see what happens!!

 

[lou_w34]

Oh yay!

Im glad your feeling better about it nows

No matter what happens youll still have your daughter and baby, and that will be more than worth it, if he decides he wants to miss out, then thats his loss, he'll be the only loser in this situation

x

 

[louise85]

I'm feeling so much better!!! Thanks for all your advice lou, its mainly cuz of your advice I'm feeling so much better

Like you say their the ones missing out on all the exciting stuff, it just angers me that they can swan in and out when they feel like it, but we have to deal with it constantly.

But if he doesn't come to scans and that well I'm sure he'll be the one regretting it one day!

We've all got so much to look forward to, stressing about them ain't gonna do anything but wind us up even more!!

Here's to happy healthy babies with or without the Fob

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Awww thats sweet , if only i could listen and take my own advice at times

Even though we have to deal with it now, they will be the ones who screw themselves over when their teenage/adult children come up to them and ask them why they didnt care, and personally i cant wait for that time to come! heehee

The best revenge is to not worry/stress about them!



xx

 

[louise85]

Yep, it will just wind them up if they realise actually the world doesn't revolve around them and what they want!!

Bugger them all, hopefully they will stand up to the mark, someday!! But maybe that someday will be too late, after all bubs ain't gonna miss what they've never had!

They'll be looked after and loved, that's all they need whether it's from one parent or two!



xx

 

[lou_w34]

Exactly, they have us, and they will also have our families and friends, More than enough love to go around! As long as that one good parent loves them, its all they will ever need

x

 

[xJG30]

Well done

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

He will regret it,But thats not your problem, its his and you will have your bubba Stuff him, It sounds like you have made more than enough effort. x

 

[louise85]

Yep I feel I've made more than enough effort, I've text him numerous times but was wondering oh has he got it, has he changed his number etc so just thought right I'll send him a msg on fb then I know he'll get it.

I woke up this morning and thought what the hell am I doing chasing round after him, he should WANT to be there I shouldn't even have to ask. So its his choice now.

I'm just gonna relax As we all should!
xx

 

[sweetlullaby]

It really sounds as though you've made more than enough effort

I wish I had the courage to do something like that...You sound so much more happier and at peace He will regret it...every little thing he's gonna miss out on you'll be able to treasure and you wont forget because you will be there for your daughter and LO.

As Lou has said ( her advice is really good!!) our LO's will have us and our families and friends who will be more than protective and will give them so much love and attention. They wont be missing out on any love Im actually getting slightly worried at how spoilt this LO is gonna be... I have two really close good friends that have been there for me since day one ...and the other night when one of them told me their "plan of action" for when i go into labour i completely welled up and cried like a baby because they care so much!

"Here's to happy healthy babies with or without the Fob" Absolutely love this Its such the right attitude to take and we shouldn't let them constantly worry us and swarm in and out when it pleases them. We're so much stronger than that!

Flip....think something in this thread has triggered something in me...lol maybe its just a better day and i feel stronger and have made up my mind on a lot of things! lol xx

 

[louise85]

Definately don't let them worry us! Why should we? It's not like they can't make decisions and choices for themselves, they are grown "men" and we shouldn't feel responsible or worried or stressed by their actions and foolishness!

And also if they don't want to be at the birth or whatever, lets just remember it wasn't all thart many years ago that men weren't even ALLOWED at the birth it was all a female thing, now what does that tell you??!!!

 

[lou_w34]

I just think its time we all put ourselves first. If we dont do it, noone will. Ive decided im no longer worrying about him or his opinions on things. If they cared they would ask us the questions, we shouldnt have to chase them up!

Ive got me and baby this far whithout his help, so i know we can all do it!

 

[louise85]

Exactly, they don't put us 1st, they put theirselves 1st and so should we! We have to stay positive, happy and stress free for our bubbas so they can go and bore off, while we concentrate on making sure everything is right and ready.

Then when we least expect it MAYBE they'll sort themselves out! Not holding my breath tho!!

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Haha me either!!

But to be honest, i prefer it this way now, im glad im going to be the one in control and making the decisions, so even if he does do a sudden u-turn, he will have to stick to my terms... or lump it.