Rough night...ugh

[sweetlullaby]

Im sorry Linzi but you're being extremly rude and patronising towards quite a few ladies on here. Im reporting this thread before things get anymore heated.

 

[AppleBlossom]

To be honest I think your attitude is terrible. This woman obviously has her own reasons for the child not seeing its father. Did you stop to think that maybe HE didn't want to be involved. I know for sure that I would in no circumstances want my child around or in the care of any man who was violent, abusive, drunk, on drugs, or as OP said, a psycho. That to me is more harmful than not having a father in your life. I agree in principle that if a man wants to try and be a dad to his child then one way or another he should be allowed. But there are certain circumstances where they are way past chances and do not deserve to be given one at all.

im not really bothered what you think of my attitude tbh..
i dont agree with that at all.. if a man has not harmed the child i dont think he should be kept away from him/her
even if its through a contact centre, under police supervision i stil think they deserve a chance.

If you say so. Reporting this too

 

[Linz88]

Enjoy

 

[Linz88]

you chose to carry on commenting when i told you not to if you dont like what im saying..dont blame me that your feelings obviously got hurt!! reporting me isnt going to change my views.

 

[sweetlullaby]

Oh seriously? You need to grow up

 

[Linz88]

point proven!!

 

[AppleBlossom]

you chose to carry on commenting when i told you not to if you dont like what im saying..dont blame me that your feelings obviously got hurt!! reporting me isnt going to change my views.

Yet you still carry on when you don't like what WE say? That's very hypocritical of you. The OP has explained why she is in the situation she is in, and I think it is completely fair to be honest. She didn't ask for you to start being nasty to other posters

 

[Vickie]

can we please get this thread back on track and answer the OP's question rather than taking shots at one another?

 

[Linz88]

im not being rude to her i understand what shes saying.. no one told you to butt in if you didnt i wouldnt have had any thing "RUDE" to say would i? exactly..
and what you say really doesnt bother me, its your opinion/conscience

 

[AppleBlossom]

Look love, I didn't BUTT in, I answered the OP's question just like you did. Anyway, end of conversation.

To OP, sorry your thread went a bit off track, I personally would ignore people that try and tell you what is best for your child. I assume your friend has no children? Or has a child but with a partner? There is nothing wrong with being a single mum so don't let them tell you otherwise. As long as your child is happy the that's all that matters

 

[Linz88]

can we please get this thread back on track and answer the OP's question rather than taking shots at one another?

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[missmisty4]

Look I started this post bc I was hurt by what my friend had said to me...and honestly Linz88 your not helping how I feel or making it any better I would really like it if you could please stop posting and move on to the next thread. You have obviously upset some ladies here and you are starting to get me upset. I wrote this bc I was being critisized and I feel like I still am and that is not the intention of this post. I agree with vickie, can we please get this back on track??

 

[missmisty4]

Look love, I didn't BUTT in, I answered the OP's question just like you did. Anyway, end of conversation.

To OP, sorry your thread went a bit off track, I personally would ignore people that try and tell you what is best for your child. I assume your friend has no children? Or has a child but with a partner? There is nothing wrong with being a single mum so don't let them tell you otherwise. As long as your child is happy the that's all that matters

No he has no children...He doesn't want children til he is in his late 30's! lol

 

[AppleBlossom]

Tbh hun, sometimes life just doesn't work out how we plan. We all think we will grow up, have a job, get married, have kids, a big house, car, holidays. But it rarely works like that. I accidentally got pregnant at 18, had to leave uni, then fob left me for a man and I have been a single mum ever since. Your friend, saying he doesn't want kids till he's older, is probably thinking his life will work out the way I said at the beginning, but he shouldn't shun people who's doesn't

 

[Linz88]

this is a forum, your not always going to get the opinions u want to hear (well read), im not trying to upset anybody, but if i am gettin attacked because of my views, i am going to defend my self wether anyone likes it or not..i actually understand your point of view NOW..! and like i sed im glad your considering contact if he gets help and if its supervised..and the topic did get back on track until you posted this

 

[missmisty4]

this is a forum, your not always going to get the opinions u want to hear (well read), im not trying to upset anybody, but if i am gettin attacked because of my choices i am going to defend my self wether anyone likes it or not..i actually understand your point of view NOW..! and like i sed im glad your considering contact if he gets help and if its supervised..and the topic did get back on track until you posted this

Im not saying Im always going to hear or read what I want...I totally understand that, however there are numerous ladies on here that are obviously upset by what you have said. I know that no one really knew my situation and I didn't expect anyone to...

 

[missmisty4]

Tbh hun, sometimes life just doesn't work out how we plan. We all think we will grow up, have a job, get married, have kids, a big house, car, holidays. But it rarely works like that. I accidentally got pregnant at 18, had to leave uni, then fob left me for a man and I have been a single mum ever since. Your friend, saying he doesn't want kids till he's older, is probably thinking his life will work out the way I said at the beginning, but he shouldn't shun people who's doesn't

Very true! I always thought of being happily married and all that "Disney fairy tale ending" stuff! ha Life happens and you just have to deal with it. This is what God has handed me and Im gonna do whats best for me and baby.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Tbh hun, sometimes life just doesn't work out how we plan. We all think we will grow up, have a job, get married, have kids, a big house, car, holidays. But it rarely works like that. I accidentally got pregnant at 18, had to leave uni, then fob left me for a man and I have been a single mum ever since. Your friend, saying he doesn't want kids till he's older, is probably thinking his life will work out the way I said at the beginning, but he shouldn't shun people who's doesn't

Very true! I always thought of being happily married and all that "Disney fairy tale ending" stuff! ha Life happens and you just have to deal with it. This is what God has handed me and Im gonna do whats best for me and baby.

Good for you hun

 

[Linz88]

i dont see why there upset, anything i say shouldnt phase them..not like they no me
my 1st post was to you and nobody else they chose to respond and defend there view, so i defended mine..

 

[missmisty4]

I understand that...whats done is done, whats said is said. Thank all of you for all your comments I really do appreciate them. Sorry this turned into a "fuss" haha not my intentions of this post